Is it wrong for me to expect some kind of happiness for myself?

[Anonymous]

my father died of cancer in 2016 i still can't over it

my mom is not in greet health

i hate my job in the summer i;m working 60 hours a week i was talking to my boss about that today he said i could only work 40 hours if i wanted to next summer not sure if i belive him.

[PrettyPriya]

No, it isn't wrong at all to expect happiness. Everyone should expect that. The problem is whether we get it or not. A lot of that will be on you. You sound like you are going through a really rough time.

I don't blame you for feeling down at all. My mom went through cancer treatment. Luckily, she made it through and things are good. I am sorry to hear your dad passed. Getting over losing a family member is not easy, no matter how much time has passed.

If you are still struggling, you may want to consider professional counseling. There is no shame in seeking help.

As for the job, if you don't believe your boss is going to keep his word, ask him to put it in writing that you will have a reduced workload next summer. If he can't so that, you are likely right that he will not keep his word. Best of luck to you and I hope you find some happiness in something.

[Guy13]

It sounds like you are avoiding the grieving process and it is finally affecting everything else. Have you spent time with a counselor. Loss of a Dad or immediate family member, at ant age, is a difficult event. It never goes away but there's no healing until I took 6 months with psychologist and used some life reconstruction strategies. Go to a professional

[In_Trance]

It is if you're not working towards happiness. It's all on you

[Asker]

what would someone due to work towards it

[In_Trance]

you have to decide what will make you happy first

[molonski2]

Piece by piece I would think , you are working hard and I assume being paid for all those hours , of course it's not wrong to expect happiness , so work constructively towards that goal , initially keep expectations low.

[Anonymous]

Their is absolutely nothing wrong with that.