When it comes to getting manipulated or pressured, do more men do it to women?

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It can be anything ranging from getting pressured into sex, running away from home with him, doing drugs, etc. It's something followed by an ''You would do this for me, if''. In addition, in criminal cases, it's mainly the guy the ringleader and his girlfriend/wife the follower.

When it comes to manipulating and pressuring your spouse, do men take the prize? Seriously, have anyone heard of a man getting manipulated/pressured into doing something he didn't want to (but did it because she threatened to break up or other things if he refuses) by the woman or a the woman being the ringleader in a crime and her lover is her follower?

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

My ex wouldn't use the line, you would do this if you loved me.
That's obvious.

He would talk about something and asked me my thoughts, then when I'd share my opinion if I was against it, he'd try and get me to see why I was just afraid. And then tell me to organise it myself, then keep asking about it, and making surrounding conditions towards it happening.

Ie he wanted a mff threesome,
He then asked what kind I wanted I suggested mfm. He snapped abd said he's not gay!
When I declined, He then said he wanted us to be casual...
After him asking again.

He told me he was going to be busy and stopped seeing me often.

When I asked to see him he snapped and said he just didn't have the time.

He then suggested I find a play mate.

When I showed interest in this, he asked me to tell him when we met and film it.

When I didn't he pushed, and told me that he really didn't mind.

When I pretended to be talking to guys he wanted details as to our conversations and any photos shared.

I had to make it believable.

When he thought I was getting distant he started to see me again.

One night he called out the blue and said he had someone with him, and said he was bringing him round.
We argued and I ignored him a week or two.
He text cheeky messages to win me round.

He suggested we meet again.

When I told him I was submitting to him he told me to ask "my guy" to join us.

That's when I broke up with him.

He likes to play games and ultimately have power and control over whoever he is with.
I was testing him to learn his game.

I knew I didn't want a threesome or a play mate and wouldn't ever want to try it.

But I had to let him think he was slowly cohersing me until we were on the same page.

Why? Well, since he liked to play games, I didn't think he'd mind having one played on him.

I hate posting things like this because there are people that will read it for awareness whilst others do it to perfect their skill.

The latter should always be reported, because this behaviour is a criminal offence.

Danielle93 · Accepted Answer

I've heard of two cases in the ID channel. A woman was unsatisfied with her marriage, started having an affair and told lies to her lover about her husband beating her. They started talking about plans to running away together. After more than a year on the affair, the woman purchased a gun and pressured her lover into killing her husband. He was hesitant but she insisted that if he loves her as he claims then he would kill her husband, kill for her. He proceeded and shot the guy to death. He's currently serving a super long sentence and the woman life in prison. He would've had a normal life if he never met that manipulative snake.

The other case was about the female serial killer Belle Gunness. She seemed to attract many men and all of them ended up disappeared. She had a lover named Ray Lamphere. The guy knew she killed those men and his job was to help her bury and hide the bodies. During the trial or so, when he finally exposes the killer (the whearabouts of Belle are unknown by then) he claimed he stayed with her and kept quiet out of love. Another guy that would've saved himself all that problem if he never met her. So yeah, certan woman can be snake preying on gullible guys like those two.

kmg9150 · Accepted Answer

We all do it. I believe people do see it often as a justifiable action in the less extreme situations (one gives massages all the time and brings it up when the partner evades upon request consistently). I also believe that woman might do it more often, reason being is their manipulation is more concealed than how guys are. It often appears as men would be partaking to doing so simply because the world doesn't see women abusing men, if ever it's acknowledge its buried to where no one ever sees it. It's like racism towards translucent people (because white is no longer a "color") it just can't happen. Its so one sided that a woman can declare rape and the man loses his job, partner leaves, kids despise their father, gets defriended, attacked on social media. Then if he's proved innocent, the damage is done, headlines stay up and the verdict is not even close to as expose as the accusation. Not saying all those things happen on every occasion because there are men who are guilty and nothing happens. For a world that claims how we need to treat people equally they sure are quick to stereotype and convict before anything is proved. Just my.02💰. Women are just smarter is what it comes down it, I'll admit defeat when I face it🤣💯

crazy8000 · Accepted Answer

It's more common the other way around.
You will notice it if you begin to study people and what they do as a bystander without taking sides.
If we study common relationship structures and behaviors going back in time it's the same.

