Does everyone experience it?

[Lexina]

I quite often feel lonely😭

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Loneliness is a good thing!
Use it to fuel your passion and distract yourself from the pain. You'll find you become quite productive and closer to your goals than ever.
Then once your goals are being achieved and you finally feel a sense of purpose and meaning, you'll suddenly notice the loneliness start to dissipate.
As a bonus, you might even attract a wonderful person into your life because of how awesome you are now

[WanderingLoveWizard]

The world's greatest innovators weren't rolling in pussy. I'll tell you that much. That came after their success

[WanderingLoveWizard]

But the fact that so many people will ignore this or write it off as bullshit is exactly why so few people do great things. They'd rather be miserable and feel sorry for themselves

[Lexina]

Thanks bro
Means a lot to me

[Iron_Man]

Yes, people do

[Lexina]

I feel like I'm drowning, feel so lonely. Usually I end up crying myself to sleep

[Iron_Man]

I’m so sorry. Is there something troubling you?

[Lexina]

Nothing really

[Iron_Man]

Oh I see

[Iron_Man]

Good

[Lexina]

So it was just my brother and I, no friends.. and quite recently, he doesn't even give me any attention, he been lying to me a lot. It's all about his flings and new friends now

[Iron_Man]

Just try to work things out with your brother

[Iron_Man]

He’s your family

[Lexina]

Settling it with him appears I'm jealous but yeah he's giving all my time away

[Iron_Man]

Why are you jealous? Just go places with him

[Iron_Man]

If he goes out with friends, he can take you with him

[Lexina]

Right now he's out with one of them and I can't even sleep, I'm here crying, and I can't breathe well

[Lexina]

With his flings and you want me to tag along?

[Iron_Man]

I told you what to do. When me and my brother would go out with friends we always included each other in our activities.

[Lexina]

He's always been my closest friend but I think it's time I cut him off probably for own sanity and since he's got a lot of people, he can have fun with them

[Iron_Man]

What flings

[Iron_Man]

That’s ridiculous family is important don’t you live together

[Lexina]

Flings... like girls

[Iron_Man]

He doesn’t have to look for a bunch of sexual partners that’s not good he can do things with his sister

[Lexina]

We live together but he has been spending more time with them now, almost all his time

[Iron_Man]

Tell him your true feelings, tell him to give you time

[Lexina]

He doesn't even give me time for me to talk to him now

[Lexina]

I complained about our hugs this morning and he got the whole idea wrongly

[Iron_Man]

He hast to when he comes home. Talk to him when you wake up. Talk to him there is 24 hours in a day no excuses.

[Lexina]

It's fine, I might just cut this off

[Lexina]

I don't think I can do it any longer

[Iron_Man]

Go to family counseling

[Lexina]

There's nothing as such in my country

[Iron_Man]

Work it out with your brother

[Lexina]

I've tried and it seems currently I'm the only one putting in efforts

[Lexina]

It just makes me overthink

[Iron_Man]

What about your parents? Can’t they talk to him?

[Iron_Man]

Do you guys work?

[Lexina]

He does, I don't
No I can't talk to my parents

[Iron_Man]

Talk to your brother

[Lexina]

He's not back

[Iron_Man]

When he gets home, talk to him very seriously but be kind

[Lexina]

I hope he listens and doesn't say he's tired so later

[Iron_Man]

He can’t be tired every day

[Iron_Man]

Thanks for most helpful Award

[ShesRad80]

yes some more then others, watch some of your favorite movies or tv shows, and talk to people on here. keep your mind engaged pr preoccupied, that def helps

[Lexina]

Thanks a lot

By the way, I ain't got any favorite movies

[ShesRad80]

hmm how about music?

[Lexina]

Really lost interest in it

[ShesRad80]

how about answer questions on here then? just keeping you around people even though we are all online we are here with you

[Lexina]

I spend most of my day here reading and replying

[ShesRad80]

thats good though, what about hobbies what interests you?

[Lexina]

I used to read a lot and listen to music but I fell into depression and I don't enjoy them any longer

[ShesRad80]

i figured you were, how about putting yourself on a routine, like maybe take a walk in the morning if you can, then come on here, then do some of those things you once loved? did something happen that put you in a depression? something bad or sad etc?

[Lexina]

My mum got sick, my dad left

[Lexina]

Before that, my dad wasn't emotionally and socially present

[ShesRad80]

im sorry you are going through this. i lost my parents back to back passed away so in one respect i been where you are you just dont care about anything. i started to build my own stability and it was not easy. little things i had just got back to normal when i almost got killed in a car accident 6 months ago, so im half dug out of where i was but you aren't going through this alone i promise you that. you can and you will get through this

[Lexina]

My bad
How're you coping?

[ShesRad80]

i work in healthcare so work, friends on here, movies, sleep , music anything to keep my mind occupied , no worries girl i just wanted you to know you aren't in it alone

[Lexina]

Do you mind being friends?

[Lexina]

You got any siblings?

[ShesRad80]

no feel free to message me anytime, if i dont answer im not on but when i get on here i answer back and no living family just me and my dog

[Lexina]

Where's everyone?

[ShesRad80]

passed away at early ages

[ShesRad80]

the little family i did have

[Lexina]

What about texting on snap or Instagram. I'm okay if you're not comfortable with thar

[Lexina]

Sorry about your loss

[ShesRad80]

with my job i just have this i closed my social media stuff 3 years ago, if you ever need to talk im here. i just try to help anyone if i can

[Lexina]

Alright

[ShesRad80]

👍✌.

