What makes a guy interesting. There is no universality in anything. What one person finds interesting and what another person does are two different spectrums and thought patterns. I can only provide an answer that is relativistic because it is impossible to encapsulate the broad range of personalities of different women, the world over.
What I would find interesting in a guy, is in fact, similarities to myself. A guy with similar values, hopes, dreams and interests are what I find interesting. There are some people in which a connection is made , that will lift your heart, because it is the realisation that I am not the only person in the world who thinks like 'me'. In a way, it gives validation to my existence knowing that somebody out there joins me in the same mindset. You may have difference of opinion on some things, but your core values may be the same or at least a kin.
I do not care if a guy is a base jumper, an airline pilot, a scientist. These are occupations and I not equal the quality of a man, they are simply things he does in order to make money. Making money may be important in our materialistic world, but it does not affect my opinion of his essence.
Do you know what I would suggest? Whilst you do not have to hang on the edge of every single word that a woman says to you, which is a symptom of neediness and NOT niceness, I don't think you have to change the fact that you are a nice guy. I think nice is not the thing you should strive for. You need to strive to be kind, which is a word that has more clarity and heart behind it. Nice is a way of acting, but kindness is an intrinsic quality that offers goodness by the means of your heart. There is no false pretences to kindness that there is to niceness. Kindness is what it is, but niceness can be perceived in too many ways that its meaning has all been lost through ambiguity.
I think there is someone out there who will find you fascinating, and most likely, it will be for the qualities you possess right now, and not so thing that you feel you are missing in your life.
Hope I helped a little bit.
I’ve always said boys have swag men have class. so NO swaggers does nothing. swag will never pay the bills. But what makes a man intresting is when he has an opinion , when he is intrested in things and shows it. Like this new guy i’m talking to he’s really into art and culture and talks diffrent lanuages.He takes me to museums for dates and has endless things to say to keep my attenchion span with him. When their into sport activitys , and is willing to teach me or if he’s able to explain what I don’t know.
If we have things in common it makes it more intresting that way we can talk about them and he can argue with me on topics of reason. Or like this new guy is a physical trainer so he’s teaching me things I didn’t know and all.
When they can hold a solid conversation and don’t keep saying ‘sooo….’ that drives me nuts if I have to keep the convo up by myself. If he’s had short term and or long term goals so we know wear we stand when were talking on to what this might lead too. So sexy when a guy can think for himself and realize right from wrong and smart from stupid. I find it rather annoying when a guy is always asking me if that’s a stupid decsion or not.
Now about looks , looks need to be their you NEED to be attracted to the person on some level, i’m sorry but your lying if you say other. It’s human nature. I like a guy to always dress nice and have style, but then again my ex usually rocked a snapback, black tee, kaki long shorts, and some fresh sneakers but when we went out he dressed up way nicer. Always shaved on the face and leg hair trimed it freaks me out when guys have too much leg hair.
But some guys have this natrually striking thing about them it’s just in their nature , how they walk and talk who they are really. Don’t ask me how I’ve seen it many times but don’t know how to explain it other than it’s just something natrual they have that makes them that way.
My boyfriend's a nice guy, he's really close to his family, he's always looks out for them. When someone does something nice for him he always tells me what a nice thing they did. He treats everyone so well especially me...so what makes him a nice guy and attractive, well he's funny, loves local history so I guess his interests, he's assertive and he's confident like he knows what he's got is good...key I think is having hobbies or things that you're into that you can talk about, defo being assertive like if you don't agree with something say and not going along with the crowd, and self confidence
*call women hoes
*try to **** on the first date
*dress in a unique, but style
*disregard all advice that women give you on getting girls because, bless em, they don't know what they want.
*always say what's on your mind.
*call every girl you meet "baby" or some variation of that based on your social circle/age etc.
never apoligize for anything you do except maybe for talking to another girl.
*when girls get out of line check them calmly. (more for relationships...a little risky to check a girl who isn't your girlfriend.)
*always have a lot of money and flaunt it (carry 100s instead of just your cards note you don't need to spend the money or even comment on it just let them know you got it like that or think you got it like that)
*tell them how you beat a guy up once or twice (ive never tried this but I expect it might give an edge to your personality)
*use pick up lines. They never work but they show you're not a guy trying to be their friend early on which frames you right.
Being nice is a good thing. The problem is when people label you "nice" because they can't think of anything more complimentary to say about you - that means you're boring.
Most guys are nice (at least the ones in serious relationships are), but they also have other things going for them as well - like maybe they're funny / adventurous / outgoing / passionate about something / etc.
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Showing pride and passion in what you do, no matter what it is. You don't need to have a special talent for art or football, you just need what you have. Show me you're proud of it and I'll find it interesting.
Game. You need game. Look up Dalrock, Rational Male, like them, and you'll learn.
Basically, think of it like this--Jason Bourne. Daniel Craig's James Bond. Raylan Givens. Leon S Kennedey. Hell, Severus Snape.
Think of every male movie character that girls like.
They're largely good guys. But they're not nice. They don't make an effort to please everyone. Bond? He's polite to all the people he just deals with briefly, like the hotel clerk, etc, but he doesn't try to be nice to his teammates. He'll disagree, make passes at a woman, give an insult, make a bitter comment.
Snape, look at him. He has a fan club or million. He's everything women love--he's aloof, somewhat bitter, a bit of a jerk, he's burned out romantically.
To me it's someone who will go out and just get crazy (not like super over the top take their pants off in public), someone who's very adventuress, and not afraid to live live. Those are the kinda guys I find interesting and wanna know
Don't have an in depth answer at the moment. But everyone should be nice on a vase level. I've always found girls like tension, good and bad. When you flirt like that, it comes off more genuine
Do something, anything. Interesting people are interesting because of the activities and hobbies they're involved in. Sometimes their work makes them interesting, but really... nobody wants to talk about work for the beginning stages of a relationship. Be the guy that knows where cool stuff is going down so you can invite others to go along. Make sure it's stuff you actually WANT to do though, otherwise you'll be bored and people will only see that instead.
Similar interests the only thing I can think of really.
I have friends who's boyfriends talk about video games like 24/7 and I find them to be super boring but my friends don't because they are into video games too.
A funny, outgoing, adventurous, nice person would be interesting to me personally.
Why would you want to get away from the nice guy image? You attract the type of person that you are. I'd rather attract people who are successful, ambitious, smart and NICE, then people with swag.
Everybody has something unique and interesting about them. There is nothing wrong with being nice.
A guy can be nice and interesting at the same time. Like gator909 said...as long as you don't let people walk all over you, you have nothing to worry about.
What a girl deems as "interesting" is different or everyone. For me, it's a great sense of humor and someone I can have fun with and laugh with. Usually, someone that's just as weird and goofy as I am :-P
It depends what I want him for.
Short term requires only superficial attributes.
Long term intelligence, humor, high self esteem / confidence, ambicious, and loyal.
This will answer all of your questions...
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Have hobbies. Don't always run to fix a girl's emotional needs.
The term "nice guy" means you let people walk all over you. If you are not letting this happen you have nothing to worry about.
it's subjective.
hobbies, interests, being funny/witty, anecdotes, etc.
even if one is dull (it's only contemporary pop culture that says being dull is bad) then having hobbies and anecdotes can make one interesting.
may be you give to much respect to women. Like very polite even with your friends(girls). Try to flirt with them and play some pranks and make some jokes about them, don't always help them in school or homework but instead ask for help from them
Punch some people in the face and you won't be nice anymore.
not boring and is humorous and fun loving
if he is good looking
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