Why do I attract aggressive people?

[Anonymous]

Ones who will go out their way to get into my

• personal space
• Disturb my mental/emotional peace
• Projecting how they feel onto me
• Try to hurt my feelings

[Guy13]

Perhaps your personality screams easy target to the aggressive male. Much of iit today is a boy never being taught by an adult male how to interact and behave around women. Often, they are simply following what YouTube or television is telling and showing.

It seems like you should be more aggressive rather than passive towards the men you are attracted too. Making yourself available in safe one-one situations would be a good start rather than surrounded by girls etc. You should develop a strategy that is logical and practical in its implementation.

[coachTanthony]

Somehow on a deeper level you are attracted to those characteristics. Maybe at this point normal guys are just boring. Normal guys won't give you that emotional rollercoaster of emotions like those guys would.

[Asker]

Yuck that's not healthy. I want a little of that tho I'm dramatic and I'm not used to safe and boring... BUT this is considering of mostly people I've had no interactions with but solely physical like a gym or in a office. Its weird!!!

[coachTanthony]

I met up with an old client of mine and she said she has been out of this toxic relationship now for over a year. She told me, Coach, you know I don't miss him but I miss the pain he caused me because I lived with it for so long. My point is the longer you keep getting involved with rollercoasters the more normal guys will feel boring.

[Asker]

Ew I'd hate that for me I deserve peace and kindness. Thanks coach T

[Sunssong]

Why not just move on to the next date and focus on that? You met the wrong guys is all.

[Asker]

This is with work relationships, associates, friends... it's not just men

[In_Trance]

must be something you're saying or doing