[Lexina]

Thanks

[ShesRad80]

very welcome

[Kkoalalita]

Yea I’m sure everyone has but it’ll eventually pass

[Lexina]

Alright but when

[exitseven]

Yes, some days it's really rough/

https://www.youtube.com/embed/d_CBPfkDCM4

I'd rather die young, than live without you.

I'd rather go hungry, than to eat lonesome stew.

[Lexina]

👍🤭

[DarkWinterNights]

Yeah, most people probably. You need to make more friends or hang out with those you have. Also try to get out in nature.

[Lexina]

I don't have any friends around, there all left the city and there's no one around to really socialize with

[Christoff92]

It's natural and normal. Sometimes every body is busy with general life. Nobody has the time to spend anytime with anybody in social gathering. So that what it comes to.

[Lexina]

Too busy to check on people falling into emotional traumas?

[MementoMori777]

yea it happens sometimes, turn a light on and watch funny stuff

[Lexina]

There's nothing funny here, wanna help with some

[MementoMori777]

well i can assure you that you can find it on other parts of the internet but sure, watch some hodgetwins, hopefully it doesn't trigger you 😁😅

[Lexina]

Is it scary?

[Lexina]

I'll try it sometime though

[MementoMori777]

no just can be offensive to sensitive people 😁

[Lexina]

Oh okay
Which scenes does it entail?

[MementoMori777]

its a podcast channel basically

[Lexina]

Okay thanks

[BlackJeep]

I got a dog when my marriage ended. That dog means more than anything to me

[Lexina]

You've gotten attached to it?

[Adogdog]

Of course, being single I get lonely sometimes too.

[Lexina]

I see

[Adogdog]

Yep :)

[Lexina]

Start searching then so you won't feel lonely always but honestly there are times you even feel lonely in a relationship

[Adogdog]

Yeah

[Lexina]

Or you can make more friends

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Same thing happens to me.

[Lexina]

Do you know the cause?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Lexina Not much I can do, that's why I find people online to chat with.

[Lexina]

Alright that's not a bad

[Lexina]

But don't you have any working colleagues or school mates?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Lexina Sadly no and I'm on income for persons with mental and physical disabilities

[Lexina]

What's your plight?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Lexina I have Anxiety, Bipolar, Schizo-affective Disorder and Diabetes, Arthritis

[Lexina]

Don't overthink it, all hope is not lost

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Lexina Thank you so much

[Lexina]

My pleasure

[Ekaterine_78]

Get the boyfriend make enjoy your life

[Lexina]

Where do I find one? Almost all guys are after one's body now

[Ekaterine_78]

Yeah that's very common find the one who loves you not your body :)

[Lexina]

Finding one as such is the problem

[Ekaterine_78]

You can, mine make out with me and care me as well.

[Lexina]

Where to find one...

[Ekaterine_78]

Maybe from your friend someone want to spend life with you?🙈

[Lexina]

No friends list

[Ekaterine_78]

Try someone on outside or office or somewhere else lol

[Lexina]

I don't work, I'm almost always in the room

[Ekaterine_78]

I don't know then sorry

[Lexina]

Alright

[Ekaterine_78]

Do you want to enjoy sexual life or need life partner?

[Lexina]

I need life partner

[Ekaterine_78]

Oh ok

[BobLouis]

Just go get a boyfriend it's easy for you.

[Lexina]

I don't want to rush into a relationship because of just being lonely

[BobLouis]

Life is too short to sit around worrying about nothing.

[BobLouis]

You'll be 40 still scared about the same thing.

[BobLouis]

You got this be confident in yourself.

[Lexina]

Thanks

[Lexina]

I think I'll find one but how do I go about that

[BobLouis]

I would avoid dating apps and maybe use the meetup app or christian mingle. It's better form relationships organically over common interests rather than using a dating app.

Go to church or an environment where you can meet someone and form relationship organically and not artificially over a dating app Talk and be open like how you're talking to me.

A dating app is too artificial and it feels awkward to form a decent relationship with someone.

The person might be well rehearsed and know what to say to just get a hookup. Like how someone just says what they got to say to get a job. It's too artificial and not organic enough.

I hope that makes sense.

[BobLouis]

Dating app is all about hot bodies, money and sex. So try to go to regular events or use meetupdotcom or something

[Lexina]

Thanks a lot buddy

[Anonymous]

better to be alone then hurt by anyone

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Yaass!! Very nice 👍👍

[Lexina]

That's true, reason why I'm still single though

[Anonymous]

No I don't feel lonely.

[Lexina]

That's great

[Jazzy54]

Yes.

[Lexina]

Alright

[Alex8736]

@Lexina why is that?

[Lexina]

No friends or acquaintances

[Alex8736]

Did you recently move and don't know anyone?

[Lexina]

Nope
I'm always at home

[Alex8736]

You should get out more. Go for walks etc

[Lexina]

There's no where really I could be going for the walks

[Lexina]

So it was just my brother and I, no friends.. and quite recently, he doesn't even give me any attention, he been lying to me a lot. It's all about his flings and new friends now

[Alex8736]

If that's the case introduce yourself to his new friends and flings as a way of just saying "hi.. nice to meet you "

[Lexina]

They barely hang out at our end and I don't really like to involve myself in such as they try to use me when they're. not reaching him

[Alex8736]

Understood

[Lexina]

Yahh

[Alex8736]

Are you anti social? Anxiety?

[Lexina]

Yeah

[Alex8736]

Both?

[Lexina]

Yeah both

[Alex8736]

Anxiety is my enemy

[Lexina]

I often get anxious when I get close to someone, I have attachment issues

[Alex8736]

I can completely identify with the anxiety issue sweetie

[Lexina]

Tell me more

[Alex8736]

Pm me

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Lexina]

👍💯