i'm so confused because I have to figure out what I want, and half of the time I know he is truly interested in me (holding me as I sleep, kissing me on the forehead, REALLY listening to what I say and getting along so well, wanting to do other things outside of sex that pertains to our mutual interests), and then the other half of me knows that we are good in bed, and he touches me accordingly that shows he wants me sexually. I don't know what to think. if we like each other, get along well and can hang out without having hooking up (NOT SEX). I want to show him I'm different than those other girls, I'm not crazy and clingy and stuff, but I do like him. I want this to be more than (what I'm guessing) friends with benefits :/
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This is classic. If the guy doesn't want a relationship, then that is that. I'm sure he does like you, but he also likes that you'll give him what he wants w/o the committment. Stop being so friendly physically, and I bet he stops being so friendly all the way around. Of course he's going to be nice to you, he wants to keep you around, this situation is perfect for his needs at the moment. If he liked you enough to want to committ to you, he would let you know that. Guys are pretty good at saying exactly what they mean, girls are the ones who flip that shyte around in the brain until it turns into what the girl wanted to hear. She'll turn it into something that is a little bit of hope that he will eventually 'come around', because the girl thinks she is the one that is special enough to get him to settle down. If you keep allowing this to happen, he'll hang out with you until he meets the girl he wants to date, and then you'll be left in the dust. How do you keep this from happening? Quit hanging out with him. Let him know that you respect yourself enough to NOT spend time/be intimate with someone who does not respect you enough to give you what you need, a committment. If you tell him that and then actually cut him off and quit spending time. You MIGHT get him thinking he may want something more with you. If it doesn't happen this way, the chances of it ever happening are quite slim. Focus on someone else.