My girlfriend wants me to pay for her student loan?

[jakeofalltrades]

so the other day my girlfriend texted me, asking if I had a checking account. turns out she wanted to set up an autopay with my account, $50 a month for her finical aid loan. her first thought was me. she doesn't have a job, and appears to have non intention of ever getting one. what should I do?

[JudgmentDay]

Tell her that she better get her shit together at some point and get a real job and not leech off you to help her pay off her financial responsibilities. Because if she is doing this now and don't even bother to put in the time and effort to find a job, she will eventually completely and solely depend upon you to help her financially. In the beginning it may be ok at first, if there are difficulties in getting a job but as long as she really is doing her best in applying by sending cover letters, going to job fairs, networking, interviewing, etc., proves that she actually did really try and is still not getting anywhere, and needs your help. But if she's not showing any signs of getting her act together, then this relationship will fail, as she only becomes dependent upon you solely to provide her comfort and security.

by the way, what did your girlfriend majored or studied in College? I really hope it wasn't one of those Liberal Arts majors as they're are absolutely fucking terrible for finding any job position that is currently in the real world and with the current economic situation worldwide even those that are in better realistic or practical majors still suffer and struggle to find jobs and even get call backs or interviews from companies and employers that they had applied for. Otherwise, if she even gets lucky she might find something available at a local retail store, grocery store or fast food restaurant, since those places don't require any degree but it's all terrible low pay They all pay minimum wage or slightly over, but it's still better than nothing to help deal with student loan debts.

[JudgmentDay]

Thanks for MHO!

[MrAtticusLebowski]

Huge red flag here man. You feel you absolutely have to help her financially?(which you shouldn't)... lend/give her the cash only. Do not involve your debit card or bank info. Especially your account and routing number.

Under no circumstances should you give her your account information. Sounds like she's trying to fuck you over here man.

[jakeofalltrades]

even if I do decide to help, I wasn't going to use autopay but pay it every month. and I would be doing it not her

[MrAtticusLebowski]

Be honest here, do you believe she'll ever pay it back her self? What usually happens is women will marry some dumb sap' and that debt can become communal property meaning it's his debt now (depends on the state).

Why bother helping if she has no intention of paying it her self. Most people would be embarrassed to ask someone that wasn't their husband/fiance to pay their debt.

[btbc92]

Don't do it! You are her boyfriend NOT her husband. It is not your job to pay for whatever she needs. You do so out of your own free will and good intentions. Let her get off her butt and find a part time job so she can pay a $50 a month of he financial aid loan. That was her choice to take out a loan, let her deal with it. And if she doesn't want to change and get a job then leave her. It isn't for you to do. Stop tolerating this. She isn't entitled to anything she hasn't worked for.

[Touchmehxx]

Why is it ok for a husband to do it

[btbc92]

@Touchmehxx

Because when your married what's yours is his and what's his is yours. It is an automatic unless the couple comes to an agreement to do different. That is not a boyfriend's responsibly. That is the responsibility of somebody of higher status and authority. Not somebody below that status of legal spouse.

[btbc92]

A woman is considered LEGALLY single even when she is seeing a person. That is not his financial responsibility unless he decides to put himself there. He can always take himself out of it. And at the end of the day she will still have to pay for her loans. The bill is in her name, not his.

[Touchmehxx]

I would still say that , in a marriage, something personal like this you have to pay for yourself

[btbc92]

@Touchmehxx of course. There is no denial there I believe the same way. What matters is that the couple come together to help one another. However what I was stating is the issue of the Asker and his Girlfriend's case.

[Jaye234]

She's not your wife, she doesn't have a job or the want to. Tell her no you can't do that. If she gets pissed oh well. And how long have y'all been together any way? I'm guessing not for years as in 2-4 plus years. Don't feel guilty over not paying for her college education. Isn't that her parents job? Yes it is. You're so young you're probably going to school yourself plus working. She needs to act like an adult.

[jakeofalltrades]

we have bee dating for 5 years

[Jaye234]

Ok wow but listen to everyone whose answered your question. No no no. Don't let her have access to your bank account. Bad idea. Even though y'all have been together that long I'd still not do that. Tell her to get a J. O. B!

