What is the one thing you would love your partner to do for you?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

My love language is physical touch so I would love for him to be more affectionate towards me, also would love for him to post me on his social media at least once 😔

[Asker]

That is totally understandable. But he should be posting you up on social media

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah… He asked me to post him on mine so I thought it would only be fair that he also posts me right…

[Asker]

Yes that would make complete sense that he would post you up to be honest I would definitely give a lot of thought to your relationship with him

[Opinion Owner]

I have actually been reconsidering the relationship, there are a bunch of other red flags that’s making me doubt him (like still having pictures with his ex on his socials, calling me names, getting mad at me for no reason, etc). Thank you for looking out for me tho, much appreciated!

[Asker]

He definitely doesn't appreciate you. If you see he still had pictures of his ex on social media it tells you something is wrong already. He doesn't deserve you. You definitely need a nice caring loving understanding type of guy. You're way too beautiful to be treated like that

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you so much, that almost made me cry 🥺

I do feel like he’s just taking me for granted, he expects me to be the best girlfriend but he never really reflected on how he’s been treating me. I’ve always thought that I could never be good enough for him and that I’m the problem. Slowly I’m beginning to see that I am actually good enough but he just doesn’t appreciate it. It’s sad bc I do love him a lot… I don't know if I can handle the heartbreak.

[Asker]

You are the best thing that probably ever happened to him he just doesn't realize it in probably never will realize it. You can always ask for some space to see if the relationship gets better or worse. You sound like a very caring understanding person. But sometimes it's easy to let things go early than to be dragged around in the mud

[Opinion Owner]

I kinda feel like I’ve just been causing him a lot of stress tbh, I’m trying to be as supportive as I can be with him but I don't know anymore…

I have actually asked for some space and it made me realize that I do love him and still wants to give this relationship a chance. He promised to change (that lasted a week). Now he’s back to his old ways, although he’s been going through a lot of work stress lately so I will excuse some of his behavior.

And you’re right, I was holding on to the relationship in hopes that it will get better but I’m starting to lose hope… I think it’s best to really just walk away huh

[Asker]

Remember a relationship is a two-way street you can't always put 100% into it if he's not going to put any effort into it on his behalf. Also if he stressed out at work that should have nothing to do with your relationship with him you are supposed to be a shoulder to lean on to help through rough times. You can lead a horse to water but can't make it drink it. Why don't you sit down with him and get a sheet of paper and write a few things that bother you and a few things that bother him and try to work on them over time that if you want to make it work. Sometimes people never change. You sound like a very caring respectful loyal woman

[Asker]

Would you like to pm

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a very good idea, the thing is it’s been really hard to talk to him lately bc he said he’s under a lot of pressure rn and I don’t want to add anymore stress on top of everything :(

I will wait until things have settled down a bit with his work issues then I’ll try to ask if we can talk about our relationship issues…

I would love to PM you if that’s ok with you

[Asker]

Send me a link to your PM box

[Asker]

I definitely want to talk to you a lot more

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know how to do that 😅 but my username is Totomato

And thank you so much, I really appreciate you being an awesome listener

[Asker]

I sent you a message

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, I responded I hope that I got the right person lol I have a lot of random messages on my inbox

[Asker]

I didn't receive anything

[Opinion Owner]

Oh no, is your username dan something?

[Asker]

Danny718718

[Asker]

And your

[Opinion Owner]

Okay I’m Totomato. I just messaged you 😊

[Asker]

Hey I send you a message

[Asker]

Heyhey

[Opinion Owner]

Hey! Sent you a message, you can try following me if you want so that you’ll get notified when I send you a message 😊 (by the way sorry for the super long message that I sent you on PM lol)

[Asker]

Just waiting for you to accept it send you a message

[Asker]

There are things in your relationship that seems very sketchy to me

[Opinion Owner]

I know 😔 it’s all making me super insecure… I feel like if he were to post me on social media it would help calm me down a ton but he wouldn’t do it. Instead he just deactivated his acc and made a new one in secret (it’s a fitness account)

[Asker]

It sounds like the relationship is going toxic

[Ruenella_]

Sushi dates.

[Asker]

I definitely love sushi