The thing is manipulative people tends to dislike to get caught or get reminded of that they are. even tends to make it looks like it's the other one or that the victim is delusional and can't see if someone is.
(it's the same thing like many gold diggers doesn't want to hear they are one)

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

"or a the woman being the ringleader in a crime and her lover is her follower?" There's been women that have manipulated men into killing their husband. So yes, I have heard of men being manipulated into sound things they didn't want to do... Yes there's men that try fyi manipulate women. But there's women that do it too. Who does it more? Any manipulating is wrong no matter what gender does it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I’ve heard of it. It happened 4 years ago in Oklahoma. A 21 year old woman conned her boyfriend and 2 of his friends into burglarizing homes for rent and drug money. The woman had 3 kids already! One day she drove the boys to a house, the boys broke into a detached garage apartment and stole liquor and some electronics. They left and she figured it wasn’t going to be enough, so she drove them back to the same place and waited while she sent the boys into the main house. It turned out the owner’s son was home, heard them kick the door in, confronted them inside, and ended up shooting and killing all 3 of them. The woman took off leaving them to die. The shooting was justified. Under the state’s felony murder laws, the murders were on her. She went to prison for three counts of murder and several burglary charges. If she hadn’t manipulated them into doing burglaries for her benefit, those 3 boys would be alive today.

ThisAndThat · Answer

No I've never pressured anyone into doing anything they didn't want to do including sex. What's the point of doing that? Also the system nearly always finds a way to excuse women. Women can be the perpetrators of crimes and the finger always points back at the men. When there is cases that could or should involved the death penalty if there is a woman involved the death penalty won't apply and if it would it will be the man that gets it. She will also get way less time than he would nearly every time. They will always find excuses for her, not for him.

DiegoO · Answer

In most cases women manipulate men with sex, and not the other way around. There was a time where I preasured my ex (I did wrong), but the motive behind it was her constant insecurity, with sex, to the point where it felt forced. Everytime, or it wasn't the right place, the righ time, or she needed consolation for some family problem. If I acted sexual, in many cases it was an issue. Finally I got tired of begging her for sex.

I should I have breakup with her earlier, but I was to naive and attached to a hope.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Both do it but in different ways. Women tend to br more sly about it except for in regards to sex. Then its pretty straight forward. Withholding sex to get what you want for example. I know tons of guys who ended up in relationships by the filling ploy. They meet a girl, she puts out or gives just enough and the pulls back with the I'm not that type of girl, I only do this in a relationship. Boom she just got herself a boyfriend through manipulation. Then you have the old standard of withholding sex in a relationship to get what you want. So both do it but in different ways.

Ninjazzed · Answer

That title rightfully belongs to men.

Men often manipulate and pressure women for sex or dirty photos, women mostly do it for other reasons.

A woman will outright make herself clear while a man will promise you a relationship while only stringing you along for sex.

RachelBrooke · Answer

It could go either way. But I’d say more men pressure women. Now before some of you get mad I understand women enjoy sex. But I personally wouldn’t want a man pressuring me because I have boundaries and as a Christian am staying pure. Not ashamed to publicly declare this either.

rjroy3 · Answer

Women are more manipulative by nature. As far as pressuring the other that might be more 50/50 tho. Men are just more aggressive about it while women will pressure through emotions.

Making you feel like not doing what they want is morally wrong in some way or that the "right" thing to do just happens to be what they want.

RingOfFire · Answer

You are always responsible for your own actions regardless of whether or not someone else is "pressuring" you to do them. Unless they are blackmailing you (such as threatening to extort money from you if you don't do what they tell you or threatening harm to someone else) or threatening you with physical harm, then no one else is responsible for your actions except you.

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

U can look every where and see manipulation and pressure amongst i think both equally. Schools for example are peer pressure at its finest. Work, bosses can be manipulative. Relationships, friendships etc... I'm sure with this day in age, everybody, in 1 form or another, suffer from some type in some part of their lives.

Anonymous · Answer

Do men take the prize? LMAO, hell no.

Do some men manipulate women? Sure. Do almost all women manipulate men? Of course they do. Women are the champions of manipulation. Any married man will attest to that.

The scenario you are pushing here with the "ringleader" thing in a crime situation is uncommon and it's kind of silly to use it as your basis for claiming men "take the prize". Some men manipulate, but all women manipulate.

Aaron_Stone · Answer

you haven't seen things outside your bubble. or haven't observed how women behave as 3rd person without bias.
By majority this award goes to women. Countless women online and my female friends have admitted that, women manipulative, do backstabbing, gossip and have no remorse/moral backbone when angry at someone or man they dislike.

LeoElias · Answer

Usually the guys sho pressure women to have sex with them are the non serious ones that just want to screw around. We all know a guy who respects a woman would never force her or treat her like that unless he's got issues. But women with hold sex all the time to get what they want. Usually marriage, some materialistic thing, some type of social status, just a plain gold digger.

