I've actually watched an episode like this on ID channel some time ago. I think the name of the episode was ''dates from hell''. The story dates back to many years ago when a pair of HS students were 18 year-olds.
They weren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet but had gone out on a couple dates. Both clicked very well and liked each other's company so much. One day the guy took her on his car and they stopped by next to a grassy area, near a pond, relaxing, kissing.
Suddenly a couple thugs opened the door and grabbed the girl. He got outnumbered, punched several times and the girl got taken from him. He was ok with some mild injuries and bruises, recovering at the hospital but he couldn't get away what they did to her. She got gang raped. It traumatized him for endless years. The girl never blamed him but he later on walked away out of extreme guilt.
They eventually reconnected (they were by then in their 50's or older) years later and clicked again. If it was the girl that suffered the horrible ordeal, the horrible damage of being gang raped (she's the one that's suppose to be forever traumatized), why was the guy more affected than her?
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I'm sure she was greatly affected by this as well. But of course he's going to be affected. He was forced to watch this happen to someone he cared about and was powerless to stop it.
I saw that episode. He suffered because he was unable to save her from the rapists and had "survival guilt".
yeah it was horrible. I hope he can one day realize it wasn't his fault.
She might be a lot more affected inside and just doesn't show it. It's a horrible, terrible thing.
Yes very likely. I feel bad for the guy that kept blaming himself for years even when the girl never blamed him. He went on explaining how he felt less than of a man and how he failed her. That wasn't his fault at all.
No. But the woman went through it. I'm a guy and I can't even begin to imagine how horrible being raped must me.
I've only gotten catcalled once and even that made me felt so degraded (as if the jerk didn't care that I was a person, a human with feeling, not a thing) so rape has to be 100x worst.
A violation of one's own body is terrible physically, of course, but also horrible on an emotional level. Yes, it totally robs someone of their humanity. Being treated like an object and being hurt at the most private, intimate level.