Guys: Do you mind if your girlfriend wears yoga pants? How big of a deal should this be?

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My boyfriend has always had an issue with it. I thought we were over this BUT apparently it came up again. He just hates yoga pants. Fine. But sometimes I want to wear them. I do not wear them very often. The other day I was going to a Zumba class and he said "I suppose you're going to wear yoga pants" and I said "yes I am" and then he got upset. I mean, I feel like I should be able to wear them to an exercise class at the very least! There were like 2 guys in the class but it was mostly a lot of girls. And I get that he associates yoga pants with wanting sexual attention, and gets protective because he doesn't want other guys thinking about sex with me, but...is this something he should try to get over, or should I just not wear them so he doesn't get upset? I mean you can't control other people's thoughts, and it's not like I wear them very often either.

EZ4U2NV · Accepted Answer

Yoga pants is the closest thing to being naked in public without actually being naked and I think it's perfectly ok for him to ask you not to wear it if you don't even wear it a lot. Wear something else that is still comfortable but that doesn't show off your butt because YES those guys are going to look at your butt even if that's not your intention. Yes you can't control other people's thoughts, but you can control what you wear and thus prevent more guys starring at your behind and thinking of you sexually. Look, why do you even want to wear it so bad if it makes him upset or uncomfortable? You should care that it makes him feel that way and know that it's certainly not for no reason. He is a guy and understands how other guys look at girls in certain clothing and through experience knows that you will be looked at in a sexual way wearing those skin tight yoga pants. They show off all of your curves and outline your booty very well, guys will look no doubt. Same thing with bikinis. More guys will look at a girl in a skimpy bikini verses a girl in a one piece. The context of a yoga class does not change the fact that it is still pretty revealing and showing off your body more than it needs to. It's not hard to find something else that is still comfortable but doesn't show off your body so just find an alternative! Showing off your body attracts attention from other guys to you which you shouldn't even want to attract other guys because you have your boyfriend. consider how he feels and be ok with not wearing it and sacrificing one thing. He's trying to protect you from being turned into a sexual object which is pretty dang cool to me! And just think of how you would feel if he went out in public wearing something revealing (anything you would find sexy and showing off his body). Plus I would think he has done things for you when you felt uncomfortable or upset before. just do one thing for HIM. Other people are saying that he is just trying to control you but that is certainly not the case. He cares about you so much that he wants to protect you and the way you are viewed towards other guys. Please take what I've said into consideration and don't reject it based off of your opinion. Really think about all that I said and reason with logic versus emotions.

sinserious24 · Accepted Answer

I know where your boyfriend is coming from, I am the same way, and it is definitely not healthy or acceptable to try and control your partner, but we can't help the way that we feel--

My girlfriend has an awesome body and she owns several different pairs of yoga pants. I don't mind her wearing yoga pants whatsoever, but oddly enough, I hate the pants that she wears exclusively to the gym. They are full length, SKIN TIGHT compression pants. You can't pinch a centimeter of fabric from these pants when they're on--

I had never seen these pants prior to the first time we worked out together, and she used to complain about how annoying it was when guys would stare at her or try to talk to her in the gym. When I first saw her wearing them, I couldn't help but laugh, because there is no guy on earth that wouldn't stare at her ass when she wears those pants--

She says she likes wearing them because they are extremely comfortable, and I always ask her why she doesn't wear them around the house or alone if they are so comfortable? And if the yoga pants that aren't skin tight that she normally wears are comfortable (which she says they are)--

I love and trust my girlfriend, and do not want to control her, but I can't help but feel that she wears those pants because a small part of her enjoys the attention, which is disheartening (if true)--

I have a great physique myself and have several intricate tattoos, and I choose to coverup when i'm working so as to not attract attention, and not even because I'm in a relationship, but because I don't want to be bothered or drawing any attention to myself when I'm trying to get a good workout in. I have worked out in just compression shirts and I have been "oogled" and approached by men and women, and that is not what I want, especially at the gym--

