He admitted he sometimes thinks about his ex when he masturbates?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are long distance and our conversations often turn sexual. Last night, after our ‘sexy’ time, I casually asked him if his ex popped in his mind when he masturbated, to which he replied with sometimes after a few seconds of silence. Now I regret even asking. I don’t know how normal is this or if I should be worried. I mean, my ex is an ex for a reason and there’s not even room for him in my mind now. How do you think I should react? I keep thinking about this and feel some trust issues coming their way

[liTeWave]

Well if he had a shit hole ex, he wouldn't. But clearly he has an ex who was a good enough person that her memory remains positive. She's still an ex, but you have a man who's probably able to break up on good terms, who went forget you in a moment. Relationships actually mean something to him.

[Ksvm73]

Lmao that's complete bullshit. The only reason he does this is because his ex was probably really hot.

[liTeWave]

Ksvm73, you're right on that one. But I promise, you don't fantasise about an ex where the relationship shattered or trust was destroyed or there was major toxicity. You only do if it ended with some mutual trust intact, on relatively good terms, so that the memories are still positive. Says very good things about a guy that his relationships end like that. Yes, when you end on good terms, you allow yourself to fantasise about the good things you have that you appreciated. The memories of the person are still happy.

Doesn't mean you're not over her. You can be totally over her. 10 years can have passed. Just you have happy, and yes hot, memories to go back to, that's all. You don't fantasise like that about the assholes. So it tells me both that she was hot, AND that this guy does not date assholes, and isn't one himself. But it does NOT tell me that he isn't over her

[madhatters4]

well that's messed up. messed up that he told you. but you also asked. unless you have real worries about him not being over his ex the reality is she just a mental sex object to get off to no different than pictures of models or porn. not all that big of a deal.

[SarahsSummer]

Could it be because he had a real live in-person sexual relationship with her and you two are “long distance”? Regardless, you can’t control a persons mind and or fantasies. The moment you do, the relationship is doomed.

[girlcooties]

I would say that’s normal
considering you two are long distance. Also don’t ask what you don’t want to know

[pasoccer]

Guys work different than girls. I think about a random girl I saw during the day, some times my ex. It likely doesn't mean anything. The fact that he told you the truth is a big good sign that even though he wasn't comfortable with the question, or telling you; he did.
That's just my two cents based on this question alone.

[Vinayak009]

You are right. Your ex is an ex and not some random dude for a reason.

No matter how much you try it is impossible for most people to get over the people in their past.

Since you have been able to get over him so well, I would believe your boyfriend is doing a good job.

On top of that, he was honest with you, that he did think of his ex. I believe he should get points for that.

Also have you 2 never done any kind of Roleplay? As far as I can understand this kind of falls in that category.

[Egore]

Lol why should you be worried? If you only knew how many scenes, ideas and images appear in a man mind when doing that.. you wouldn't be possibly jealous ? Of an image !!

[FactsNotFeelings]

What the eff is this guy thinking? Then again, in this culture where women are supposed to be ok with their men watching porn, you shouldn't have a problem with your ex doing what he's doing. Fyi it's not ok and you shouldn't be ok with him doing that. If he respected you he wouldn't be doing that. Dump him. You deserve better.

[Finchie40]

If he is still thinking of his ex then he shouldn't be in a relationship with you , , someone that holds on to their ex would make me feel like I am not a better partner for them , so I would love on and find someone that wants me like I want them

[Anonymous]

That sucks. I would feel insulted in that case. I would prob see for sure if he’s over this and if not I would move on. Doesn’t sound ready if his ex popped in his head. I’m like you, if it’s over, it’s over and I would not be thinking of her if I’m ready for a new relationship. Good luck hon!

[ChronicThinker]

I mean, that's just a question you don't ask - almost everyone thinks of someone else when they masturbate. Not any of my exes mind you, but I'd take it positively that he was honest.

[jjjoanaaa]

That's completely normal, it happens to me too. If his an ex he used to be on your mind all the time, it's normal that sometimes he still pops in your head, even when you masturbate.

[Anonymous]

Jesus, the amount of stuff that has popped into my head during a wank is unreal. I think my dad is the most traumatic one, an ex is nothing to worry about, it's not like you just focus on one thing, several things or even sexual things.

[guyhenry]

It's normal, she lives on in his memory. The only thing you can do is find a guy without an ex

[yousir]

And LDRs don't even work out when one person ISN'T an idiot. Good luck with this one.

[Ronin82]

I think your over-reacting and possibly too immature if you can't handle the idea that men think of other women. You have a self-esteem flaw.

[swdtime]

Yes that's normal. I remember times with my first lovers when I was "18"

[Anonymous]

"Casually asked him if his ex popped in his mind when he masturbated". That's really not for you to know, and if you're afraid of the answer, don't ask the question. Also, your guy is fucking stupid for even admitting that.

[Portissac]

He's with u and being truthful saying he sometimes. That'll go away if u let it

[BurritoJuice]

Exactly this. He’s being honest with you.

[wombus22]

Its kinda weird but hey we can't help what we think about. Speaking of, can i see your tits?

[OjosOscuros2]

Damn that boy is dumb.

[Anonymous]

Boys can't easily forget them ex. So , with your love you must make him as yours.

[Naruto_Uzumaki]

I don't think that he's fully over his ex

[MelaninDoll]

You're not overreacting that's all I gotta say.