Do you support gay or lesbian relationships? Why or why not?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, partly because it is not a matter of great moment to me who a person has sex with. Party because, truth in advertising, been there, done that.

To start, I've been with my girlfriend for over a decade and we have three children. I have been heterosexual all my life. However, in our very early days, for reasons having mostly to do with me and which, for reasons of brevity I will not go into here, my girlfriend and I were a bit wild.

One thing that my girlfriend used to enjoy - and still does - is gay porn. Something about watching guys together turned her on and so we would watch it periodically. Really nothing more than that, though, and I'll even admit that seeing her turned on would turn me on.

So life went on and then - in a life imitates art moment - at a Christmas party with my gfd's office, a homosexual co-worker of my gfd's happen to mention to her that he thought I was cute. Very long story short, they came up with the idea of he and I having sex and she could watch to turn her on. His only stipulation is that sometimes he could be with me, just the two of us.

A few drinks and they thought this a brilliant idea and approached me about it. At first my answer was no, flat out. However, after much backing and forthing - and a zillion details I'll skip here - I gave in and, for the next 8 months or so, give or take, I found myself in a homosexual relationship.

It was not just in front of my girlfriend, but the guy and I would spend nights together and even two weeks one time when my girlfriend went out of town. (This was before my girlfriend and I lived together.) Funny part was that I enjoyed it - not in the same way or as much as I did, and do, being with women, but it was surprisingly pleasurable.

In terms of the sex - and yes, I was both top and bottom - it took getting used to but the sensations were weirdly arousing. It was different and that was a turn-on in ways that I did not expect. In part, I took this as being since a man understands a man's anatomy, we sort of understood what works. Just a guess, but it was not unpleasant if not quite as satisfying - at least for me - as being with a woman.

In terms of the emotional connection, I have to say that what I realized is that there are things that guys might share with another guy in a personal way that he might not even with a woman he loves. It wasn't love, per se, but there was an unexpected intimacy and empathy between us.

The two weeks we spent together while my girlfriend was away was not a sex-fest. We had work and other things going on, but we did have sex, and we would wake up next to each other and hold each other and, in brutal honesty, a sort of bond developed.

Still, it did not end well. For all that I still was not perfectly comfortable and we could see that he was getting more and more attached to me. What was going to be all about the kinky sexual thrills was clearly going further. So we ended it.

He took it hard and my girlfriend felt bad and found herself trying to match make for a gay guy. Nothing worked, but eventually he found another job and moved on in any case and we lost touch.

Frankly, I would never want to repeat the experience, but in brutal candor I did enjoy it - the sex very much included. That was, as I say, over a decade ago and my girlfriend moved in with me ten years ago and we are parents and we are not at all wild the way we were in our early days.

Still, in a strange way, it was an experience I am glad I had. It was fun, it felt good, and I learned from it. Could be worse.

FakeName123 · Accepted Answer

I support freedom to people to do what they want to do as long as it doesn't infringe upon others.
So while I find it off-putting, I don't mind people doing it.

That being said - I do haev a major problem with groups and politicial parties using homosexuals as a means to push political agendas and ideologies.

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

I don’t care about gay and lesbian relationships because I’m neither gay nor lesbian! And I believe that the 99% of gays and lesbians who are NOT activists (or active on Twitter (the sewer of the internet)) are just fine with that! WAAAY back in the annals of history, by which I mean the 1970’s, that’s what gays and lesbians were asking for… “keep out of our bedrooms” that was their rallying cry to get homosexuality legalized! “Keep out of our bedrooms” that was a really great idea, it still is! We should try that! I mean, most gays and lesbians still want us to keep out of their bedroom’s. So why now almost 50 years after homosexuality was legalized do we suddenly have to “actively support” them and their relationships? Has any homosexual (of either gender) ever actually asked you personally to be “all up in their business”? No! Frankly I would like some sort of support for MY relationship! What are y’all doing to actively support MY relationship? Eh? What, are you a heterophobe? Well, obviously you’re not, that’s silly! You’re just too busy worrying about your own relationships to worry about mine, and so am I! So… why don’t we try something OLD for once (look, we’re always trying new shit, and things are getting worse), so you worry about your own life, I’ll worry about mine, and together we’ll all support eachother as human beings by staying out of eachother’s business! This will be OUR rallying cry “What do we want? MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS! When do we want it? MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!
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Iliketea · Accepted Answer

Yes, 100%
1. Love is love. Sex is sex. Both are completely normal and your genitals don't matter as long as it's physically and/or emotionally satisfying.
2. a same-sex relationship is not essentially harmful to anyone, just like a heterosexual relationship.

razelove · Answer

I fail to see how that would be an issue anymore. Are there even any states or counties left that refuse gay marriage?