No one can control what you wear, how your BF feels, or what other people look/stare at. But if not drawing attention is important to you or to him, there are compromises available.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That is actually really weird. It is controlling and shows signs of deep insecurity. A guy should be proud of the girl he is with and want to show her off, not hide her away. You are not his possession. You do not belong to him. You are your own person and should be able to dress however you want. He should be flattered that other guys want you but can't have you. Anyone who can have strong feelings about something as insignificant as yoga pants has some serious issues. No guy should be that threatened and that insecure. For me, when my ex used to make comments about my clothes being tight, I would just tell him to stfo, it is my body, and my choice. If he doesn't like it, he can walk away. There are way bigger issues in the world to be upset about.

nandyme · Accepted Answer

This is kinda crazy! Ok see if you did not want to wear anything but yoga pants, even when you go out to really important things, then him having a problem with that is justifiable. But he's just being a control freak. I mean, everyone wears yoga pants to exercise! Dont let him dictate terms, cos then he may take it as a signal that he can get away with anything. Talk to him about it.

3boys4me · Accepted Answer

Wow he sounds super insecure. Oh and don't fool yourself into thinking he's trying to be "protective" over you this is just his way of trying to control you. Bet he's like this in other ways to. I mean yoga pants seriously? Believe me things are only gonna get worse w this guy as time goes on. Good luck

Drago12587 · Answer

I had the same with my ex girlfriend.. she is calling me insecure, she was not even pretty, ( she had 82kg) back then an i was playboy, having hundreds of girls around me.. i just wanted normal girl that will never cheat on me and will be loyal.. that was my only rule.. that's why i go way under my level and choosed her.. in 5 years, she got more fit , she lost 20 kg and start drawing attention, then she start wearing miniskirts and yoga pants.. so tight , that they was even transparent.. i told her.. " wtf, you are not single, dress properly and modesty". but she liked the attention so so much , because she finally feel wanted from other mens, not just from me.. i treat her like a queen, i spend all my money on her, was PERFECT boyfriend that every girl dream of.. good looking, smart, quite rich, every single her friend wanted me.. but she didn't care about me anymore.. when she wears miniskirt , 50y old 120kg man gave her compliment and she was so happy ( about her ass) .. infront of me... Bald small guys hitting up on her and she enjoyied it.. i was like really surprised. She never wanted to change her outfit.. only because of it she get the attention. I never cheated on her, i never spoke with other girl beside work, i was not hugging girls, not going out with them.. i was 10101% loyal.. but then i told myself to do the same thing.. hit the gym, wear tight grey sweatpants so my d1ck was clearly visible, wearing tight shirts so girls wanted to touch my arms.. she get extremely jealous ... she even don't allow me to go shopping alone, and at the supermarket she kisses me every time when other girls looked at me to show who i belong to.. see , how things changed when you are doing the same as men? New girlfriend the same.. she have 9/10 body, and she know that.. she was wearing leggins even for work and it hurts me.. every man was looking at her ass... But this time did the opposite, firstly i bought grey tight sweat pants, hit the gym and let girls compliment me or even flirt with me in front of her.. she was missing respect and she thought, that she cannot lose me, i show her that i can replace her with no problem any second.. and guess what ! she was the one, that came with idea to dress up properly.. Mens are called " controlling" for the ultimate basic stuff in releationship.. don't look and act like single.. for me , it's absolutely normal.. also stop doing things, that hurt your partner... There are guys that don't care about you, how you dress up, where you are, if you have threesome in bathroom or whatever.. and there are guys that releationship means everything for them, and want proper women with standards.. not every men can look good, do what i did, but mens don't suppose to look like playboys,.. they suppose to be your provider, your problem solver, father of your kids and overall good husband.. and when you are " selling" your body on sexual market and still look aviable so the guys constantly hitting up on you, you are going to be single mum on tinder when you will hit your 30s , because that good men will lose feelings for you.. if a guy will live in that pain and fear for years, he will change.. also you will change if you will have your dream sexy men at home, that wearing pants that shows his D , sexy ass, big arms, tight tshirt to even show his abs and dressed like that he will go to the job where are 50 other girls probably better looking, having what maybe you don't have... You will be at home, thinking if some of the girls at work don't flirt with him , telling jokes, having a good time.. you will tell yourself " he will not even know that she is flirting with him, i know womens, and their tactics, what if some of them will take my man " ?

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a heterosexual man. I can tell you that I would prefer to see a shapely woman in yoga pants more than a bikini or even naked. There is nothing a woman can wear that is so sexy and the majority of my single and married friends would agree.

