What to do when you are really angry or unhappy and your partner makes fun of it or behave immatured?

[Anonymous]

she now temporarily lives in college hostel with roommates and we rarely get time alone to speak.

Today she was alone in room. So I took work from home to talk to her. I had important meetings and things at office.

But she talked very less today with ego because of a small issue happened yesterday. Now I was telling her how important my day was at office and still took wfh just to talk and all.. she replied making me fun like “ok ok ok.. ok”

what would you do?

[Anonymous]

You either stop trying to talk to her or just end it altogether because that’s no way to live, you must be able to communicate. When a partner goes away for college or anything that creates distance between you two, there’s always opportunity for you to actually grow apart. She’s now exposed to an entirely different environment, having new experiences with new friends and it could be affecting how she thinks or even what kind of girlfriend she is to you. If her friends are single and behave as such, unfortunately they could influence her to act the same way. Her actions to me sound like a woman who wants to be single. She’s checked out of the relationship, not prioritizing you anymore, doesn’t take your emotions seriously, it’s a joke for her. Which is actually very sad because she will lose a good relationship and have to learn from that eventually.

[Asker]

Damn. You understood it perfectly. Yeah you’re right. Her friends are single and they do their own things mostly.

She love me, but acts immature sometimes. I don’t really want to lose her but want her to undertake that this is wrong.

Thank you so much

[Opinion Owner]

I watched that happened to my female friend back in college, and it’s sad to see.

Fortunately for you guys it’s only a temporary arrangement, but a lot of damage can be done in a short time. Love won’t save the relationship if she can’t be bothered to try, or even just understand how her actions bother you.

What sucks too is that she’s getting advice from those new friends, even if she says she’s not, I’m telling you now, she vents to her friends. Because they are single and probably have bad luck with men, they won’t encourage her to be a better girlfriend. They’ll be those women saying “F him, there’s so many men out there, he’s being controlling he’s so needy for attention”, etc etc etc, because they don’t know you personally and feel no need to have your back. It’s just messy dude. Of course I hope things can work for you two but she has to want it to get better as well, otherwise you are wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

Id tell her to knock it off.