Why do I want to call my girlfriend mommy?

[Anonymous]

If you have a strained relationship with your mom and find comfort in calling your girlfriend "mommy" because she's nurturing and provides the love and affection you lacked, would it be harmful to do so? I understand it might seem odd, but I'm more concerned about whether it could negatively impact personal growth or the relationship. I find it uncomfortable in a sexual context, so this would only be used casually or in a light-hearted way. It started as a joke, but now I'm worried I might start to like it. If that happens, would it be strange to call her "mommy" randomly, never in a sexual way, just spontaneously?

[DishLady]

So you want us to crawl into your mind and see what's loose? Ok, here goes:

1. If you're part of the typical puritanical American Wonder Bread Society: You have a basic Oedipal complex. If you're also obsessed with breastfeeding off her you've gone too far and should try to dial things back a notch or two.

2. If you're both at least partially Latino: If you call her "mami" and she calls you "papi" you're square. (In this case it's more of a cultural thing and so it's not considered out of the ordinary at all. Couples do it all the time going back generations.)

[Kingofkings1992]

Mami is totally different from what he’s referencing

[Anonymous]

I would never ever want my man to call me mommy in this context. Being nurturing as a woman does not mean I want my romantic partner to see me as their mom.

[Unit1]

I know what you mean. It reeks of mommy issues.

Beware, that most women are turned off by it and would much rather have a reversed role in that manner, that they'll look up to you, not you to them. How unfortunate. Don't ask me how I know that.

Your best chances to fulfill that are by finding courtesans or sex workers to scratch that itch of yours. Just tell them you want a gentle dommy mommy experience or phrase it in such a way without actually saying it and you're good to go. It won't go away, so you'll likely be a repeated customer.

[NamerOfStars]

Given how common in it is, both in porn and in depictions of broader romantic culture, to have a woman call her man "daddy", it seems a silly thing to complain about.

That said, there's a difference between "reveling in feeling loved and cared for" and "refusing to act like an adult and take care of yourself", and I can see that making some people apprehensive.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the heart of affection here! It's fascinating how relationships can mirror needs we're not even fully aware of. If calling your girlfriend ‘mommy’ springs from a place of love and comfort, it's essential to chat about it with her. Openness is the key. If she's cool with it and understands where you're coming from, who's to say it's wrong? Just remember, balance is everything. While it's beautiful to find someone who fills those gaps, focusing on healing your own wounds is vital for personal growth. Don’t let this nickname be a band-aid for unresolved issues. Embracing vulnerability and working through past hurts can strengthen you as an individual and enhance your relationship. Keep the communication lines open and let love lead the way. Lovebombing with terms of endearment is lovely, but make sure it's enriching, not complicating, your love story. 😉

[black]

Honestly, it ain't that strange if you and your girl are both cool with it, but if it’s filling some emotional gap left by your mom, it might get tricky. It could create an imbalance in the relationship where she feels like more of a caretaker than a partner. That’s where things can go sideways, especially long-term. If it’s just light-hearted and random, no big deal, but if you start relying on it for comfort too much, it could stop you from working on the deeper issues with your mom. Relationships are supposed to be partnerships, not emotional band-aids, ya know? You might wanna think about talking it over with her and maybe even dig into why you need that dynamic in therapy or something. Keep it balanced and make sure both of y'all are on the same page.

[janina]

it’s not a good idea. Calling her "mommy" to fill that emotional void can mess up your relationship dynamics and hold back your personal growth. It blurs boundaries and can lead to bigger issues. Better to work on healing those deeper problems instead.

[Billlewis]

I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow or message me, as well if that's alright. Thank you very much.

[Flower7]

She's going to feel like you're saying she's old, especially if she actually is older than you. Either way, this is not something that a woman would want to hear.

[golden]

It’s not harmful as long as both you and your girlfriend are comfortable with it and it stays in a playful, non-sexual context as you mentioned. Sometimes, we seek nurturing qualities from partners, especially if we missed that growing up. It could be comforting, but just be mindful if it starts to blur emotional boundaries or affects your personal growth. As long as you both understand it’s light-hearted and doesn’t shift into dependency, it’s not inherently bad.

[jshm2]

Because you're watching too much incest porn. Get better hobbies, sunny.

[noohair]

It sounds like the Oedipus complex developed by Sigmund Freud.

[Anonymous]

Not normal. Probably some unhealthy issues going on in your head.

[LiamJHayden]

This would be easy to overthink.

[Kingofkings1992]

Because you’re a weirdo

[Jmmmfi4]

THATS FUCKING BEYOND CREEPY

[jahaims]

Unresolved trauma