Are men incapable of treating women like human beings and you know vice versa?

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Adam_INTJ · Accepted Answer

Men DO treat women like human beings. Take your hubris down a peg.

We men have a stake in how to define what it is to treat someone like a human being. You don't have the authority to unilaterally determine what human treatment is.

Don't be so arrogant as to say that half of society's opinion about the definition of human treatment is invalid.

So your question actually is: "why don't men treat women the way that I would like women to be treated?"

So to answer your question, I'm going to presume some common men's behavior that you probably find objectionable, and explain the motivation behind them.

1. Constantly trying to get sex. Men have a stronger sex drive. There has been a huge rise of lonely, virgin guys why can't get sex, and are desperate. Don't project your own multitude of sexual options onto men. The bottom 10% of women (in terms of how many guys are chasing after them) have many more opportunities than the average guy.

2. Disregarding feelings. We generally aren't all that emotional. We are on average lower in a trait called agreeableness, which means that we aren't as concerned as women are with living in harmony with others and being liked.
Do you won't find too many guys lying awake at night wondering if their friends still like them. So we don't care about your personal struggles as much, because it's not as big a deal to us to have someone dislike us.

Just on a personality level, we find your emotional conversations about fallouts with your friends to be petty and making a mountain out of a molehill.

3. Not being a gentleman. The lack of affection from women can create feelings of bitterness toward them. Imagine if a relative or acquaintance hates you and actively ignores you. It's easy to develop I'll feelings toward them. You're not going to help them move or drive them to the airport.

Now you personally might be nice to guys, but when you, as a guy, have been given the cold shoulder from 90% of one gender for 25 years straight, it's hard to expect anything different.

In this respect they're doing the same thing as you: projecting their negative experiences with people of the opposite gender onto the opposite gender as a whole.

Also, if we treated you the same way that we treated our guy friends, we'd force conversations about sports and penis jokes.

Don't be cocky with your morality. See things from others' perspective.

Qdbrown · Accepted Answer

This is a funny issue.

Women wanted parity where they all get treated like men... You got it!

Women want respect for just showing up. Nope. You have to earn it now!

Women men, based on older ideas, that women are to be treated better. Nope, get with the times. You are just like us now. Get use to it.

Equality feels good!

Maybe they should really be asking, why don't men just respect each other and treat each better? Because if we do, we lose respect just giving it to anyone.

Men who force others to respect them go further in life than the idiots that think we are actually all equal.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

No, neither sex is incapable of treating the other like human beings.

Treating others well is almost always something other humans are capable of, and even psychopaths and sociopaths (whose mental condition makes it not as easy as others without those conditions) will find ways to treat others like humans for their own gain.

Men are capable of treating women like humans, and vice versa. Whether they exercise that capacity is another question.

Subarugirl · Accepted Answer

Men are perfectly capable of treating women like human beings, some simply choose not to.

globetrotter22 · Answer

There are bad and good men and women.

However it all comes down to how you treat the opposite gender when you are NOT attracted to them nor have any benefit of their association. From my observations women only treat men well only if their some sort of benefit in it from them (they already find them attractive, their rich, they make them laugh, etc.). But they look at all other men as dispensable less than human obstacles if they don’t. Women are much more likely to mistreat men they are not attracted to then vice versa. If they are treating them well (on the surface) it’s because they the guys offers “friéndzone”. And that again is selfish because she only wants the attention for her value.

Men on the other hand may not go out of their way for women they don’t find attractive. But we don’t try to use them for our ends.

BlueScorpio · Answer

No. I work with a lot of men who are very nice to me and even men in my family have been nice to me. Most encounters with men have been nice.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I treat all women with respect and like a human being after all a woman gave birth to me

TroyDT · Answer

Not sure if that is projection by a guy who treats women like sh*t or a complaint by a woman who repeatedly chooses sh*tty guys, but the answer is "No." Most men are perfectly capable of treating others well.

420Rachel · Answer

No, this isn't true. We either treat people like people or we're pieces of shit.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

In order for anyone, not just men, to treat anyone else as non-human, they would have to possess antisocial personality traits such as having a lack of or difficulty with connecting with others emotionally.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Everyone actually has their own ideas about what is decent and they should be treated. So Yes, but it won't always look the same.

Guy13 · Answer

It looks like you are whining about something given there is no context...

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Many of us do. The men that treat or view women as fuck boxes are just weak men who can't even control their urges.

cassanovva333 · Answer

If that is actually a legitimate question, I would definitely start being a little more selective on the guys you choose to date.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I treat people like people until you give me a reason to do otherwise.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know about you all but I  much rather  cuddle the girls and not call them "gold diggers" or "prostitutes".

grega239 · Answer

Im pretty sure we treat them better than we treat other men.

Fuentes · Answer

I see everyone as human but I rather fuck women and never talk to them again, then date them.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Not when we're acting like assholes, and there acting like bitches.

Smegskull · Answer

I have known some women who contribute and treated them like human beings... there is a vast sea of leaches out there though.

Anonymous · Answer

Women hate being treated like human beings.

TonightYouu · Answer

What do you mean by human beings? Women get treated like women

maximumpower · Answer

Not at all. Many members of both genders fail to do so, tho.

Anonymous · Answer

Not women that are incapable of acting like human beings. 🤣

Anonymous · Answer

Funny how we have regressed into identifying people as their race, or gender.

Apologies456 · Answer

I’m actually confused

Chthou95 · Answer

No you have to earn respect

Anonymous · Answer

How you treat other people is always a choice.

Anonymous · Answer

No, we are not.

AssholeNumberOne · Answer

Nope.

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