How do you deal with rejection?

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And process it in a healthy way

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

Feeling down after a rejection comes down to ego.

You need to learn to control your ego and not be ruled by it.

That means have the ego needed to value yourself.
But eliminate the egotistical need for outside validation and acceptance.

You getting rejected is only in part because of who you are as a person. The other parts come down to the other person, the circumstances, the different expectations etc...
So no one actually rejects "you" they simply reject the idea of being with someone like you at the time. And it's not as negative as it sounds

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

It helped me a lot to see it as a matter of compatibility. So if a woman rejected me, I just figured we're incompatible. If you think more in a league type of mindset, it's easier to take it personally like, "I'm not good enough for her," but with a compatibility mindset, it's just, "I'm not her type."

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It has been more hurtful lately with an X whom I have been trying to continue in my life. I split up with him nearly 2 years ago and lately, seems as though with some things I have been planting to just reminisce even of us, he has been ghosting me some. To me, really hurtful, on top of some other disrespectful things I found out.

selfish-and-cruel · Accepted Answer

I was rejected only once in high school by the football team captain. I think he hoped I would beg because I really liked him. But I didn't. My oldest brother's super handsome friend accompanied me to the prom. It was rewarding.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

The mens dating coaches say you have to get a better job, go to the gym more, and make yourself more attractive. But I don’t think using rejection to better yourself is always the healthiest reaction. You should better yourself because you want to better yourself. Personally I just stopped asking, only took 3 or 4 for me to just lose interest. There is a lot better payoff to investing in your friendships and personal goals and hobbies.

JacobJordan · Answer

I say OK and move on. Ironically my ability to just say OK and be completely unbothered pissed off several women when I was younger and trying to find a girlfriend. Upon realizing I was fine with it several attempted to show interest. A few tried insulting me further. I would just respond with the same things to insults. "OK have a nice day"

OddBeMe · Answer

Human behavior research suggests that most of our descion making is based on childhood experiences and upbringing.

You could argue that being turned down for a date had less to do with you than not fitting that person’s sexual appeal created by their subconscious.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Move because it’s stupid to worry about it. You let your intent be known and the other person let you know they’re not interested or want any interest in your intention. Plain and simple

Billlewis · Answer

If she's not interested in me romantically, I often try to make myself useful to her in some other way.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Smile, thank her for her time, wish her a nice (day, afternoon, evening) and move on to ask another lady. There are four billion women on the planet, so getting upset over a rejection is a silly waste of energy that can be spent productively.

RavVid · Answer

You are not going to win every time but if you never buy a ticket in the lottery you will win.

CozyCoffin · Answer

After so many times over so many years, I figured I wasn't anyone's type and gave up. I haven't bothered to pursue in five years. Can't be rejected.

ChiTown33 · Answer

By realizing one person's opinion of me does not alter my value. Odds are that person doesn't even know me really. Because why would someone reject me? I'm f***ing awesome!😂

JHNS98 · Answer

I used to just brush it off, but now I feel it., and it hurts.

exitseven · Answer

I get depressed for a few days then shake it off like so many fleas.

Subflics · Answer

I brush it off tell myself that it's just that person that isn't interested and there's probably a good reason to leave them be

Agent_Elflord · Answer

Wouldn’t know, I avoid it so much that I just shoot myself down before I try to shoot my shot.

Anonymous · Answer

I laugh it off and meet someone else, often in the same day.

Wiredone · Answer

I just accept it, keep my chin up and move on. I don't let it get me down, shit happens.

Enginn · Answer

You girls reject too. Why do you complain then

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

VERY BAD

stark04 · Answer

As Captain would say just walk it off.

Anonymous · Answer

Let me know when you find out

jahaims · Answer

By not basing your worth on what others think

serenalovesramen · Answer

stand on business

moneymagnet24 · Answer

In relationship?

Saamee · Answer

Party hard 🎉

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