How do you handle surprises?

[Emiliamazing]

This can be a good surprise, an unexpected change in sequence or event, or a negative impact on the moment.
I’m posting this under relationships, because I think we often treat a change or a surprise from someone who is close to us differently than a surprise from a stranger or uncontrollable pattern.

[PrettyPriya]

I think I handle them well, good or bad. Now, that doesn't mean the same emotion for something positive versus negative.

I just think, in general, I handle changes well. For good surprises, I am usually overjoyed and can get a bit emotional, depending on the surprise. Negative things I am the type of person that takes a deep breath and calms myself.

I usually try to understand why something happened and why exactly I was surprised about it if it is something negative. I use it as a learning opportunity if I can find one, which I usually can.

As for the good surprises, those are easy handle. I'm usually left with that warm, fuzzy feeling.

[Emiliamazing]

Thank you for sharing! I certainly need to remember to take a deep breath at times.

[PrettyPriya]

@emiliamazing You are most welcome! Great question!

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂

[Agape93]

Depends on the surprise.

Got me something cool, awesome
I come home and find you in bed with someone I don't know, start running, both of you

[Emiliamazing]

I hope it is never choice b for you! May your unwelcome surprises never be that bad :-)

[Agape93]

For their sake it better not lol I'm not known for compassion or understanding with betrayal

[ManOnFire]

This is a hard but interesting question. I guess we really can't know if the surprise is good or not until it happens. And when it does, and if it's good, I do tend to react with delight but still need to process it.

Bad surprises though are what I can say I've trained myself to be ready for, since my past has been full of unexpectedly bad surprises. So I've programmed myself to in some sense be stoicly prepared for some kind of curveball of doom.

[Emiliamazing]

Good for you I’m trying to prepare yourself for life’s unwanted curveballs. I know you probably didn’t write it to be humorous, but the curveball of doom gets a chuckle in this house!

[ManOnFire]

Actually it was supposed to be a little humorous lol.

[Emiliamazing]

Good! It’s good to show your lighter side sometime!

[ManOnFire]

Guess you haven't seen too many of my answers or interactions on this site.

[Emiliamazing]

I will make a point to check out some of the questions you have posed a little more often!

[mobiusforniner]

Surprises are great! As long as theyre planned weeks in advance

[Andres77]

At this point if there are any surprises from my wife, because she's established that she's interested in my well being the only issue is having to process the new information.
After that I'm good.

[sage2021]

I do not like surprises and I don't like to be surprised either. I have been that way since I was a young girl.

[Emiliamazing]

Predictability is certainly something we can all use from time to time.
Thanks!

[Jerre]

I think it depends on what the surprise is. Most of my surprises are sexual in nature, the girl wants to fuck me.

[Emiliamazing]

Come on Jerre, , there’s got to be another facet of your life unrelated to sex!

[Jerre]

No, there really isn’t. Sex is the major part of my life

[Emiliamazing]

Fair enough :-). I wish you excellent surprises as you move through your week!

[Jerre]

Thank you

[Emiliamazing]

You’re welcome. Hopefully someone surprises you one of these days!

[Jerre]

Would really be a surprise if it was you.

[Emiliamazing]

Hopefully someone will oblige that request, but I doubt it will be me unless you’re surprised by my question.

[Lyndsielee666]

I don’t like them. They’re anxiety inducing

[eagle1951]

just act surprised

[Emiliamazing]

Great advice!

[eagle1951]

even if you know ahead of time