Waldoe · Answer

I am unable to answer this, I am a man. I do not know what women feel, do you feel pressured? Why? You can always say... no, I'm too busy or I don't want to... I do know that guys are always doing stuff that they do NOT want to, just to please their partner, so I think guys are pressured MORE

Anonymous · Answer

Men tend to physicallly hurt people while women psychologically hurt people. So women tend to manipulate more since they are physically weaker and can't use their strenght. But to me physically abuse is thousand times worser than manipulation since if you are smart/mature amount you would not get manipulated while you can't avoid physically abuse so easy. Getting manipulated is a choice while getting physically abuse not

Anonymous · Answer

Women manipulate men more because we can observe the behavior of other primates. Its easier to detect and we can be more objective. When a female needs to hurt someone in the world of primates, she will recruit a male and send him after who she wants to be hurt. When a male wants someone hurt, he will ally with a male and they will both go in together.

Adam1978 · Answer

Men will for most manipulate to get sex so much easier for women to spot and ignore, women do it for so many more reasons including to just see if she can. So I would claim they are worse even if the frequency might be the same.

Marioz86 · Answer

When women feel you are in love with them they start to be manipulative It happened to me way to many times. I would say women in general are much more manipulative then men. When women get manipulated then it's the end of the world! I would say if someone manipulated you, you probably deserved it because you probably manipulated with someone else feelings.

kaylaS91 · Answer

It probably depends on where you live/how you were raised. I mean... many cultures/religions have been patriarchal for so long, oppression of women is basically the norm.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

I think we definitely hear more about men doing these things and I've experienced men trying to manipulate me. luckily for them I'm a bad ass bitch that takes no bullshit. But yeah women definitely do this too.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Obviously I can't speak for every guy but I have been pressured/guilted into sex by women A LOT. if I'm not in the mood its always "what? Are you gay?" "Do you think I'm ugly?"

Wisenhot · Answer

I’m biased but I’d say women take that crown. I think both do it but it’s with different intentions. Men do it to have sex with women and women. I think women do it to get something or to get their way. What they want.

oldasIfeel22 · Answer

Most women like men to “take the lead” and to do the thinking for them. Some men can take advantage of this for their own ends.

EternallyCorrect · Answer

This is one of those things where you’ll notice it mostly with the opposite sex. Women will say men do it more and men will say women do it more.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Not really. Some guys just want to sleep with chicks and they’ll say whatever it takes but that’s the exception. When On the other hand only care about themselves and they don’t really take the consequences of their actions into consideration.

HawkPerception · Answer

I've seen it both in men and women about equally honestly.

Anonymous · Answer

No way. Women manipulate men just as much, if not more.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Men are manipulated a lot but not typically the same way. Women dont usually threaten they just use sex, fake helplessness, and making a man jealous to get men to do stuff for them.

sensible27 · Answer

What would you get from asking these sort of general questions? Do you ever get a clear answer?

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

There's honestly no way to know who does it more. All I can say is that both genders do it to each other.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Manipulation and pressure are two different things.

Baylist1000 · Answer

I don't know about others. But if my partner doesn't like/want to do something then I won't force her. I won't make my partner uncomfortable.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'd say it's 100% that more men pressure women than women pressure men.

DaMack999 · Answer

Women are the experts in this field without even knowing it they will get you like a nigga.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

The difference is when men does it, they usually get addressed. You know the suicide rate of men can also be a factor of being manipulated by a woman

Shihab91 · Answer

I got manipulated by a girl she broke my heart and because of that i couldn't trust or express my feelings to any girl for years

Archerer · Answer

Both genders do this but it’s definitely a masculine trait

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

My ex was all about being in control. Any time I would not do as she said, it was threats and blackmail.

Anonymous · Answer

actually women pressure guys just as much as guys pressure women. my girlfriend pressured me a couple of times a few months ago into compromising my beliefs and her friends pressured me as well.

NightHawk99 · Answer

The reality is both sides do it more towards themselves than towards the opposite side.

anylolone · Answer

Women manipulate and are manipulated more, by other women.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I think anybody can manipulate someone regardless of gender.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

I think both genders do it

msc545 · Answer

I think women are far more manipulative than men.

WalkingBassist · Answer

Women are master manipulators.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Men do it all the time

EaterPeter · Answer

I think all genders does it in different way.

Anonymous · Answer

Woman use sex to get what they want.

Synikal · Answer

Both sexes. We all want something.

Agape93 · Answer

Men by far

kevyhanma · Answer

More women

mohrac-17 · Answer

No one knows

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