Why are young men (25 years old) attracted to older women (40+ years old)?

[barbie2525]

Why do younger men find older women attractive? I don't get it. I'm young, hot and fun! I mean c'mon I shouldn't have to compete with old women, should I? I have been dating this guy for almost a year and we spend every weekend together and some times we see each other during the week. We went out this past weekend drinking and I on accident discovered he was texting this older lady. (by process of investigation I found out she's 40 years old) So the convo went as follows: in June she text him saying her grandpa had a heart attack and he responded I'm sorry to hear that. Then in late July he text her saying he saw a lady at the bar that looked similar to her but "not as hot" and she's like I'm glad not as hot ha ha then he's like hope all is well with you and she's like you too. End of conversation.. no phone calls or anything else between them> He was a t the bars with me that night the previous weekend and we did talk to some older ladies therefore I'm sure that's where that came from. Should I be worried about this? Or is this just small talk and nothing more. I really don't think he would ever act upon it he has always been straight forward to me about everything.

[minnie12]

I'm in my 40s and when I started dating again I was shocked at how many men in their 20s were hitting on me. I thought if I told them my age they would run screaming but instead they seemed to get even more interested. I think its pretty similar to why young girls like older men but there are some general things that may come into play: an older woman typically is pretty confident in herself and may not engage in as much drama and games; she may not be looking for a serious relationship with marriage and kids but instead just be enjoying life and looking for someone to have fun with; she may be more financially secure and not expect the man to take care of her; and then there's the obvious where she may have more experience in bed - know what she wants, how to do it and not be afraid to try new things. On the flip side, its pretty good for the ego to go out with a younger man but it would be pretty hard to have a relationship with them because you just aren't at the same place in life.

As long as your boyfriend isn't acting on these things then I wouldn't worry about it - and at least you know if you stick with him that he won't be looking around at young girls later on.

[Anonymous]

I was wondering this too. I'm not a guy but I think it may be due to the confidence they possess and the fact that many of them know what they want, and maybe they like the sexual and life experience they have. I would even venture to say that early childhood experiences may play a part in this. Maybe he was very attached to the nurturing role that an older woman (mom? aunt? grandma?) played in his life? I don't have a psych degree though, this is just pure speculation!

I know how you feel, I'm into this guy that's a little bit younger than me right now, and wouldn't ya know? he likes older women! I'm 2 years older than him, but he prefers them like 2 decades lol!

[Thiezz]

I think the 'competition' you get from older women is really not that impressive compared to the competition that young men get from older men. In general men prefer younger women rather than older ones.

Just compare the number of "I'm 12 and he's 50, does the age difference really matter?" questions to the number of "I'm 12 and she's 50, does the difference really matter?" questions (ages may have been slightly exaggerated) and you'll see that I'm right ;-)

Maybe your particular guy has a thing for older women, but I assure you the majority of guys does not.

[thelogicstick]

I'm not all that attracted to older women, but I'm not all that nit-picky either. I prefer women around my age with a maximum difference of 3 years.

[Alistar]

I didn't find 40 year old women attractive when I was 25 but they came after me.

... And this week I've had to fend off one 64 year old and one 67 year old.

So nothing much has changed.

[dudeman]

its because we don't take them seriously. there just there for fun and we hope that they know we are not serious about them they must right there old they know what this is about