Anyway, gay guys are awesome, for every two gay guys, that's two women on the market, gay men very very rarely show interest in women, so I support 100%, also gay clubs are far and away the best clubs to go to if you actually want to, you know, have fun. I wish gay men would support each other more. I saw a lot of drug abuse in that scene, and most relationships before mid-20's were completely of convenience. I get that it's a lot easier and more fun, but I also get that it totally wrecked a lot of young men, who otherwise could have been helping to prop each other up.

Lesbians are an interesting bunch, so, it's two women that are together, and I'm not judging here, and call me whatever names you want. But, but, one, or both partners in that relationship will always want a man on occasion if not a regular basis. That man isn't me most of the time, but patience is something I do possess, and putting this theory to the test I have not been wrong yet. It's a paradox where I support the rights of lesbians while simultaneously not believing that lesbians truly exist, like, you know, they're more a shade of gray.

AmandaYVR · Answer

I do. Everyone deserves happiness and love.

Realistic07 · Answer

Yes very much so. The reality for me is that I believe that everyone deserves to love and be loved by whom ever they choose to be loved by as long as the other person chooses to them as well.

It’s not anyone’s place to determine what the scope of love should be, nor is it anyone’s place to determine who won should love.
Particularly not when we’re referencing same gender couples or spouses.

If someone doesn’t like that they have every ability to walk away, and simply ignore it while moving forward in there own life. That being said it’s not their place to give commentary, personal opinion, or intervene in any which way shape or form in others love lives.

I support people who with all the complexities of this world from the stresses, differences, and the hate that this world can offer beyond all of that find love in another who loves them back regardless of the physical dynamics between them. The only thing that matters is that they are happy with one another.

Dragonpurple · Answer

I could care less if that is people's choices, however I do not support gay marriage but not for the reasons most people would think.

For me it is because marriage should fall under the 10th amendment for states rights, now that the federal government has legalized it. It is a federal right taken from the states. That is IF it has to be regulated by the government it should be a state right.

At the same time I also don't think any government entity has any business regulating marriage, as for thousands of years people got married without the government being involved.

I also happen to support any kind of relationship, even polygamy or polyamory and so forth.

The problem is the government wants to setup certain benefits for being married, as if to punish those that do not. Lower tax rates and other stuff, its all a way to control people.

What they should do is get out of the marriage business and find an easy way for people to do the legal contract instead. As marriage is nothing more than a legal contract... such as people get married or not, then go down to the government building and say, here is the the person I want to have all rights and benefits in my relationship, and then fill out the form.

Marriage should be between all those involved, some say one man and one woman, others say between two people and some say, however many so long as all consenting.

Not the current setup of between two people and the government. Government shouldn't have any say in who I want to sign a legal contract with.

JuneLady · Answer

I really don't have enough truth about them to know. But I have experimented with being a lesbian - in fact, I was for a long time. My heart numbed itself into a shallower space. To this day, I believe I never felt true romantic love for any of my girlfriends - infatuation, sexual attraction, friendship, perhaps even a small hint of sisterhood - but never Eros. I've found some things while at college that further make me question the in depth value of such relationships (such as effects on children, extreme commitment issues, and strong comorbidity with mental illness), but not enough to make a definitive statement about whether they are right or wrong. From what I've seen, they tend to lead more to a less fulfilling state of existence, but I can't really know for anyone else.

MCheetah · Answer

I wouldn't use the term "support" but no, I don't have a problem with gay people being with each other. The only thing I hate is when people try to make straight people be with non-straight people and/or demanding straight men hook up with transpeople. I find that disgusting and I really hate the double standards of assuming queer people can't choose their sexuality but straight people can "choose" to be gay to avoid "being trans/homo phobic." Fuck off with that nonsense!

Besides that, I don't have an issue with gay people in relationships.

Yaaten · Answer

No, it's not something I would ever support, however you define "support" (encourage?). If people want to carry on like this and are prepared to accept whatever consequences will result from such behaviour, then fine, go right ahead, but you will never receive my blessings or "support". If you keep your private life private then I will not bother you, but if you try to force the rest of us to accept such degrading and disgusting behaviour... well no, it's not going to happen, and you'll be in for a nasty shock.

shade_19 · Answer

I support it , not only me. Even science.
The truth is straight people r attracted towards opposite gender coz of their hormones and gays/lesbians r the cases where their hormones make them attracted to same gender.
Estrongen and testosterone hormones are the two that i know. I don't know names of any others if more r included.
But my perspective came down towards the definition of love.
Love is blind.
It happens at the nost unexpected time, for the most unexpected place at the most unexpected place.
Love is beyond religion, creed, nationality, color, even gender and u keep including more. Coz that's how love is.
It make the least wanted people to be the most special ones. Just look around, everyone has different love story.
I'm no one to judge anyone on their love story just coz they r not as mine.

