Do you have areas of your life where you're more relaxed and others where you're more tense?

[Lynx122]

For example. When it comes to money I've never been that focused on it or stressed about it. But it always seems to work out well. People don't mind giving me money because they know I'm not after their money. I don't know how this works exactly but I don't know I just save up money most of the time and then when I feel like buying something or I need something I always have enough.

But with people it's not always as easy. Since I'm autistic and I had difficult experiences growing up I didn't have this abundance mindset or feel like everything will work out the way it's supposed to, although I am changing that now. When something is not working my natural instincts are to analyze it and try and fix it, control the outcome but that doesn't work with people so it just makes it more difficult. I have phases where I'm more relaxed but then over time I get fixated on something and it builds up and I get tense and I don't realize it till I'm reminded again to chill.

But I'm learning

I do have a relaxed attitude in general with life and often I have managed to just go with the flow. Some things still are difficult to just let go but I'll figure it out.

The idea that I'm just who I'm supposed to be and just where I'm supposed to be is great :)

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Overall relaxed in all areas except when I don't find some information I'm looking for lol. In that case, I'm switching to grumpy relaxed 🧐

[Lynx122]

grumpy relaxed, love it!! :D

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

😎🫡

[Anonymous]

I'm relaxed when I'm reading, playing video games, listening to music, watching tv/movie.

Otherwise, I'm usually a bit tense.

[Lynx122]

That's alright I was tense a lot too but now I figured out how to handle it better. You'll figure it out too :)

[Opinion Owner]

I hope so, thanks for the support :)

[Lynx122]

Sure :) You can try and use mantras to calm yourself down. If you're out and about and you notice you're anxious or tense you can repeat in your head "I'm safe" or other messages and it works. Feeling it, aknowledging it and then calming yourself is pretty much all you have to do.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you, I'll try :)

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[Lynx122]

Sure :)

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Aren't you just describing life?

Doing your taxes, going on stage, negotiating a pay rise, talking to people, being alone, planning something you enjoy doing...

[Lynx122]

Yes I'm living life! :) And I'm describing it I guess :P

[BobbieBoy666]

I'm more relaxed at home more than I am work.

Because when I'm home I can hang out in my room wearing nothing at all but black socks and a smile. I love my nude time alone. But when I'm at work dealing with the public, I get so tense and uptight.

[NathanDavis]

mostly chill and relaxed... if tense, then it has to be something quite serious

[Herofin]

Yes I am always relaxed at home