What aspects of your personality or experiences do you think make you unique, and how do they influence the way you see the world?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Well for whatever reason I am still on this planet and waking up each day , so in a sense I am still figuring out my purpose of life , I tend to stay positive as much as possible, and try not to allow negativity to take over me whatsoever , if negativity has me by the balls , I won’t allow it to hold on for a long period of time , some how some way I just look at the bright side of things and live life the best way that I can., and realize all I can do is move forward , and face whatever obstacles come my way, best way I can , when I fall down , I tend to pick myself right back up if I can lol. . Some days are easier than others’ but it is what it is I guess. I consider myself an easy going laid back guy that treats people the same way I like to be treated in return , I love the same way I want to be loved in return. I realize I am not perfect and I realize no one on this planet is perfect , we are just here to survive and to find peace and happiness and love any way we can. I like being content as much as possible. Because without any of. that , we really don’t have anything. I feel my positive energy helps me smile more and it helps make others’ smile more as well. I don’t let shit bother me to much , unless someone is purposely trying to rain on my parade , then that’s a different story lol But overall I try to surround myself with people that think like I do , I like helping others and I enjoy being around good people that have dignity and respect and good moral values , that aren’t selfish assholes and backstabbers I can’t stand selfish people that only care about themselves . But someone that has my back , I will have theirs as well. I always protect my loved ones and people that earn my respect and trust any way I can. i am a hard worker and a provider for my loved ones the best way that I can. Hoping they get there shit together, if they don’t have their shit together already lol but I don’t mind helping others as long as they are trying to better themselves. I feel my personally and experiences has molded me to who I am today , I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon in my hand , and I have been through some shit , but some how some way I do my best to not let it effect me , the older I get, the more I realize I have become wiser when it comes down to things , like relationships and friends’ and family , if someone treats me like shit , I will treat them like shit , if some one is nice to me, I will be nice to them , I am not a very judgmental person whatsoever and I feel people respect me for that, cuz they sure as hell told me that numerous times as to why I am not judgmental and I tell them it’s because we are all just people , doing what we can do to survive , we all pretty much live the same way in a sense , yes we all come from different paths in life and not everyone of us was born with a silver spoon in our hands. So if someone is respectful to me I will be respectful to them no matter what they look like. I don’t care if someone had 2 heads on their shoulders , if they are nice and respectful to me I will do the same to them. I feel people that are judgmental are living in this fantasy world that doesn’t exist whatsoever , people that think their shit doesn’t stink , I got news for you? Your shit stinks. So overall I just choose to respect people that respect me , that are kind and caring that have good intentions instead of bad intentions. I also appreciate the things that I earned and worked for , I am very content with what I have in front of me , it doesn’t take much to keep me smiling

Blunky · Accepted Answer

Grew up in a home that doesn't even count as broken. Dad beat everyone, mom took out her anger on us type of deal. I'm also the first generation of my family to be born in the states (Asian) and my parents never bothered to assimilate or learn English.

They also washed their hands of raising my brother (7 years younger) because I didn't turn out to be the obedient slave they wanted. So I raised him, while figuring out America by myself, while constantly fighting my parents. And yes I mean physically. I grew much bigger than them after taking weight training in high school. They stopped trying to hit us after I stood up to my mother and dared her to hit me again. Her response, "I can't believe you would ever threaten your own mother". Only thing she cares about is money which she threw at churches for their support, all the while viciously beating her kids on a weekly basis.

Dad is a coward who only beats women and children dmaller than him. He beat my mom once after she said she'll drive because he's too drunk. He slammed the car door on me and started beating her in the middle of the street right in front of aunts and uncles. All they did was say "Hey, let's not do this in front of the kids" while he's kicking her on the ground. Zero action from the cowards called family.

Dad tried to rule the house through terror but the deadbeat never worked, saying minimum wage jobs are below him, so he had no say in anything and threw drunk, violent temper tantrums all the time. I eventually removed him from the family. Eventually had to cut my mother off too as she kept trying to treat me like her personal piggy bank for a cush retirement. She likes to use the "we stayed together for you kids" and "I raised you wrong" lines. I had to keep reminding her that she didn't raise me.

Called the cops once before when things were getting really bad. They came, called me a liar and left me there with them. Good ol southern California. I lost a lot of friends growing up to suicide and gang violence, so I got used to people dying early on.

I stayed home and worked multiple jobs after high school to keep the roof over our heads until my brother graduated high school and got a job to pay his own way through college. I left home for the army after that where I got to deal with even more and far worse abuses of power. Got real good at telling people above me to fuck off with tact.