I'm not a creep and I don't gawk so as to make women in yoga pants feel uncomfortable, snap photos or take videos, but there are guys that do (google it and you might find that some wierdo has posted photos of your butt in your lulu lemons). Although I'm not among that crowd, it is still a huge sexual turn on to see a sexy woman in yoga pants. Even the thoughts of the most decent, moral guy drift towards imagining having sex with her and how wonderful she must feel. Women in yoga pants is the best motivator to not skip the gym!

Keeping this in mind, I can understand why your boyfriend feels uncomfortable when you wear them out. You may be the most faithful woman alive, but guys who see you attired in hot yoga pants will be more inclined to approach you and there may be that one or two who does that tempts you. I think that scares him.

I'm not a GQ model, but I am an intelligent, reasonably attractive and well built, successful guy. It wasn't until I became successful that the pool of women I had to choose from grew into a lake of women. It had little to do with being considered attractive (or not depending on whom you ask). I mention that because my girlfriend was insecure about my expensive sports cars and flashy Jeeps and she thought I only drove them to advertise my success. Being honest, I love cars much like you love yoga pants but that was true. I liked that I could garner the attention of attractive and oftentimes younger women with my cars. I understand why that made her uncomfortable but I did nothing about it and we broke up. And she was right for ending it because I want fully committed.

You should assess your desire to wear yoga pants and be honest about your motivation for doing so. Do you like that it is a turn on to men and do you still crave that attention despite that you are committed to him? If you do, maybe he has a legitimate beef and shouldn't be labeled controlling, insecure and any of the other disparaging labels people have ascribed to him on this post (and maybe you're not so committed to him). If that is not your motivation, you, not him, should ultimately make the decision as to what you will do, but it would be kind to consider that men will lust over you and how that makes him feel.

Gone_But_Not_Lost · Answer

No, I don't mind. I actually rather like it when she does wear them. But that's not what's important. Look, the important part of this topic is that your boyfriend is jealous. He needs to cut that sh*t out. Like, right now. Seriously, that's never cool.

What you need to do is tell him to knock it off, and just accept that you're going to dress how you're going to dress, and that other people don't matter. You're not showing off your goods to other people. You're not trying to attract other guys. You're not trying to cheat on him, and that even if you ever got hit on, it's not like you're going to cheat. You've never cheated on him before, right? If not, then tell him outright that you've never going to cheat, and that you've never done anything to show or even suggest that you're anything but faithful, and he has no reason to doubt you.

If he tries to lay on some, "I trust you, I just don't trust them..." kind of bullsh*t, then cut him off, and tell him to drop that crap, because that's the same thing. If you're really trustworthy, then their advances don't mean sh*t. It takes two to cheat. Period.

What you also need to do, is start getting firm with him. Tell him to get over this jealousy crap, or else. Start laying down punishments. I don't mean get psycho and trashing his stuff, mind you. I mean like cutting him off. No sex. Maybe silent treatments. Maybe not talking to him until you get an apology. If this crap continues on for much longer, possibly even threatening to leave him because you're tired of his jealousy. Because I guarantee, if you don't start shutting it down, it will only get worse. It might even get abusive. Especially if you get married.

Think about it.

DeanGuitarsFTW · Answer

Perhaps you should find a compromise? My girlfriend wears leggings occasionally, but when she does in public, she wears a top long enough to cover her butt completely. If you really do just enjoy them for comfort, I don't see why this would be a problem.

I didn't even have to ask her to do this, she knows that every straight guy pervs out over girls in yoga pants, because in case you weren't aware every guy you walk past is ogling over your ass when you're wearing them with a normal length top.

As for wearing them to a Zumba class, that is a little ridiculous to be upset about considering 99% of people who do Zumba are girls and I'm guessing most of the guys who do Zumba have no interest in your ass. Try explaining this to him.

I just cannot relate with guys who say they enjoy it when other guys check out their girlfriends. In my opinion these people will become cuckolds when they grow older. Look it up. It doesn't seem very healthy to me.

I will say that single girls wearing leggings in public is totally fine. There's absolutly nothing wrong with showing off the goods to attract a mate. I guess that's the problem I have with a girlfriend wearing them in public without covering her butt. It's kind of like a married woman walking around without her wedding ring; it totally puts out the wrong message. And your boyfriend probably feels the same way.

