Is the best revenge, kindness?

[Anonymous]

I was reading all this post about break ups, and all the terrible things we do to our exs for revenge. However, how awesome would it be if you just were the nicest sweetest thing to everyone around you including your ex. Your ex would be so mad because, she or he would think did I screw up? and everyone will think man your really nice and your ex is a jerk.

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+1 y

Your all totally right! Let just be nice because we can not because we have a bad motive. Break ups suck as it is, so why make it worse. Thanks!

[lerzygirl]

The happier and the nicer you are makes your life better. Being mean and mad puts you in a bad mood. The break up was his punishment he does not deserve more. Just be friendly and nice and it will not only be good for you but also the people around you. Also make sure your intentions are selfless not selfish. Because that can also be bad too. Because you can try to be as nice as you want but if your intentions are selfish then you will still not be as bright as you can be because it will hold you back.

[Anonymous]

Being nice without giving them a lot of attention is best. You can wish them happy birthday or happy New Years but they shouldn't occupy your time like when you were dating.

Being nice is best. Just because people make mistakes or the dating did not work out, doesn't mean that you should get revenge or be mean.

[Anonymous]

THIS IS THE SOLUTION!

Great insight. You are absolutely right :) A desire for revenge only leads to obsession over things that hurt no one but the person who wants revenge.

[Cromartie]

No. There is no "best revenge". A person who doesn't let revenge take them is a person who has become victor over the bitterness. Nothing, and I mean nothing, good comes from bitter intentions no matter whether it be murder and malice or false love and good behavior.

[Cromartie]

Mhm.

[kangaru]

Yes it is the best way but for your own good and not to make him regret

[Anonymous]

Nothing hurts someone more than being kind, and showing them you are still happy.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would agree with that. No point in lowering oneself.