I think those were the most impactful on how I turned out, though I only covered up to 27. I already did the child raising which is why I don't intend on having any kids. Been there, done that. Probably why I felt more comfortable around people much older than me. I'm brutally honest because I want the same, not the manipulative and controlling bullshit my parents tried on me my whole life. I value actions over words after growing up around a bunch of adults who were too afraid to take action. And I am a beurocrat's worst nightmare as I have no issue calling people out on their bullshit.

Goddamn, ended up writing a novel. My bad.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

I view most humanity with a mix of contempt and distrust. Why? Because most of humanity has shown me its unworthy of my trust or kindness. I've been neglected, abused, hurt and lied to.

I don't understand healthy social dynamics, especially familial ones, or what some see as normal reactions.

I could go on and on. But I my simplest, I feel a mix of anger, and nothing at all. I don't feel human because I wasn't allowed to be human growing up, and the longer I live the less desire I feel to try and be human.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

autism lol

it made me "different" but in a way that a very specific type of my peers have seen as enticing lol
after fully embracing it and learning how to live with it... it's part of me, and I'm grateful for it :D

Sonorous · Answer

Whatever it is, I believe it is an illusion. I say this because, like everyone else, my personality has been shaped by my dna, environment, experiences, etc. Completely predictable if someone could accurately calculate all relevant variables. So you see, nothing is really unique. Anything that happens can & was meant to happen again.

I look at an atom of a same element as others around it. It looks like all the others. It acts like all the others. The only distinction between it & the other atoms is what I perceive it to be. My imagination can give it a distinctive identity of sorts.

Our brains are infinitely ignorant to the complexities of the universe & as a consequence, we can naively conjure up intense feelings of novelty or uniqueness with anything we can attach our emotion with. But that is all it would be. A feeling based on our intelligence, experience, knowledge level, etc. It isn't real. It's only an illusion.

OneViewpoint · Answer

I have an unusual background that intrigues a lot of people because it's so different from their own life experience and pretty much anyone they've ever known.. Because of that background, I'm comfortable taking risks that would make most people curl up in a ball and close their eyes. Or so they tell me almost every time.

I grew up on military bases all over the world. I was born on an Air Force base. My father flew heavy bombers for the US Air Force. We moved every 2-3 years. I attended the nation's oldest private military University and became a US Army officer for 15 years after graduation. I was in places most people in the US have never heard of and couldn't find on a map. I jumped out of perfectly good fixed wing aircraft and helicopters, night or day, into jungles, mountains, deserts, and forests, for sometimes vague reasons I didn't completely understand, LOL.

For recreation, I've jumped off an 800 foot cliff on skis. Multiple times. Over many years.

After the Army, I worked for Fortune 100 companies and did 6 corporate moves. I worked as an Ex Patriot for a while and lived in the Caribbean. I had a lake house in New Hampshire. I help found a heavy industrial startup. Then I ended up in the New York financial services world of investment banks, hedge funds, and private equity firms for 10 years.

So when people ask me "where are you from", they get confused when I say "well, nowhere really". Then they ask, "well what do you do", they get more confused when I say, "it's complex and a long story". I'm not being evasive. Just honest. But people generally think those answers are evasive.

It becomes clear during those conversations that my experience and the way I view the world is VERY different from the average suburban housewife who has lived in one town her entire life or the guy who has worked for one company in one location for his entire career. They all seem to love the idea of "travel". I am so done with traveling, ROFL.

Jay-_- · Answer

I have experienced the closest to me pass away plenty of life experiences early on (dont live in the best area) on top of that I had to take on a lot of unnecessary responsibilities I always understood emotions as a teenager and not the ways a teenager should, anyways I knew better earlier than most which helped a lot emotionally and physically and as who I am (someone who believes in God) I was blessed to genuinely see the good that God can do no matter the situation I am put in, when you realize all the chaos you go through and use it as a way to become better through God's guidance its a life changer for sure. I am FAR FROM PERFECT, I do stumble and that's when I try to handle things with my emotions rather then God's guidance and teachings that's when things go out of wack by out of wack I mean mostly the feelings I got for this woman, overall I think I'm good it's easier to deal with everything now NO MATTER WHAT (worst of the worst, literally God forbid of course but I'm always ready). Overall I thank God for where I am cause genuinely I probably wouldn't have been here. 🙏🏼 ✝️

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't see myself as unique... if anything, there's actually a mix of traits, and experiences both, that are unique to all of us and the circumstances in which we all happened to be, as well...

and of course... most of my own experiences through the years are the ones that had shaped me into what I am, for good and bad, both...

as I mentioned in the previous questions, lessons learned... all of them, the bad, the good, the great ones... I am all of that, I am all of them

the world, life, people... everything, everyone I see what I see and then I try to seek both balance and introspection, balance as in... what I see and what I am... and also, what they are and how they see me

the way in which I do interact and engage with someone, anyone... is going to be unique as well

