I think she's just using me because she knows I like her?

[Lovelesspassion]

How can I tell for sure? Is there anything I should do to find out?

What should I do if she is?

Should I just ask her?

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The reason I'm not sure is I keep seeing mixed signals..

Like she like me back.. But isn't sure how to show me..

Then other times she'll forget I was talking to her.. But turn around and ask me to do something for her..


And just by chance she reads this..

I really do like her alot.. But right now I have to wonder if I should keep trying..

I asked her out and I was told "maybe ask me a little later".. So I asked later and was told maybe. Then the day of I asked and was told she forgot..

[Anonymous]

Okay, let's build a logical argument here.

Proposition: women have a better memory than men.

Proposition: if a hot stripper told you she wanted to f*** you, you would remember.

Proposition: if a girl you liked told you she wanted to date you, you would remember.

Proposition: if a boy a girl likes tells her he wants to date her, she would remember.

Proposition: Ms. Ima Fraud does not remember Average Joe asking her out on a date.

Conclusion: Ms. Ima Fraud does not like Average Joe.

[malekoniky]

Say no and what reaction. That is how you should find out.

If she is using you you should dump her and forget about her.

You should not ask her. Won't do any good. If she is and if she isn't you will get "no I am not answer" and Hell afterward. Not worth it. Don't ask.

[Lovelesspassion]

The last time I told her no.. Its because I had a date with another girl

And she acted really strange.. But I couldn't tell if it was.. Jeliousy.. Or if she thought I wasn't intrested anymore and figured we could just be friends..

Basicly she asked me to go do some photoshoots with her and her best girl friend.. But the friend was just as confused as me

[malekoniky]

oh no! Strange usually means she likes you. But never tell a girl "no, I am going out with another girl". That's ... It's obvious that it will make her feel like she means nothing to you. Always say NO with possibility of yes later. Something, like: No I have a plan, but I will be happy to go another time. OR: I will go when you are nice to me once. More like, Yes, but with conditions. That will make her going and earn your trust. Just don't overshoot conditions.

[malekoniky]

And by the way, from what you said I see not mixed signals. She wanted something to happen. She asked her out and in trying not to sound needy or creepy she asked her friend too. So you can see she does not want to stay alone with you (not yet). But she wants to spend time with you. This proposition as you said, sounded like she didn't plan that. She just grabbed any oportunity she might have to be with you. And that sounded ... well ... cute to me.

[Apodyopsis]

If she acts nice only to ask you for favors and when you comply she'll forget about you, she pretty much is using you.

Confront her about it.

[beerY33]

Tell her how you feel and why. If she doesn't have a damn good response, dump her.

[blandd72]

goood ass answer

do EXACTLY that if not than its gonna come around and bite like a bug!

Your a good guy I seen you around here let them treat you with respect too

[Lovelesspassion]

I feel like if I ask her and tell her right now after she "forgot" it would seem like am being a jerk.. And she might think ill leave her because of it

And I'm not 100% sure but I'm pretty sure she doesn't open up to guys when she's afraid she just screwed up.. And they might leave her.. Trust issues.. Wich would explain a lot about her

I need to ask her when she's not as worried..

But if I'm wrong I don't know

[beerY33]

She is at risk of losing you. She needs to know that.

[Lovelesspassion]

I don't know how.. What if I'm seeing the wrong signals..

And she really doesn't like me.. Then I'll sound like an idiot

[beerY33]

you're getting a clear message that she's using you. if she doesn't intend that, then she needs to know that's what's coming across so she can change it.

[DonMichelle]

:( You're being used mate. How old are you? Thought people grew out of this sh*t when they were older.

100%, without a doubt... USED!

I'm sorry man :(

[sixstring]

She's propably leading you on, trying not to hurt you.

[DonMichelle]

Using you for what? Sex, money, both?

[Lovelesspassion]

What I can do for her.. Like asking me to drive her friends places and her to..

Editing music for her dances.. Video of her dance practices and preformances..

Basicly I feel she only has me around because I know enough about computers to keep her dances practices going..

Sure I can make her smile.. But she has never been out with me alone.. Not even to hang. I asked her to see if she would go just me and her.. And she forgot I asked her..