What keeps you interested in a guy?

[jennifer_bloom]

Since I have only dated one time I don’t know how to distinguish between short term love and long term love but I know from the Rachel and Leah story that some love grows strong over the years while other loves start out strong but weaken as the years go by.

[Aerissa_Jade]

How well we get along, when we have disagreements, how well we handle them. Civilly like we love each other, or manipulatively. Also, how well enjoy each other's company and get along.

Are we just coming home from work and doing our own thing cause we have nothing in common or are we both excited to see each other and do stuff together. Sure its hard for me to read my favorite Author's books but I like it when he has something to do during that time, that he wants to do on his own.

When he takes a interest in me and what I like to do, then it makes me feel very special. I try to return that to him and take an interest in what he likes to do. Then hopefully there is many things that we both like to do together. That keeps me interested in him when we can find things to do together.

[Ghen30]

Oh, that's easy!
1. He initiates a call/text with you most of the time but not all the time.
2. He flirts back.
3. He doesn't leave you on "Read".
4. Doesn't prioritize video games over sending you a quick message.
5. Includes you in his fun activities.
6. Doesn't keep you a secret from family/friends.
7. Can make me laugh, smile and feel loved.
8. Gives me lots of hugs and cuddles.
9. Doesn't force me to do anything I'm not comfortable with.
10. Is loyal and honest about his feelings and opinions.

[Anonymous]

I'm afraid your definition of 'love' is off-base when it comes to a real relationship.

Your using it to imply it is the emotion of infatuation, which is a very different thing that like all emotions are temporary thou they may last a long time they come and go with time.

The original and meaningful definition of Love is simply commitment to care and support. This is why the bible instructs us to Love our neighbor as well as our wife/husband.

You do not enter a long term relationship with anyone on the basis of a mere emotion. There must be a solid reasons and objectives behind that relationship to support its terms. Marriage for example is a partnership about long term security and children.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Jennifer,

While I'm not interested in guys "in that way", I do know I want a long term love. This is why I've never been one for ONS / hookup culture / friends with benefits. It just isn't in me. I know this. I also don't casually date (meaning date just to say Ii'm in a relationship. All of these are probably why I haven't been in a LTR. I'm totally fine with that as well.

I agree with you, I'd like to have a love that gets stronger as the years go by. Maybe it's in the cards for me, maybe it isn't. I just know that I have to love me to the best of my ability.

I'm not sure what story you're referring to when you say "Rachel and Leah" story.

[Jemini_Crocket]

He should be attentive so communication is really important for the relationship to last long. I think the most important thing is to never take the other for granted and cherish every moment together if possible, that keeps the spark alive and the relationship too.

[ManOnFire]

I think most women of today, in the western world anyway, fall into the second category you described: love starts out strong but weakens as time goes by. Because a lot of women tend to get super excited about a guy in the beginning but as time goes on they start getting "bored" like teenagers and want something else. This is largely due to the fact that women are often emptier inside than men are, and need a constant change in external sources, people, things, etc. to stay satisfied.

[Inbox]

@ManOnFire Most women are driven by an infantile narcissism I found.

[devilish-cutie]

a lot of time men get too comfortable and lazy when they get the girl so often they are not the same man they presented to be

[Inbox]

@devilish-cutie It's the same with women from my experience at least. 95% of the time, it's me leaving women because they stop putting effort once they know that I like them. I think it's just human nature.

[ManOnFire]

@devilish-cutie Women still phase into what I detailed even when the men aren't turning lazy.

[devilish-cutie]

I think a lot of people generally choose relationships they are not that crazy about to begin with so its no surprise they dont last

[Squaresquirrel]

If he is a challenge, he has his own life and own opinions and views and he doesn't bend over backwards just to get pussy.
If I respect who he is and he is more intelligent than me. I am hooked forever.

[Subarugirl]

Commitment, love is a choice not an emotion. You make the choice to love someone, and you keep making that choice.

[monorprise]

This really is the point, love is one of the most overloaded and redefined words in the English language. To most people today it unfortunate refers to infatuation, or attraction.
When in fact it is little more than commitment to honor and take care of. This is why God instructs us to love our neighbors and as well as our wife.

The practice of loving by this redefinition has thus fallen apart, just like Marriage before it among thous who know the original meaning not.

