Massive crush on a dickhead?

[Anonymous]

I’ve liked this guy for two years straight now. In this time he’s had a girlfriend and they broke up. About few months ago we started talking but I realised that he only wanted sex and he’d done this to loads of girls, so in short, he’s a dick. At first I didn’t say no because I liked him so much and we carried on talking but recently I drew the line and said no sex if we weren’t going out. He called me boring for that. I don’t know if I did the right thing because he said he really liked me and I was convinced. He even said he was looking to go out with me, but he wanted sex first. I’m looking for advice because although I’ve told him no we are still good friends and I still like him a lot. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

Let me try and understand this.
He broke up with a girl
Called you for sex
Called you boring for having self respect and not having sex with him.

But now all the sudden he changed his tune? He just wants to destroy something beautiful. Also you are under 18 what the heck. People your age don't know what they want.

[Asker]

Yep that’s the story in a nutshell. We are 15/16 in case you were wondering. It’s incredibly young, right?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, Let me just say this. If there was one thing I could take back in my entire life, it would have been popped cherry. This generation is morally unacceptable and it is disgusting. Social media has made it easy for trash to float around the web and intermingle with innocent people who are genuine looking for stable relationships. Never give someone the one thing that demands respect, your body.

[Asker]

Thank you for this, all my friends I speak to say I’m being ridiculous by not doing it because I like him so much, you’ve been really helpful

[Opinion Owner]

Never listen to your friends, you are who you are because of the choices you make not them. Figure out the type of person you want to be and stick to it. Have boundaries. When you are out of school, you realize who your real friends were. Don't ever let them pressure you into dumb shit, those are not friends those are homewreckers in the making.

[aoifeislovable]

Nope nope baby girl you are just going to get hurt, it won't end well for you because you have feelings and he's just using you, try to cut him off or avoid him... do not sleep with him he'll break your heart

[Asker]

Yeah I think I might distance myself from him and not be as good friends, might help me to get over him

[Galin]

If he really liked you he wouldve go out. You made the right decision on saying no sex before we go out that makes him at least do something for you and if he doesn't go out with you just forget about him

[Galin]

Oh a guy before me said the exactly same thing sorry didn't see xD

[WeirdoWerdo]

Boi.

[Galin]

xDDD

[Asker]

Yeah it’s the forgetting part that’s hard when I talk to him every day haha

[WeirdoWerdo]

"Wanted sex first" you certainly did right not to have sex.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s what I thought as well, I said “if you really liked me we would be dating before sex” and he said that wasn’t true and boys didn’t work like that, he was lying then right?

[WeirdoWerdo]

He seems narrow minded, and I think he is trying to manipulate you a lil' bit to just get sex. He said guys don't work that way? For god sake for some reason I think one should have sex after 1 or 2 YEARS into the relationship. Which seems fitting actually to me. If I had a girlfriend now and she wanted sex I'd nicely say no as I'm not ready for that. He was lying a lot...

[Asker]

Thankssss this was incredibly helpful I’ve spoken to boys in my school about it, they think he’s been reasonable but morally I’ve always thought you should wait. My girl friends also think he’s mostly in the right.

[WeirdoWerdo]

You either have some weird ass guy and girl friends or y'all young.