Last thoughts: you should never expect your partner to "just get over" something. That's very unhealthy. I mean, what if he cheated on you and told you to "just get over" it? If your problems are not addressed and fixed then your relationship is doomed to fail. Lastly you say you can't control other's thoughts, which is true. But what you can do is not give every guy around you a blueprint to exactly what your naked ass looks like. You wouldn't want him wearing a speedo around and every girl staring at his junk all the time. Remember the Golden Rule and how it applies to your situation.

Meedo · Answer

It is all about feeling special / exclusive. And it goes both ways for both men and women.

The more you show of your body to others the less special / exclusive it is for your boyfriend. It is not a black or white issues it comes in shades of grey.

My neighbor had no problem that his beautiful wife sunbathed topples in front of the whole area. Everybody walked by saw her boobs. May be he would have been annoyed a bit if she was totally nude. There is not much left for his eyes only .. but may be for his hands and penis.

Some other guy would get jealous . Another one wouldn't have a problem if she is a nudist if he is the only one who gets to touch her.

Your Joga pants are just pants, your ass is just a muscle and skin, your boobs are just glands and skin. etc... everything is ''just'' something. There is no right or wrong in this. It is about a reasonable compromise for the person who loves you and you love.

If he didn't care about you , he wouldn't have bothered.

All the best , bring on the down votes lol.

Galvez · Answer

I think it's strange that there is no discussion about the type of attention we're talking about here. There is a difference between looking good and looking overtly sexual. Most guys want their women to look good, but they don't want them to look like they're fishing for sexual attention from other men. Women don't like it when their husbands look like they are looking for sexual attention from other women either. "Yoga pants" are one of the most sexually revealing forms of clothing a woman can wear, ironically more sexually revealing than a bathing suit (most women get sexually checked out in spandex more than when they wear bathing suits). A woman's desire to wear spandex body suits around indicates some lack of her commitment in a relationship. As for the comfort excuse, they aren't any more comfortable than a pair of slightly looser stretchy pants that aren't skin tight. You should never attempt to control your partner in a relationship. You should see your partners need for other peoples sexual attention as an insecure hole in their character. If you can't reconcile it, you should leave and find a woman who is less vain.

dingoegret · Answer

When you label people as control freaks simply because they have unfamiliar moral standards, it's a sure sign that the real control freak is you. Why do sleazy panty bashers have such a nasty compulsion to stigmatize sexual morals?

I laugh whenever I hear the 'ur insecure' line. I just assume an army of baby bopper 12 year olds who've never in their life have had to deal with strict commitments and contracts. The implication of the insecure line is that: your penis shan't go inside womenkind, and this should deter you from persisting with your moral values and emotional feelings, you insecure freak!

My advise to you, op, is this. Be firm in your beliefs. If they are rational and reasonable - assuming you believe that not habitually wearing clothing that outlines your body parts is reasonable in a relationship - then don't be lured into questioning them. If you genuinely feel bad about the way your girlfriend is representing herself, then seek a compromise, a concession, or simply walk away from it. But never question yourself, your feelings are always valid and you may always assert them.

Surround yourself with likeminded people. In the future be more selective of who you date and befriend. We all have our comfort levels.

Anonymous · Answer

well I think the first thing you need to do is ask yourself what does love mean. If you really find the true meaning of love it is the opposite of being selfish. In fact it's giving yourself away to somebody. If a guy asks a girl not to wear yoga pants because it bothers him it should be considered. it really shouldn't be about control, not to say that this man may not have control issues. But I think that's besides the point. My girlfriend doesn't like when I smoke cigarettes and I told her time and time and time that I would quit but I haven't. As much as it hurts to say this I am honestly portraying that cigarettes are more important than how she feels which would make me selfish which makes me love her less. Bottom line and this may seem biased because I am a guy but a man with a lack of self-control is prone to look at a girls figure especially when she showing it off. However if a girl is trying to get attention or wanting to feel good about herself then she should try to find that within her relationship. If a guy is uncomfortable with you wearing yoga pants then there is obviously a reason.

kerihobo · Answer

Welll, I find it iffy. Wouldn't be overly thrilled about the idea. It sends messages to guys that a girl in a relationship should not be sending. "Check this out boyzzz". You shouldn't still be looking for a guy if you already have a guy. On the other hand, they're just for excercise right? Maybe just go the extra mile to really push the idea to him that it's got nothing to do with wanting other guys' attention. But are you being honest with yourself when you say that? It's not even about trust issues, rather, mostly worried about the outgoing messages. it does signal availability or if in a relationship: open-to-other-options..

ketfoen · Answer

Depends on wear she would wear them, if you wear it to Yoga or Zumba then okay, but I suggest wearing a big t-shirt over it to cover up any showing camel toes.

