I care too much for other people how do I stop?

[Anonymous]

I care so much I put my happiness aside for others.

I know it could be simple to just STOP but I've been a people pleaser all my life. I'm not miserable one bit but I notice some of these people who I look after arnt all that worried over my happiness like I am theirs.

Truly I'd like to match everyones energy and say "fuck this" but I'm over here pissed off and still asked my boyfriend something to comfort him while I'm pissed off. Like I have to stop

What can I say to myself in order for me to quit being such a people pleaser

[poof_22]

Create an alter ego. Keep it until you embody your alters ego desired traits. That's what Beyonce did at least. I've also seen that the older the woman gets the less she cares (I know , generalizations but that's my experience)

[BarryLiverstone]

Start by picking 5 things a week that are requirements to loving yourself. Once you massage this list set it as a priority so that you can say no to others if you need time for yourself. Until you love yourself you can’t give to others.

[BarryLiverstone]

Also ‘trim dead leaves’ periodically. If some friends no longer value you and just take without giving it’s healthy to drop them from your life

[BarryLiverstone]

Thanks for MHO

[Wise4myage]

Stop putting aside your happiness for others and focus on making yourself happy.