[Xtendable]

I don’t know if Rachel and Leah is s good model for you. Both were arranged, one relationship was of necessity, and the child bearing was a contest between the women and they saw it as whoever bore more children would find favour with their husband (to the point of scheming and offering their concubines to their husband in order to win).

[Anonymous]

I've known him for 4 years and he's been my best friend and my boyfriend for the past three years. When we first started dating we had our problems, but got through them. Took a while to get there, but we've never been better than we are now. I don't think love is supposed to be sudden, I think that's called lust. I don't believe in love at first sight or soulmates. Love has to be grown. Grow in love don't fall in love.

[scarletyes]

I would stay interested if he didn't change over time to a different person. (In a negative way) But also, I would stay interested if he made me feel like I could be myself around him, feel loved, make an effort to be with me and just be there for me! I would do the same for him. :)

[England4eva]

Communication and mutual respect. If a guy can’t apologise when he makes a major error and hurts me, I call it quits pretty quick. Can’t stand this sort of ego.

[Guy__]

Emotional nearness in other words?

[England4eva]

@Guy__ nearness?

[Guy__]

Yes, what some call closeness. Like the opposite of unavailability and loneliness.

[England4eva]

@Guy__ yeah I need that, some men cannot offer it

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

I’m not sure. I’m curious myself. I just feel like it’d be hard to keep interested. Then again if they don’t give me hard core labels or pressure I think I’ll be alright.

[Kha0tiic_xo]

This personality and sense of humor, being confident but not cocky! A man who knows who he is!

[mobiusforniner]

Jennifer, you must first be willing to open your own heart and you'll find many decent men will fall in live with you.

[WhitneySnow]

If he’s good to me kind empathetic nice to my friends

[GreedGod]

Just being a chad makes a girl interested in a guy.

[Guy__]

A big guy sparks lust but does it keep her happy long term? Another chad with a body, brain, and a heart will steal her from you.

[GreedGod]

No I'm not saying about long term. You have to at least get into the entrance before even keeping her interested is what I mean.

[Guy__]

That's what the question was. Yes, low testosterone will make her run.

[GreedGod]

Yeah, I have seen no matter how interesting I am, any girl would leave me for a taller and muscular guy.

[Guy__]

I would write you something but decided to private message. It says you have to follow me first in order for me to send a message.

[GreedGod]

Ok, I accepted the request

[Guy__]

It says you have to follow or change your settings to allow me.

[GreedGod]

Wait

[GreedGod]

I sent a message

[jennifer_bloom]

I just want to say Guy sounds suspicious, his voice does not sound like the voice of a real Christian.

[Guy__]

Is greed God a Christian? Why would it matter to him?

[GreedGod]

I'm not a Christian. I'm atheist.

[GreedGod]

Oh, you're talking about him, alright

[Guy__]

I take wisdom from every culture and leave the dogma that's used to manipulate people. It's undeniable that there are laws set in the universe, such as you reap what you show.

[jennifer_bloom]

Talking about guy - his voice sounds pretentious and pompous to me

[Guy__]

I don't go to church. Period.

[zagor]

If he is funny, fun to hang out with, shares common interests, and doesn't expect me to have sex with him.

[scarletyes]

Are you gay?

[zagor]

@scarletyes Nope.

[Anonymous]

Women bore me. This is why I don't date. They lack quality and essence.

[jennifer_bloom]

Are we talking plastic qualities and herbal essence?

[Wise4myage]

If It was a girl, it would be personality from my perspective.

[Quigly]

There is no such thing as short term love. That's infatuation.

[Creampiekarl420]

Im usually only friends with guys who have hot moms

[Guy__]

Hahaha

[Guy__]

Did it ever progress?

[Creampiekarl420]

@Guy__ nah it’s just fun to harass my friends especially when their moms are hot

[UpdateGloomyNights_]

Adultery kills love and affection. but the bond of marriage strengthens love

[Tina19]

Good sense of humor
Strong sexual chemistry

[Erron_Black]

Is there a sexy woman than you where you live?

[yourmancallsme]

The desire to get to know him better🤷🏽‍♀️

[xJayleenx]

Kindness and affection

[brezzerlicious1996]

The way they are with me

[Sparklegirl1616]

His loyalty

[sheikalana]

Consistency.

[hornyguyyyyuy]

Umm so hot kiss