Wearing yoga pants to the store and doing everyday stuff outside of your home I find a bit to much. I feel very comfortable in my boxers and wear them all day long when I'm home, but I would never wear them outside without at least some jeans.

cecchiniboy · Answer

Well when girls wear them to be sexually flattering, that's wrong. Girls now a days think it's right to just show everything off. That's wrong. Just because you want to do what you want doesn't make you right. If your boyfriend sincerely doesn't like you having your ass like that, all out and what not, how is that insecure. So if my girlfriend wanted to do porn, and I didn't want her to I'm insecure? In this day and age, women are brought up to show their shit off. But just as steph curry's wife said, she saves it for him. Saves the "goods" for him. Why wear sexually suggestive clothing if you have a boyfriend? What are you trying to achieve?

Nighttoke · Answer

Honestly he cares because he doesn't want the guys to think the dirty thoughts they will while looking at your butt as close to naked it can be..in my opinion your butt isn't for people to see, with that said you don't need some clothing perfectly fitting your butt. It's not that he thinks you'll cheat he doesn't feel that other guys should see that much of you because it's too arousing to other males. I'm sure he knows guys think your attractive and also that your not going anywhere because at the end if the day you have eachother but that doesn't mean he don't care if a guy gets to see your body parts framed for others to see...let's be honest ladies you know your butt looks good in them and that it makes guys want to look, you shouldn't want your boyfriend to have to "just be ok" with your ass on a pedestal for other men to give you the satisfaction of looking at your body...even if your more attracted to the man you are with..

SixStringSeal · Answer

My honest opinion.. which I know some people disagree with.. is that you shouldn't try to control your partner. It's unhealthy and counterproductive to personal growth.

You're an adult and you're free to as you wish in your own life. He has no say unless the choices you make directly effect him. What kind of pants you wear is not one of those choices. Would he have a problem with you wearing a bathing suit? Certainly that would show a lot more of your bottom than these pants...

kheserthorpe · Answer

Any time she hints she needs more yoga pants, I buy them within days.

Does she look hot in them? Yes.

I presume other men want to have sex with her. I presume other men would want to have sex with any woman I chose to be with. That's kind of how it works.

Anonymous · Answer

He needs to get the F*** over it. Wear them, let him get mad, he'll deal.and if he can't, oh well let him stay mad.

He's acting like a child.just ignore him. If you had a 5yo boy who was pouting and acting childish would you cater to him? Maybe your boyfriends mom did that to much and now he's stuck in the whiny I can't get my way mode. Like I said he'll deal

CatholicVirginia · Answer

He needs to trust YOU and stop trying to CONTROL you. I wear yoga pants all the time - because they go with my outfits, make me look good, and are comfortable.

Thatcaptainguy · Answer

I have had the same feelings that he is experoencing. Wearing yoga pants and/or leggings is just like wearing spandex for most girls. You might as well be naked. That's how he is seeing it right now and I think the best way to do it is to avoid that completely and compromise on wearing them to "safe" locations such as Zumba. He's not doing it to be controlling he's doing it because that's how he's feeling. It's out of his control.

Anonymous · Answer

He certainly needs to deal. They are just workout pants. If he trust you I don't see why he would care if some guy thinks your hott in yoga pant cause regardless guys are gonna think your hott yoga pants or not so he can get over it.

AltoonaYourPiano · Answer

Seriously? He sounds incredibly insecure. I'd thank the heavens above if I ever met a woman who likes wearing yoga pants

Anonymous · Answer

he's making you feel guilty for wearing work out pants to work out?  yeah...it's as stupid as it sounds and it's working that's the sad part.

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