What’s the taboo with double texting?

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Hi, don’t want to do too much

BullShark · Accepted Answer

To put it simply, many people think just because someone isn't texting you back after your first text, you shouldn't text them again, because it makes you look "desperate for attention". Now there is some truth to this, so the bigger picture is important.

Like say, if they haven't texted you back and they've seen your text and are still posting stories and posts online, take that as a sign to move on and don't bother with them any more since they don't care about you either. But if they've been online all day, there's no activity from them and your messages aren't seen by them yet either, then they may genuinely be busy. Again, leave them alone and let them text you back in their own time. That's the taboo

EnjoytheDay777 · Accepted Answer

Double texting is actually a writing style, I think. It's more forceful/meaningful when you double, etc, text.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

If he didn't reply all day it is most likely he doesn't want to text you. Unless he is like me and barely has his phone, but with most people he is probably just ignoring you so double texting comes across as desperate.

CarolinaGirl5 · Accepted Answer

He doesn't want to talk to you. He seen your text he doesn't like you and he doesn't care. Stop embarrassing yourself

Apple1996 · Answer

No big deal. I also double text sometimes

Purpleronnie · Answer

I may be alone in this but i when i read things like this ( which as i live and breath tends to occur with increasing frequency ) I can’t help but feel like if there is actually a social or acceptable etiquette around such a completely arbitrary and trivial nuance then I honestly fear for humanity.

Why , oh why in this digital age with all that’s possible and probable in the configurations of smart devices and mobile technology would it possibly matter how many texts were sent or received in any given time period if the purpose of said texts were honest communication from an actual person ? Have people lost their minds in applying an additional set of rules to how we communicate on top of it all?

lol sorry.. rant … but in my humble logical opinion I couldn’t care less for any etiquette or taboo , *** double texting I will initiate and respond when I see fit and on my own schedule

RingOfFire · Answer

It depends on the relationship. In general, if a woman other than my partner does that to me, it feels like she's insecure and forces me to have to respond in a certain time frame when I clearly don't want to. It feels manipulative.

So unless and until we are in a committed relationship, it's a turn off.

On the other hand, if it's a woman with whom I have a deep romantic relationship, I might appreciate that she misses me and wants to be sure I'm okay.

So it all depends on the relationship.

Lynx122 · Answer

This is something that was made up by people who play games and aren't really interested in the other person. if you actually have a good relationship then texting should be like just casual conversation there shouldn't be these special rules that you have to follow.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I don't think about double texting at all, I tend to appreciate actually writing thoughts in texts to your SO with some detail and using multiple messages is often necessary and if I can I will respond even if it's to say i can't really talk now.

I rarely do the total all day ghost things and I used to work in an outside electronic free facility for 6 years.

Grond21 · Answer

I have never operated as if it matters so it's hard for me to imagine that being significant in a relationship. It feels like it would have to be a very shallow relationship to be honest

demonics · Answer

We live in an age where using punctuation is an "ick," being nice is "pick me," and "pretty" refers to how expensive and #CurrentThing your make-up and fashion is.

Stop listening to other women about what men like/want/care about.

I swear this applies to like 99% of posts.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Sometimes it can get annoying or just look needy.

Juxtapose · Answer

There's nothing wrong with double texting. Sometimes I will leave multiple paragraphs and then wait a few days for a friend to answer. It's not that deep, they're not obligated to answer right away and I expect them to answer when they feel like it unless it is urgent.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Some people don't text, we actually talk to each other. Myself, my husband and my girlfriend all have messaging disabled on our phones.

Account · Answer

I would think they don't give a shit after the first text, therefore why would I bother double texting?

Ironic_Method · Answer

I don't get it either, if you want to text just text.

Ariesman81 · Answer

It's cool if women do it. It shows care and thoughtfulness. But if a dude does it... fuck man... shouldn't you be doing something!

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I don't see a taboo in the first place, who is saying it's taboo?

Anonymous · Answer

"Overthink" being g the key word here.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Why care what others think about it?

WhitneySnow · Answer

I agree with your second update

jazzy34 · Answer

It’s annoying.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

anxiously desperate

Jamie05rhs · Answer

There's nothing wrong with that at all.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It comes off desperate

OddBeMe · Answer

Whats double texting? Spam texting?

Dongie · Answer

How you mean?

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