Is not having too much expectations a happy way to live?

[Vesuvius87]

For instance I'm not putting too much expectations on my 2nd relationship nor get too excited. What's meant to happen will happen. Good things happen when you're not even expecting it, when you don't even think about it.

If something doesn't happen then it probably wasn't ever meant to be. This can be apply to other areas in life too. Basically go on with your daily life, live in the moment and be happy with what you got in the present time.

[LazerBean]

Yes, sometimes good things randomly happen. But generally speaking good things mostly happen when you are making good choices and being smart about how you're living your life. So your life might be slightly less disappointing while you're half-assing it for the specific reason of trying to not be disappointed, but from an objective view your life mostly likely won't actually be any better and would probably be slightly worse.

[Thepumpkinhead]

Yeah that's exactly me. I never expect anything. I always tell my boyfriend too that he should never expect something to avoid getting sad in the end, like when his manager told him he will give him bonus money to buy a new phone, and then i told him not to expect a big amount of money because you might end up getting hurt. And then i was right, his manager sent just enough money for his phone

[roy_ricky09]

Nah... That explains your acceptance of defeat and and not doing what is required to be done.

[Mollynotgemma]

You’re expectations could be unrealistic so only you lose out! Don’t expect anything! Because what do you expect to happen? Expectations are built on false beliefs and what we deem to be what we expect. But what you expect is very different from someone else!

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Having no expectations means everything is a happy bonus.

But in a relationship, there's a difference between standards and expectations.

Always have standards.

[Vesuvius87]

Yes that's true. I have standards in my relationship such as being family oriented, obviously not cheating and having similar views towards commitment.
My mother is happy about our relationship but she goes overboard by already talking about plan if we get married, referring to his mother as my future MIL, etc. Too much. I know she's happy but she needs to chill too. Too much talk about it and it might not happen.

[Guy13]

Of others, yes

[Guy13]

I think it is good to have a high personal, not broadcasted, Standard.-the guys in jean overalls owns half the City”. People are fallen and I am fallen forgive quickly forget over short time 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Vesuvius87]

I've realized that if you put too much expectations and think about something too much, then it doesn't come true you get disappointed so badly. So put no expectations and you don't get disappointed.

[Guy13]

No fussy pot, worry wart, and overthinking takes lot of the edge off.

[Anonymous]

No, because it can lead to disappointment.

[Vesuvius87]

Why so? I thought it was the opposite. Lets you think about too much about getting promoted at work, you're too focused on that 24/7, then your boss calls you and it's to tell you someone else is getting promoted. Since you put too much expecations on that and had that in mind too much, then that's leads to disappointment.
But if you never thought about it then there is nothing to be disappointed about since you weren't expecting it. Then sometimes the good surprises come in life when you least expect it.

[Opinion Owner]

Expectations are often set way to high.

[Vesuvius87]

yes and that leads to disappointment. It's better to have little to no expectations than to have too much.