Have u ever been in love?

[Anonymous]

How it feels? And how do you know that you're in love and it's not just a lust.

[Flunkerdunk]

Lust: I'm there for you when you are in your bed and need me.

Love: I'm there for you when you are in a hospital bed and need me.

Lust: I'm going to shoot my shot with him/her

Love: I'd stand in the way of somebody shooting at him/her

Lust: I'd kill to be with her/him

Love: I'd kill to protect him/her

Lust: I'm lonely, I WANT a hot girl/guy

Love: I'm lonely, I NEED (specifically) him/her

Lust: I could see myself with him/her for a night

Love: I could see myself with him/her till death

Lust pretty much means you desire their body, to use it to please your urges.

Love pretty much means you desire them and want to please them.

Lust means you desire a physical connection

Love means you desire a mental connection.

That is why when two people truly love each other, it is a sight to behold but one sided love is awful to witness (usually abusive).

[Asker]

So do you think can men really love?

[Flunkerdunk]

Well...

Did your dad love you? Did he do everything and give up his own happiness to see you happy? Was his joy derived from your own joy?

I've lusted over women who I could not stand talking with. I've loved women that I would never want to have sex with, ever.

I've asked myself if women could ever truly love a man (out of spite, usually). Then I remember that my mother put up with me as a child and still loved me (despite me being the biggest source of stress in her life lmao).

This isn't a gender-sided issue, but a situational and individual issue that is tied to people and their personalities. If you are asking me if the "player" at the club can really love you... ha. If you are asking me if it is possible that you could find a man that would love you, yes.

[Asker]

I really loved when I was in high-school and only thing I could ever think was him. Didn't pay attention to anyone else except him but in the end I just got hurted. Feeling like losing my hope.

[Flunkerdunk]

This is why I said:

"That is why when two people truly love each other, it is a sight to behold but one sided love is awful to witness (usually abusive)."

One sided love almost always ends with one party emotionally damaged and the other party apathetic about the whole situation.

You can learn from the past but you can't change the past. You can't learn from the future but you can change the future. You should use what you learned from your past experiences to change your future.

[Asker]

Thank you sir, God bless you!

[sawno]

Do you get a pleasant butterfly feeling in your body when your around them or turned on? That is lust.

Love is deeper, and I personally do not describe love as a feeling but if you focus on what you can feel during mutual love i'd describe it as warmth. What is love then? To me its a deep connection and deep affection shared between two people. In my case it was being able to feel each others energy, sending each other warmth even if apart, and that true feeling of oneness and admiration of how perfect she is.

Love is also not the part that hurts after a breakup, neither does it fade if you leave on good terms. I still love my ex the same as when we were together, but since we are no longer together the connection aspects of it where you feel each others love is severed or at least a lot less strong. If she ever comes back in my life and we tried again I am sure that would be back in full force.

[Tina19]

Yes when i was 19 i had this boyfriend who was very cute and funny i just loved spending time with him and talking to him most attractive thing about him was he always use to say things to make me laugh he never talked about sex neither he asked for it nor it came to my mind it was a sweet innocent relationship

[mT2359]

Wow... Never asked for it not it came up at age 19... Cute

[D_Bone_Steak]

Does it include logical thoughts outside of fantasy and fucking? Do you actually care and about the other person you also care? Love is different from what most dumb ass people consider love. by the way I love that you mentioned lust in the question. Love is mistaken for that so often that it makes me sick.

[Asker]

Makes me sick too

[Hydrogen]

Yes and it costed me everything. I am done with that (:

[BLP11520]

The first one I loved broke my heart, 3 years to recover. Since then it hasn't gotten better. Sorry but life is like cement > hard.

[Anonymous]

Yes, 3 different times.