How to ease partner into threesome?(serious response only)?

[Anonymous]

When me and my boyfriend first started dating, he was somewhat interested in having an extra partner or 2 during our sexy time. I was uncomfortable at first because I wasn’t sure during that time if he was only with me for lust or for love so we didn’t do it because he was also kind of unsure on if it would be a good idea.

a couple of years have passed and now I’m ready for a threesome and he’s not. I tried to bring it up but he thinks it’ll cause jealousy among other things like finding a partner. What do you think I should do? Because I brought it up again a couple of times before and he said he hates the idea of anyone else touching me. Should I just completely throw the idea out?

[K-I-S-S]

Start doing more sexual exploring together, on other ideas too. Also watch porn together and talk what each of you like in there.

That will keep the sexual tension high and will make it more natural to have fmf or mfm or whatever type of threesomes.

You could also meet other couples and just hang out in a more sexual way, no need to swing or swap yet, just to get used to be around other people. Some people are into having sex with their partner while another couple have sex too in the same room. Could be fun to try.

You could try some modeling photoshoots with other women, in a more sensual setting, see how he reacts etc.

And work out, both of you, it will often increase sexual drive a lot.

Just some ideas for you.

[Finchie40]

If you love and care for Your boyfriend then don’t do it , it isn’t worth it , you aren’t missing out on anything if you have a healthy relationship , bringing someone else into a relationship can cause a lot of unwanted fire and tension for what reason? ’ 30 minutes of fun if that? Not worth it , Threesomes are for people that don’t want a relationship or take things serious , I had 2 3somes once when I was younger and not serious with anyone , the 2nd time was with a girl I had feelings for that was bi sexual and it was fun in the beginning but then it turned into a whirl wind of drama and my relationship ended with her because of the drama that the other girl was causing , it isn’t worth it trust me , usually the 3rd wheel interferes and causes nonsense in a relationship and then the bond between you and your partner is broken , it isn’t worth it

[Asker]

I understand, I mean I don’t mind not doing it but I’m also kind of confused on my sexuality because I think I like girls but never had the opportunity to be with one. So having this would help me figure it out I guess

[Finchie40]

No it won’t , if you are that curious then secretly hook up with a girl without your boyfriend knowing and then take it from there if it’s something you really need to do , yes it’s cheating but you aren’t married

[Asker]

That would be pretty bad though. I mean I guess it’ll be a good reason to cheat but I don’t want to compromise a relationship over something I’m not 100% sure about. But eh, this relationship is something I’m unsure about as well because of his behavior

[Finchie40]

Than if you are unsure of your relationship with him , then you’re better off cheating with another girl to see if it’s something you really want to experience

[linds34]

I think the threesome idea should be out of the question unless both partners are into it. You can't convince someone they want to do it when they don't.

[bamesjond0069]

If its a man you want to bring in just throw the idea out. He said he's not into it and he never will be, that will totally ruin your relationship 99% chance. If its a girl, just keep slowly mentioning it. Maybe dont push for a 3some but watch lesbian porn together and just talk about it to get him aroused. Keep it easy. Also if you're really brave and would do anything to get a girl in bed with y'all. Suggest him only having sex or a bj while you watch or only lightly participate so there is no girl girl. That will show him you're not going to get all jealous and get him comfortable with the idea. Good luck.

[WayneBruk]

He had lust before. But Now it's love. He don't want to share you with anyone. You can't ease him. I would suggest you to get out this fantasy and love him.

[Asker]

I suppose. I just wanted to experience something that could help solve something for me

[djmzes]

Simple
You just ask him but do not force him.

[scooogy]

Maybe allow him to have sex with her and ask him if you could watch. That way he "learns" that it's okay for you if he enjoys it. Then when you two have sex again, he might think back of having sex with that other girl and put things together.

[KrakenAttackin]

If you want another girl that would be easy, another guy... no fucking way. Call this a "double standard" or whatever you want, I would be totally pissed if you even suggested having sex with another man.

[hasdrubal164]

no i think people should be themselfs but this is a bit too far

[Brownbored]

You need to ask yourself why do you want a threesome

[Asker]

Well I’m confused on my sexuality, I believe I like girls and I want to be able to experience it and see

[Brownbored]

So u wana keep him and yet be able to explore ur sexuality at the same time.. interesting... What if he agrees to it but he says only mmf?

[Asker]

Hmm well I’d ask him if he was curious about his sexuality as well since he wants another man. But if it was that then I’m not sure if I want to do it. It’ll depend on what he says

[Brownbored]

Ok let's assume he just wants to start with mmf... Picture the scenario.. what do u say then

[HouseofWise]

throw a hot girl in there :O
eat her out

it will be easy!

[Twalli]

I wouldn't say throw it out but maybe ask about it less frequently

[GAGSucksBalls1]

threesomes are immoral af

[Asker]

How?

[GAGSucksBalls1]

how not