Is premature ejaculation a deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry I know this is an awkward topic but I have this problem and I wanna know the truth, is it a big problem? would you bare with it and help or not? if you knew in advance that he has this problem would you still date him? do you make fun of him behind his back and tell your friends or keep it a secret?
please I'm being serious here so no one judge or anything please

yes

no

it depends

[swanask]

If he was my boyfriend I wouldn't make fun of him or talk to anyone about it. The bedroom is our business, not anyone else's,. That said, if it was getting in the way of sex then I would have a conversation with him about it and together we would try to look for ways for him to work on it. I wouldn't leave him to deal with it alone, especially if it's something that bothered or upset him - he's my boyfriend so I care about him.

[Anonymous]

it is a deal breaker IF he does not face that he has a problem and try to fix it. my ex always avoids to have sex because of this and he does not want to admit that he has a problem.. even if I was trying to help nicely and try to make him more confident in bed..

[samhradh_leannan]

No, it's not a dealbreaker, and I would do my best to handle the situation with respect and discretion. However, I'd also expect him to be willing to satisfy me in other ways, if sexual intercourse wasn't lasting long enough.

[Asker]

and I'm ready to do anything for her to make up for the problem and make her satisfied too

[samhradh_leannan]

Then for me, it wouldn't be an issue.

[Asker]

god bless women like you🙏

[genericname85]

if it happens rarely, most girls will be ok with it. if you do it every time, what could be a problem. specially if you don´t do your best to get her to have an orgasm.

[Asker]

it happens most of times and I really do try my best to make her orgasm too

[genericname85]

regulate your speed then. if you don´t go too fast, you shouldn´t cum fast. also you can do kegels (yes it does help guys too). lastly you can train in masturbation. try a tighter grip and learn when you will cum. intentionally go slower every time you feel like cumming and extend your duration by training not to cum in masturbation. bring yourself to the edge but then go slow or stop. do that over and over. at some point you´ll extend your duration and gain better control.

[Asker]

Thank you I really appreciate your help

[NotBlueAnon]

It can be if you don't manage to satisfy her.
Sex doesn't need to end once you cum. Eat her out, make her cum, and your problem won't be as big of a problem.

[Asker]

I do that.. thanks for your help

[Eileish]

It's not a deal breaker but please don't be selfish. I've had it happen before with a guy and he just rolled over and fell asleep and let me hanging, like come on 😂

[Asker]

no I swear I'm not selfish, I know I don't last long and that's why I never start penetration till I make her climax from oral

[Anonymous]

TBH... I don't much care for sex. I do it mostly for him. So... if he were a quick finisher... I wouldn't mind.

[Asker]

where are girls like you in my life😍

[up_here]

ok so yes is a problem. figure out how you can last longer. dont go straight frowrd for penetration, play and play a little longer so your partner is arouse and hopefully cum too.
If you know you can get that going at least give oral.

[Asker]

I do at least 10 minutes oral before I start penetration and I never penetrate before making her cum first

[up_here]

excellent! she lucky!

[Asker]

Thank you but my fear is that I know a lot of girls one orgasm isn't enough

[up_here]

yep. yake a break and then start again

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your help

[up_here]

also there are lotion/products that can help you last a it longer. start there.

[bedroomeyes]

If it can't be rectified with stamina exercises or pills or whatever, then yes.

[Asker]

I'm ready to do anything if it helps

[bedroomeyes]

That's helpful for your relationship. Not so much helpful for me.

[Asker]

I'm not in a relationship but I'm just saying if there's a solution I'm down to try it

[Chicnala]

If its happening a lot then u might encounter some issues but otherwise most couples learn to deal with it.

[Asker]

it happens like 80% of the times

[Chicnala]

Then you have to learn other ways of pleasing her, luckily women can be "pleased" even without intercourse. But also seeing a doctor or finding material about dealing with the issue could help. There's a lot of literature online that you can read but seeing a doctor would help. Be open about it with her.

[Anonymous]

It'd be a deal breaker if he refuses to address it. But I'd try to work with him on it if he was willing to bring me to orgasm with his fingers or mouth.

[ObviouslyBored]

I only need 15 minutes if he's doing it right.

[Asker]

That's really very long for me

[disgustingweebtrash]

It depends

[Asker]

on what?

[disgustingweebtrash]

If it's hot big sticky loads then it's great

If it's not them she will dump him

[Asker]

I don't know what that has to do with the question

[disgustingweebtrash]

Then why did you ask the question

[Asker]

because I thought you would give a reasonable answer... not talking about something that doesn't has to do something with the question

[disgustingweebtrash]

But it does answer the question, if he gives off hot big sticky loads it's great.

[Asker]

How a big thick load would satisfy the girl? I don't get it

[disgustingweebtrash]

Trust me, they love it. Almost as much as they love other women

[Asker]

ok man whatever

[disgustingweebtrash]

You're welcome bro

[Anonymous]

Yeah you can't pleasure a woman that way

[Asker]

really? no hope or solution?

[Anonymous]

it is fine

[Asker]

really? thank you for your opinion