Girls, A question for the ladies?

[Glenn_lawrence]

describe your ideal guy. What does a guy have to have to make you want to be a faithful wife?

[SueShe]

If I was into dating or even looking for a partner, he should have a number of qualities. To me, the most important things about a person, regardless whether this person is to date, to talk to or just to be with are:

- Character
- Intellect
- Personality
- Charisma
- Responsible
- Humor
- Caring
- Open mind
- Being respectful of others, animals and nature
- Not selfish
- Altruism
- Honesty
- Positive thinking
- Humble
- Generosity
- Simplicity
- Kindness
- Truthfulness
- Smart
- Empathy
- Positive attitude
- Assertiveness
- Body hygiene

That about summarizes what I seek in another person. I know that will be difficult, but I can still hope, no?

What I am not interested the least are looks, cult of the personality, physique, height, weight and for those that are so worried about that small detail, the size of their penile appendage. That is totally not relevant to me.

[Glenn_lawrence]

thank you for your input

[PrettyPriya]

I am lucky enough to have found my ideal guy. So, is it okay that I describe him? He kind of popped into my life at the most random time. He was/is such a gentleman. That was the first thing I really noticed about him. It was in the way he spoke to me.

He still is one, all this time after. He does the little "gentleman" things every day. Things as simple as opening the door or pulling out my chair. To this day, it makes me feel special.

That is part of his personality, which is what I look for first in a guy. He is caring, compassionate, respectful, good sense of humour, etc, etc. I could go on and on but there are a thousand things that make him a perfect match for me.

I was fortunate enough to find him and now we are engaged. I cannot imagine spending my life with someone other than him. While he always says he is so lucky to have me... I am the lucky one.

[Glenn_lawrence]

when you first saw him you didn't know his personality what made you interested in him? was it his look, status, or something else?

[PrettyPriya]

The first thing you notice about anyone is looks. I was attracted to him. He isn't from my country (originally) but works and lives here most of the year. So, he stands out as far as appearance considering he is foreign.

[Glenn_lawrence]

thank you for your answer and reply

[PrettyPriya]

Sure! No worries. 🙂

[LazerBean]

You cannot do anything to make a cheater faithful. You just have to pick wisely.

[Glenn_lawrence]

thank you for your answer. do you think that if things changed in the relationship for example the husband gets fat and the wife no longer is attracted to him can make even the most faithful wife possibly cheat?

[LazerBean]

That's not a good excuse to cheat and I would hope most women would not in that case. I do think we should do our best to stay attractive to our spouses though.

[Glenn_lawrence]

i agree completely with you but statistically speaking 10-30% of men are raising children that they believe they are the biological father to only to find out by DNA tests they are not the father. so that means about 1 in 5 guys don't know they are not the biological father to the child they are raising. so that means women are cheating at a much higher rate then before.

[LazerBean]

Where did you get that number?

[Glenn_lawrence]

dnatestingcom/30-of-men-not-the-father/

[LazerBean]

Did you read the whole article?

[Glenn_lawrence]

yes i did and that was just one of several articles that talk about that percentage

[LazerBean]

"This is an often misunderstood statistic provided by some paternity test labs regarding the percentage paternity tests with a ‘not the father’ result. Most paternity test labs report that about 1/3 of their paternity tests have a ‘negative’ result. Of all the possible fathers who take a paternity test, about 32% are not the biological father. But remember, this is 1/3 of men who have a reason to take a paternity test - not 1/3 of all men. That is a huge difference!"

“When large numbers of families are surveyed for such research, a certain proportion of fathers turn out not to have the gene that their purported child inherited, thus yielding the [non-paternity] figures of 1% to 3.7%. Higher numbers, particularly the often-cited 10%, seem to come from more biased samples, or, more likely, simply turn out to be an urban legend, akin to cell phones being able to pop popcorn.”

In summary, that whole article is actually debunking the claim that 30% of men are raising children that are not theirs and claims the real number is about 1% to 4%

[Glenn_lawrence]

dnatesting. com/paternity-fraud-the-tough-realities-men-must-face/

[Glenn_lawrence]

96% of women are liars, honest
The Scotsman, Scotland's National Newspaper
December 2004

NINETEEN out of 20 women admit lying to their partners or husbands, a survey on attitudes to truth and relationships has found.

Eighty-three per cent owned up to telling "big, life-changing lies", with 13 per cent saying they did so frequently.

Half said that if they became pregnant by another man but wanted to stay with their partner, they would lie about the baby's real father.

Forty-two per cent would lie about contraception in order to get pregnant, no matter the wishes of their partner.

And an alarming 31 per cent said they would not tell a future partner if they had a sexual disease: this rises to 65 per cent among single women"

australianpaternityfraud. org/

[LazerBean]

Are you looking for truth or are you looking to support what you want to think? The second link you posted does not refute the first link, which already establishes that the 30% number *only* reflects DNA tests of men who have reason to suspect cheating, not *all* men.

[Glenn_lawrence]

i am not looking for anything to support what i think or believe. I actually think the number is too high. all i am doing is providing the data just like this quote that mentions the 30% factor. which i guess you can say that the 30% is from the guys who get a paternity test so if thats the case then no its not all men because most guys wouldn't question it unless the child comes out looking to belong to a different race "The AABB (American Association of Blood Banks), which accredits DNA testing labs, released its findings about paternity testing in a landmark 1999 report. The report states that 30 percent of DNA paternity tests nationwide turn out negative."

[LazerBean]

Can you give me the link to that citation?

[Glenn_lawrence]

it was the second link

[LazerBean]

We already established that the second link only addresses men who are specifically seeking out DNA tests and is thus irrelevant.

[JosyJosy]

Any guy really. If I'm already his wife, it's already done, you know. I already said yes.

My ideal guy, I would usually say "me but male" but my boyfriend of course isn't me, but he's very friendly and respectful towards me and others, a gentleman, good looking, shares the same interests, easy to get along with and he makes me laugh.

[Ms_Facesitter]

A cute guy who makes me feel like I'm home where ever we are.

[Glenn_lawrence]

can you please define cute to you