My boyfriend asked me if I wanted to watch him fuck my friend?

[Anonymous]

Hi! My boyfriend and I have been together about a year. I really encourage him to talk to me about his sexual kinks because he doesn’t really open up about much. We’re in college and he left about a week ago, while I stayed home because COVID, and for the past week he has just been raising a lot of red flags!! We’ve talked about going on vacation and trying a threesome with a random girl we would never see again, and I was hesitant but open to it if the opportunity came. But the other day he asked for a couples swap which is where we find a couple- he fucks that guys girlfriend and I fuck the boyfriend. Where I really started to get worried was when he got drunk and was texting me asking if I would want to see him fuck MY friends. obviously I ended up stressed and crying because of course I don’t. My friends are really hot and i love them but now I don’t even want him around him and lost all trust for him being around other girls. I just don’t know what him asking me that drunk means, because at this point to me it just sounds like he’s looking for an okay way to cheat on me. He called me the next morning assuring me that he doesn’t want to fuck my friends and would never say that sober but I think being drunk was just a good way for him to get out of something he actually wants to do. Not trusting him is really hurting the way I see him, so if people could give me insight into this or tell me what to do I’d appreciate it. Most of my friends keep telling me to just breakup with him but I really do love him and idkk what I’ll do without him— extra side note: he lives 100 miles away at school but when he’s home he lives in my apartment with me (my best friend suggested he may be hanging around because of him “having it good” with me).

[heatherlou]

You asked him to open up about his kinks and desires. Obviously involving other people, for him, is a huge part of that.

Does he think your friends are hot? Yes
Would he like to fuck them? Yes
Does that mean he's going to cheat and do that? Probably not.

You opened this can of worms - and basically need to tell him where the boundaries are; and or if you're not comfortable with any of it at all.

[btbc92]

That is sick. End that relationship today. And it got to ask a question, you don't try to settle, you don't convince, you don't compromise, get out of that relationship. And Amanda asked me that question, and it's bad enough I know for a fact that I do not have sex before marriage, it's over that's a minute. There is no please but ands baby nothing. That boyfriend of yours is sick.

[TremorJay]

If fucking other people didn't hurt anyone, I think a lot of guys would do it. I wouldn't blame him for asking. Can he be content and happy with one woman, that's the question. He seems honest enough to answer that, but you would know better than I would.

[Unit1]

Watch out! He's gonna cheat on you.

Draw first before he draws. Dump him. He's gonna hurt you eventually. He is not loyal. His dick is gonna land in some other woman's vagina. Do you want that?

I don't.

[Unit1]

Thanks for the most helpful opinion

[colin77]

If he was drunk u wouldn't be able to talk with him... because wen someone is really drunk they lost all sense of communication... so he was jus intoxicated... and he spoke what was on his mind... humans need to start hav patience and choose the right people to be in their life

[SandandWaves]

I don't know what to say about the other stuff. I do know that when someone is drunk, the truth comes out.

[Orangesareyummy]

While guys pressure girls to do this all the time- I don’t think that’s right for either gender. He’s a selfish scumbag for getting your friend involved too. That’s also cheating. Kick him to the curb and find somebody with some morals.

[NightFlirt]

As long as you get to fuck other guys what does it matter?

[Anonymous]

Eh I don't know why you would be okay with couple swaps and threesomes and then get worried when he says he wanted to f your friends when he's drunk but whatever.. most probably he does want to f your friends. Breaking up might be the best option.

[Floppy2112]

Sounds like this relationship is over. Quit while you're ahead

[Anonymous]

You ask a guy to spill out his fantasies. Either he does want those things or he was just playing the game you ask him to play. Fantasies are normal and healthy, but is you uncage them you may regret it.

[Waldoe]

you know what you should do... it's in your heart, be brave, be strong

[Yellovv]

Threesome brings too many different fantasy, never gonna end for you, maybe one day he want to see with another man, while he watching.

[KrazyKem]

That's weird maybe it's a fantasy of his not that I agree tho

[chriscdi]

after all i do call the alcohol the truth serum

[Silvius]

Well, this will distroy your relationship

[EaterPeter]

Let him go. Feels like he is using you.

[Anonymous]

Major red flag alert. 🚩

[Anonymous]

i bet he had to pursue you and ask you out first

[Asker]

what does that have to do with it

[Opinion Owner]

i was speaking of my lifelong hatred of how guys are always expected to make the first move

[harry7825]

Wow what you do
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