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I believe everyone is unique, when looking close enough (which is technically impossible for me to do on a wide scale), so that question is quickly answered. As for the second Q, it's way too vast for me to go into details, so I'll just go with what Nathan summarized already.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I have gone through a lot of hardships and grief, Obstacles people my age haven’t yet encountered. Overtime I have become very resilient and I’ve kept a good sense of humor/positivity. Having said that, I don’t see everyone through that lens and I’m very wary to overly friendly people/easy to cut connections and not romanticize the world.

msg321 · Answer

I hate cruelty and if I see a cruel person in trouble I enjoy seeing this but apart from that I am very merciful to innocent people and animals. I am even against killing cockroaches or any other bugs if they are seen at homes. I think people should catch and put them outside instead killing. I am sure I am not the only merciful person in the world. There may be way more merciful people than me but as an answer to your question I think being merciful is my biggest speciality.

adventurous-1 · Answer

My past/history is who I am and has a influence on how I see the world. I worked on an ambulance as a Paramedic, was a volunteer firefighter/emt, reserve police officer, factory worker and a adjunct college instructor. I taught CPR to many different fire departments, and to college students in the intro to medicine program, and the public through the fire department. I drove a Harley and belonged to a four wheel drive club, I was an active scuba diver for many years. I belong to several social organizations. It all plays into what makes me unique and who I am. I am a being of my experiences from past and current life. I continue to evolve as life goes on facing the challenges and trials of living that come with experience and age. Hoping to increase in wisdom and becoming a better person than I was yesterday.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

That's a very personal question.

Without going into details, my main 'experiences' that shaped me were from within the closer family, and the overall ''political'' situation I grew up in.

Not, that I'd agree or adopt - but it rather made me oppose these factors.

My personality is rebellious and questioning.

Followingly, I see the world as being in need of major repairs.

This indeed makes me kind of ''unique'' - and I take advantage from the fact that most people around me have no clue about how it is like to be unpredictable/unreadable.

(Perhaps, I am, though? - :D )

Most of these 'people' are stereotypical (I won't blame them) - I don't feel responsible for them; but I also don't side with them.

Staximus · Answer

I don't know, I can't see myself as others see me. I've had a few people tell me I'm a real life guardian angel or something like that, but I'm just a not-so-divine intervention specialist. I just know instinctively when and where I'm supposed to be somewhere, to be able to allow people to continue living their lives. Many times in the past it seemed like I was the only person who could or would do something. People usually just think I'm an old fat surly bum until the shit hits the fan, then after they see me in action they think I'm fat Jesus

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am a total music geek, and with that comes some eccentricity that some people find hard to take.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Im from a large extended family, as one of the youngest, I have experienced a lot of death. I have also been exposed to people many years olde than me! This had made me cynical and argumentative. The good thing is, I realize this now.

MemeSupreme · Answer

feel like my expectations, knowledge, and awareness from past experiences has helped me a lot

bc ik some people who fucking suck at handling life like i don't even mean coping skills or tolerance but their decisions are braindead

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I am an optimist. A logical thinker and action oriented.
I don’t over think…

i used to think that I was weird because I was kinda different from others the way I see things in positive manners.
when I met my second hubby… he told me that this a a great quality that I have and most women don’t think/behave this way.

I like to protect the young and give them the life I have.

DishLady · Answer

Apparently I'm "strong" and "a toughie" so things don't (outwardly) phase me even if I'm stressing about them. I remain calm and just work through things, mapping out the best way to proceed. Because I know v well how to do this I teach others how to manage their stress, time, etc as well. Tbh, sometimes the process is draining, but it's better than the alternative of living in a state of interpersonal and psychological chaos.

Grond21 · Answer

This sounds more like an essay or a long form conversation

NicholasRedone · Answer

@liaraven I'm sort of a push over humble happy go lucky guy - 😁😁 I've seen some women like that and thankfully they've wisely stayed single because other guys, who aren't my personality, would've just railroaded them as too domineering

abc3643 · Answer

My education which was very long and including an interesting mix of diverse topics which is synthesized to be able to have a more comprehensive world-view and ability to be abstract better than most.

Account · Answer

There is nothing special or unique about me. I have come to terms with the fact that I am solely a speck of dust in this whole vastness.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm told by people I'm unusually generous. I'm told I'm real and that I'm a good listener. I don't think any of these things make me unique. But they're re-occuring comments people tell me. So maybe it does?

exitseven · Answer

I was always a lonesome cowboy type. I guess I never changed.

Cyrus000 · Answer

I think the fact that I'm more of a realist but not pessimistic/nihilistic helps.

Dargil · Answer

I'm actually kind of ordinary.

masterSir · Answer

The way I was raised by my mom ( no dad)

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