Question about poly relationships?

[Anonymous]

Hi I have a question about poly relationships. When a girlfriend and boyfriend meet a new person together , and the boyfriend is able to move very quickly into the relationship but the girlfriend is very shy and can take weeks, even months to be comfortable enough to do anything with the new person. Is everyone suppose to just wait until the girlfriend is ready? Or , what do we do?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I'm currently in a poly relationship and the way we do it is either of us are free to date who we want. I currently have a boyfriend and my wife currently does nothing with him romantically. Our rule is basically if we find someone we are both into then we can share if our third is into it, but it's not a requirement that either of us HAS to date the same person.

[Asker]

This particular post is referring to people trying to date the same girl, potentially to wife. I would like us to equally like her and be comfortable with her, but if my boyfriend moves too fast I get uncomfortable, but If I move too slow and they get frustrated.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Your partner needs to move at your pace as you are the slower one. You shouldn't rush into a relationship, especially in a poly situation. Rushing in is only going to lead to problems down the road. If he's serious about making it work and not just trying to have sex with another girl, then he needs to listen to you.

[Asker]

Ok Thankyou

[Anonymous]

I cannot agree with this. Girls now are as faster and open minded as men.

I know few of them who fuck with other guys without their partner’s knowledge.