Anonymous · Answer

This goes for anybody....as long as you're not f'in with children, animals, your own kin, or some non-consensual bulls--t, go and be happy damn it!!! I'm not in your relationship, but life is too short to waste my good and valuable time hating or worrying my life about a relationship that has nothing to do with me and is not hurting anyone else. If 2020 has taught you nothing, it's that we all need connection and love and to be loved, and I'll not stand in the way of anybody going after that.

lucas262 · Answer

Some friends and family of mine are gay. I will say I have an obvious religious objective view based on the Bible, I will say as an American I really don't care what people do it's between them an God,

I'll never tell someone it's OK to be gay, but ill never tell someone they're evil, or that God hates them like I have seen some people do which is stupid, because God disnt hate people period. He hates the sin, loves sinners.

I will also say I don't like all the gay characters in film I mean if one of them is gay fine but too often I feel a valuable character is there just to make a point, which feels stupid instead of being entertained im being taught some b. s lesson on the new morality?

That is my take on it.

BlackPrince1 · Answer

Alright time to be honest. I don't care what people do with their lives. I'm not gonna push my ideals on someone. I'm a religious person but I think you can't help about who you're attracted to because you are born with your sexuality. But that doesn't mean I support same sex relationships. I just don't like that. I may feel the urge to do some things but that doesn't mean I should do them. That's the same way I view same sex relationships. You're gay, bi, lesbian it's okay nothing wrong with it but that doesn't mean I support acting on it.

Lanabear119 · Answer

Sometimes. If they make fun of heterosexual couples, and use the excuse “well it’s not that bad because we have been oppressed by straight people. A little teasing isn’t damaging them.” But when we tease them, it’s oppressive. Okay. If they’re being extra with it, and shoving it in everyone’s face, I don’t care for them. I wouldn’t support anyone I don’t know, nor care about. So support? No. Would I mind my business? Absolutely.

nevernevernever · Answer

this question doesn't really make sense. It's like asking if I support a relationship between a blonde and a brunette. It's just none of my business who people choose to date, as long as they're dating above the age of consent and they're not abusive.

moodiemoonlight17 · Answer

Everyone is very special as individuals and are entitled to their own rights and freedom in the world that is made up different people who just want to be happy. Gay or lesbian it does not matter as long as you are happy and someone is showing you the love you deserve. Guys can love guys, girls can love girls really we are free to be open and show who we are. I support that, I support just wanting to live a happy life with whoever I love and the freedom to do it without being judged!

Adam1978 · Answer

I don't mind, but support is a strong word. It's not like I would fight on either side on this issue. I think people should just mind there own business and not care who has relationships with who unless they personally are involved. A gay would get no where with me and that's the only line I need to hold.

lilyanony1 · Answer

In all honesty I do care about any one else's relationship but my own. Unless it's abusive. So If someone wants to be gay straight trans I really couldn't tell them don't. As I just don't care. Sexuality is about personal choice/preference I have no right to tell another what that looks like.

As they don't with mine.
What I find rather scary is the fact that I we are still talking about this in 2021.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

What does "support" mean?, I keep hearing that tossed around for a lot of things.
To me supporting is like enabling, or allowing, or teaching, or paying for, or something like that where the "supporter" is actually involved somehow in making it so the supported can do x thing.

Why would someone's sexual orientation require third party support? I don't get it.

Sarahr123 · Answer

I don’t care what anyone does as long as they aren’t harming anyone physically or mentally idc because it doesn’t make a difference in my life. I am indifferent to it. I don’t support it and I don’t condemn it. It has nothing to do with me so I just don’t really care for it.

wysiwyg2525 · Answer

Yes I support all relationships. I belive ther is someone for everyone. I also belive that everyone finds the same sex attractive. bmost jist fear acting on it based on fear of judgment from society. The biggest fear is judgment from their family. Look if its a taboo or your Bi tri, gay, etc.. just be happy if you act on it and it is meant to be then your happiness is worth more then fear. Just be you at all time and don't fear the what it's.

