Ok we’ve been together 2 years. About a year ago I found that he had been taking photos of women in public (filming using a background app and then screenshotting.) not nudity... but these women do not know. He said it’s not really a sexual thing and yea once in a while he masterbates to some of the pics but it’s more habit? Of course promised to never do it again. Of course it always bothered me and I wondered if he truly stopped. Flash forward to two days ago. He leaves his tablet here and I’m literally using it for my cat to play a fishing game. An alert pops up for a live YouTube video , it was two girls and the title was “try on” or something like that. I clicked to open it only to continue going down the rabbit hole and breaking my own heart. I saw hundreds of videos in his history of “try on hauls,(bikini, lingerie, yoga pants whatever ) videos of women doing yoga (where they cater to the men who get off on that stuff because they have patreons and the comments etc) and a woman that does enemas ON VIDEO. My heart just broke, I felt so sick. I had to keep looking because I wanted to know it all. Found out he paid several different women to be a patreon... He also had been looking up “wedgies, mom yoga, sexy milf YouTube” etc in google. He had tumblr as well which I didn’t even know wtf that was. Well, discovered that each thing he liked or followed, were people who posted voyeur photos of women, old ladies, (50+) , and Literally named creepfreaks as screenname. A photo vault was on the tablet as well with photos of his ex and other random girls. And emails back and forth to a woman from May 20-July 8, very vague, a smiley face or a song or painting cuz she was “an artist”. I had him come over, I’d let him know I’d found shit. I cried, broke down and told him what I’d found. He defended it first saying all guys do that kinda stuff. Then his tune turned and he realized he really messed up because I was literally bringing it... continued in update
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To him whereas he never had to really think about it and stated it was his deepest darkest secret and how I must think he’s disgusting and will never get over what I saw. We cried forever, he said he would do literally anything I wanted him to do and that none of those women or those pics mean anything and he gets more than enough from me and has taken advantage of that fact. I ask about the woman he was talking to back and forth and he said it was someone who saw his truck in a parking lot and
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And wanted to show to husband. He said we weren’t together when that happened, but we took a week off, but he’d been talking to her and texting before we fought. He said he didn’t remember timelines. Anyway we talked a lot more and he agreed to get rid of it all and never do it again etc.. If he has nothing to hide as he said he would completely stop and get rid of everything and even said I could check his phone whenever. he’s now clearing his browser history. he also took a vid (pic) of my mom
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