[MargaritaPeach]

I'd say no if I were you. That is her responsibility. If she went to school and racked up student loans, she is clearly capable of working to pay for them. Everyone should pull their weight in this world. What if you break up in six months and you are still stuck paying? Also, it sets her up to create a habit or pattern of laziness. That's not good for anyone or any relationship.

[FashionQueen86]

Um... NO. That is HER responsibility. Why should it come out of her pocket? And if she gets mad and pissed off at you, LEAVE. That's how you know she's self-entitled user. If a girlfriend truly cared about you, she would not want your finances strained becuase of her.

[EmpatheticLady]

Nope, that is not for you to pay. That's on her. I know how expensive the loans can be and how rough they are to pay, but that money shouldn't come out of your pocket.

[JSmuve]

Drop the money grubbing bitch. If you give in this time it sets a dangerous precedent that she can just use you as her own personal bank account. That's a scary situation and a slippery slope. Nip it in the bud and either tell her a firm no or kick her ass to the curb, or both.

[Azgeda]

Dis you if you say yes.
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[TripleAce]

Bah I've seen worse lol

If you really want to do it. Set it up as a loan to her. But have in on paper. You don't have to ask for it back. But at least this way you can if you want too

Tell bae not to argue here or she can get her 50 bucks from waiting tables 😬

[WillowTree]

Help her fill out some job applications and when she gets her first check, offer to drive her to the bank to open an account to deposit it. That's all a good boyfriend should do in this situation and nothing more.

[Anonymous]

Tell her no? She can't use you as an atm. Especially if she has no plan of getting a job

[Relentless_Hippie]

Break up with her entitled behind. Like seriously, what kind of person does that?

[MementoMori_]

Whatever you do don't pay it. Tell her you will help her find a job instead. She needs to learn to be responsible and if you pay it for her it will be bad for you, bad for her and bad for your relationship.

[Newaza]

FUCKING RUN!! That's completely ridiculous! You can check your balls at the door if you do. No one told her to go to college and irresponsibly get herself into debt.

[ginny_weasley]

Wtf? No, I suggest you leave this relationship now.

[Máiiréad]

That is not okay, do not let her use you like that.

[AleDeEurope]

Dumpitty dump dump.
She wants you for your money, time to kick her out. Bye bye bitch! :D

[Julie_TS]

Uhhhh, yeah... no. Why are we even talking about this?

[Afrochick]

It's up to you man...
She is an adult now, can't she send in a job application to Mcdonalds to chip away at her debt?
R U A SUGAR DADDY or a BOYFRIEND?

[JessTheMess]

Say no. Encourage her to get a job! But do it in a tasteful way!

[SunnyCaliGirl]

She need to responsible for her own financial situation and she needs to grown, learn life is tough and get a job.

[Anonymous]

Let's ask Mr. T:

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[singlebee]

Nope dude you are not her father... don't pay for her... at all

[singlebee]

Don't let her use you like that

[CisScum]

Tell her to stop being lazy and get a job, you shouldn't have to pay for it. You aren't her sugar daddy.

[confusedteenager_09]

uuuh no fuckin way don't do it thats a stupid fucking idea that is suicide no way even if she doesn't dump ur ass its sketchy ass hell and ur gonna be broke no way dont do it

[Sublime45]

Unless you two are really close, I wouldn't pay for her! :D

[AssJacket]

Fuck. That. Tell her if she's gonna be talking like a whore, she better act like one, too.

[TheDevilInside]

Get out now. Tell her to get a sugar daddy instead

[This_is_my_username]

Dump her before she wants your house too

[rgb008]

holy shit lmfao
DUMP HER

[MaybeNot1]

You need to send that bitch to work.

[Autumn-Bunny]

Wth? Just say no and I suggest you leave her.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

Tell her to eat a dick

[This_is_my_username]

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[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@This_is_my_username if it makes you feel better, I don't do Springer 🙅. Also, I was super nervous of where that gif was going 😳

[abc3643]

no. 5p a month is nothing. she can afford it.

[Thrifty]

lol. it's only $50 a month sugar daddy.

[Sojex]

Haha you'd be dumb as fuck to agree to that

[Truthatanycost]

Ditch her ass.

[Touchmehxx]

Do not pay it

[Anonymous]

Don't do it man, she's just gonna use you.

[Anonymous]

Not pay

[Anonymous]

i wouldn't. not after a question i saw today

[Anonymous]

Dump her ass