Qdbrown · Answer

I don't support anyone, even straight people. Whatever they do is okay, as long as it's far away from me. Don't expect me to like or have to participate in it anyway, just as I don't anything for straight people. I prefer asexual and prefer the solo lifestyle. PDA grosses me out and I don't want to watch any affection or love taps. Same goes for straight.

Medlife · Answer

Yes and yes. No one on earth has the right to judge another human being for their sexual orientation. Unless they hurt another human being they should be who they wanna be and love who they wanna love. If u live peacefully not hurting anyone u have a right to live like anyone else. And it is no one's business who u find attractive or who u sleeping with.

Petra150 · Answer

That's a hard one who might make me seems a little hypothetical. As a woman I'm very attracted to some other girls , tall girls as my self , but I'm hetrosexual and live in a relationship with the most wonderful littl man. But I find homosexual relationship a little artificial and weird. But ofcauce it's there choice and that's fine

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yep, none of my business.

I love how some 'religious' nutjobs want to ban someone and stop other people from living their lives, just because their book say no, lol, like do people who don't believe in your book still have to follow the rules?

Lol.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Whatever floats their boat and as long as they are happy I support it.

Just like the anonymous woman said: "This goes for anybody... as long as you're not f'in with children, animals, your own kin, or some non-consensual bulls--t, go and be happy damn it"

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yep very much so.

These have made the decision to say fuck you to the bigots in the world, stand out and be themselves.

life is for living and loving someone, no matter their colour, no matter their sexuality, no matter their religion.

we are all bodies on this planet, there is too much hate, so people can love anyone (since this is GaG, that excludes all the incest etc shit).

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t care for what anyone does because it’s not me. I don’t lose sleep over someone wanting to live their life the way they want to live it. I go by the rules of respecting everyone regardless of who they are and the life they choose to live (besides those who commit crimes).

RingOfFire · Answer

Depends on what you mean by "support."

I tolerate them. I don't celebrate them. "Support" sounds more like encourage than tolerance. It's not like it is something to celebrate.

Not sure why they would need "support." Consenting adults can have any kind of sexual relationships they want in America with no legal consequences. So why do they need "support."

BillHe1 · Answer

I have several longtime friends who I know are in Gay married relationships. One was a school class mate, and another was in the military with me and we were close friends and hung around together during that time. Had no idea. I had an Aunt on my wife's side who was a lesbian during her many years in the military.

I have nothing against gay or lesbian relationships, I don't know a lot about their lifestyles, but to each their own.

Jet-Blaque · Answer

Only for other races. but black people.
If you black and gay. your heathen.

But I fully support white gay people. Or even Latino. I'll go to their wedding and everything. Fight for their right to marriage and do all that weird stuff together.

ChiTown33 · Answer

No. It's offensive to god and i have no reason to support them.
Does that mean i treat them badly? No
I don't even care if legally they're allowed to marry. Because i'm not the one marrying them. Man cannot join 2 people only god can. If they feel god approves well that's between them and god. They are gods children same as me and that makes them my brothers and so in that sense i love them the same. But that still doesn't mean i support their sins.

I-C3_ME · Answer

Yeah, they want to be together and what are you gonna do about it? Can't force people to be heterosexual anymore, that's the old school way. And they shouldn't have to be supported, it should be a normal thing cuz it is. I don't understand why some people really care about this, are they jealous?

Shihab91 · Answer

No, because it’s against the nature of life. I don't want my child to think it's normal when it's in fact a Community and porn impact. last but not least I'm a Muslim and I will never accept such a thing if you are gay nothing wrong in admitting it's wrong and seeking help to fix it. instead of putting effort into forcing people to accept you put that effort to change.

hellacray · Answer

I hate it when people ask if you support something. If I say yes then I might come off as an activist. If I say no then people think I'm homophobic.

Bottomline is I don't care about gay relationships. If two guys want to date go ahead. I really don't care since their relationship doesn't affect me in any way.

If they start having rough loud sex in the gym's showers then I have a problem.

Andres77 · Answer

They can do whatever they want.
Why do I have to cheer the fact that guys love dick?
It has nothing to do with me.
I don't have to "support" anything.
I simply don't oppose it.
And don't be offended. You take a dick in the ass, you don't need me cheering you on.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Not gonna lie, it does feel strange to be near gay people sometimes. But that is just on me, not used to seeing gay guys/gals interract. Will get used to it after it gets more regular.

I have no objections to people wanting same sex people, or bi or trans or etc. Would also hire them like any other for work.

Go at it in my oppinion. Marriage should be legal too, not allowing it is just BS.

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't care who fucks who as long as they're decent, upstanding people? I don't personally "get" certain attractions, but who am I to condemn them. If your response to that is a religious one, I understand that too - I just don't want to discuss it with you.

TallAnon · Answer

I don't actively support it just like I don't actively support straight relationships. People just live their lives and I let them do their thing. They don't need to be treated special, they're not; they're just another random couple that I don't give a fuck about.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

NO!
Because is not normal
Is not natural
Is not ok by any religion (I'm Christian Orthodox)
Is a psihological problem
It make psihological problem for my kids or others who don't have parents and end in that Shi*t grup.

_Troian_ · Answer

I don't care what they do with eachother but no I don't support it, I am not hating anyone but its not a normal thing for man liking a man or woman liking a woman. They can have sex with eachother in their own home its their right but adopting a child and raising it is not something they should do, its not their right to do it.. these kids have right to be raised up in a normal family.

carys111 · Answer

Disgusting. Once i encountered a gay couple kissing during the London fireworks in front of 1000s of people. That was disgusting AF to encounter them. Felt like puking lol
For some reason lesbians couple still dont come as that disgusting hehe

007kingifrit · Answer

no, democracy doesn't last long if there are too many groups tolerated in the mainstream because democracy depends on compromise to work and compromise depends on people being similar enough where they HAVE common ground.

allow too many groups into a democracy and... nobody can compromise anymore. gridlock sets in, anger becomes the norm and eventually groups break off.

all successful countries are built on intolerance. inclusion is bad for society

SphynxUK · Answer

Support is the wrong word. I accept any relationship. Gay, straight or otherwise. Doesn’t affect me either way.

Hannah_98 · Answer

Yeah, I don't really care what people do or who they're into as long as nobody's being hurt. Never understood why other people's sexualities are such a big deal to other people.

NoManToo · Answer

First, I don't give a fuck about how cute your booty is.

Second, people like you who worry about how cute their ass is are fucking annoying.

Go fuck whom ever you want. Don't tell any one who doesn't need to know who you fuck.

Problem solved.

Anonymous · Answer

I have zero problems with people finding their own soulmate and it's not up to me to decide who someone else loves. Love doesn't care about gender, it's the most powerful force on earth. People will die for love more than any other cause. If you have a problem with gay marriage then you probably don't understand love at all.

Anonymous · Answer

I support all Americans rights to live their lives the way they want, and to love who they want. As long as it doesn’t interfere with the lives and rights of others, whose business is it? That being said, I don’t agree with folks that seek out those with religious beliefs preventing them from endorsing their lifestyles and forcing them to accept them. (Yes, the wedding cake issue).

gotc147 · Answer

Why do I have to always support or oppose something? Why can't I ever just not give a shit about something?

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I’m on the side of love, I completely support two consenting adults expressing their love and admiration for one and other.

Snowwhitexd · Answer

yes I support it after all it's a congenital and very normal 🙃

spartan55 · Answer

I love women. I have been hit on by zero homosexual men in my life. If a dude wants to get it on with another dude, then godspeed. I hope they are happy. 👍

dave9970 · Answer

I don't care what you do in your own home, just don't push it in my face and don't put it on TV! I've had gay friends, but they never pushed it and didn't fount it, I found it ok to be with them. Still I do not think its right.

SaraM88shigirl · Answer

I do not support it. I don't dislike gay men or lesbians but I don't agree with their lifestyle.

Browneye57 · Answer

No one really cares what you do for sex. They really don't. And no one really cares who you have a relationship with.
It seems these types are desperate for acceptance. The truth is, it's only important to THEM.

kat455 · Answer

Yes love is love. I don’t care who’s gay who’s lesbian they still human they deserve respect.

claryy · Answer

Yeah, everyone has the right to love or like who he or she wants

t-8900 · Answer

My mom and sister are gay, so yes. But also I want people to be happy in this world. Love is so hard to find. If they found love we should all be happy for them.

slatyb · Answer

Support them? What do you mean? They don't need my support any more than heterosexual couples need my support. That's like asking "Do you support gravity?"

PrettyWoman_ · Answer

Of course. You can fall in love with anyone. Love has no boundaries or restrictions. It's so hard to find someone who loves you unconditionally.

LeoElias · Answer

I am disgusted by them. I don't support it but I wouldn't go out of my way to kill them or bully them. I'll keep a straight face and avoid looking at them but in my mind i'm cussing them out and very disturbed lol

Caliguy88 · Answer

Sure. Why not? People should be happy and do what they want. I grew up in and near a major city so always had gay people around. I get some people being uncomfortable with it if they have never seen it... but get over it...

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