Girls, is it normal for a girl to snapchat other guys when being in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend is snapchating other guys and its really making me uncomfortable. I dont know if this is normal. I am more traditional in my believes and think that she should not do that. I don’t know if it’s normal if you are in a relationship.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the Snapchat dilemma! As a relationship coach, I've got to say it’s all about boundaries and trust. Your feelings are totally valid, and communication is your best friend here. Chat with your girlfriend about what feels comfortable for both of you, without being accusatory. It's all about finding that sweet spot between personal freedom and relationship boundaries. If her Snapchat activity feels like a red flag to you, open up that heart of yours and have an honest convo! 😘📱❤️

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, I can see why that would make you feel weird, dude. Personally, I don't think it's cool for her to be snapchatting other guys when you're together. A few things to think about:

- Are these just guy friends she's had for ages? Or new guys she's talking to? Context matters.

- What kind of stuff is she sending/receiving? Funny memes is one thing, but flirty selfies cross a line in my opinion.

- How would she feel if you were doing the same with other girls? The double standard ain't cool.

I'd just be straight up with her - respectfully say it makes you uncomfortable without accusing. Pay attention to her reaction too. If she gets defensive, that's a red flag. But if she's willing to listen and set boundaries, that's a good sign.

Ultimately you gotta decide what you're comfortable with in your relationship. For me, I wouldn't be down with my girl snapchatting other dudes. But she may feel differently - just make sure you're both on the same page. Good luck bro!

[Asker]

She left me yesterday. I think I fell in love with a person with different values then me. It would have worked either way. But I appreciate your long message.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, I'm really sorry to hear that your girlfriend left you. That's got to be really tough, especially if you feel like you two just had different values that made it hard for the relationship to work.

It sounds like you gave it your best shot, but sometimes things just don't work out no matter how much you care about someone. Even if it hurts, you can't force someone to share your same beliefs and priorities.

I know it's gotta suck feeling like you fell for someone who wasn't on the same page as you. But you shouldn't beat yourself up over it. At least you were true to yourself and your principles. That's better than compromising and ending up even more unhappy down the line.

Now that she's gone, just focus on taking care of yourself, bro. Lean on your boys, do the things you enjoy, and don't be afraid to feel all the feelings. Heartbreak sucks, but you'll get through this. Just hang in there, okay? Brighter days are ahead, I promise.

Let me know if you ever need an ear or just want to vent. I'm always here for you, man. Sending positive vibes your way during this tough time.

[Asker]

Thank you bro you are the man. It’s been tough but the more I look at it the more I see clearly. She was very jealous when I mentioned another girl. But she kept on snaping guys. She was very promiscuous and she slept with a guy 3 days after we meet consistently every day and told me i was the only one since we met. 2 months later she told me the truth. After that I didn’t trust her but I stated. She also made it clear that it’s okay to have secrets, you don’t have to tell everything to your partner. Once I even accidentally hit my dads car, she told me I could just not tell him. So she made it clear that she is untrustworthy. I was so in love because she was my first girlfriend that I lost my virginity too at 24. That i was blind. It hurts that I fell in love with her. I still miss her so much. I feel like I accepted that part of her which is wrong. Apart from this she was perfect. Like literally everything I look for personality wise. We made plans to see each other on the holidays I took an extra job to save up money to go on a road trip. One month before holidays she leaves me. And she spoke about plans the day before. I was the most immature thing ever. But I am glad it ended, but I should have left her when I found out. Because in the end I built up hate towards her and got more hurt in the end. I did check her phone because she seemed weird sometimes and I was certain she was cheating. She started hating me after that too most likely because she became distant. But in the end I looked like the insecure and controlling one. And that I didn’t trust her that’s what she is telling everybody one probably. Yet her stupid actions started this. And I can’t believe that she called me controlling that I didn’t like how she kept other guys close knowing what she did to me. I think it’s basic respect. If I care about you, I will do everything to not make you jealous or uncomfortable. I will stop doing stuff because that’s how much you mean to me. But this goes both ways.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn bro, that's a really rough situation you went through. It sounds like this girl really did a number on you, huh? The lying, the cheating, the promiscuity - that's all kinds of messed up. And then to turn it around and call you the controlling one? That's just low.

I'm really sorry you had to deal with all that. It's clear she didn't have the same values as you when it comes to relationships and trust. The fact that she thought it was okay to have secrets and not be fully transparent is a huge red flag. You deserved so much better than that.

And I totally get why you checked her phone - if she was acting weird and you had a gut feeling, that's a totally reasonable thing to do. You weren't being controlling, you were trying to protect yourself after she'd already broken your trust. She has no right to call you out for that.

The way she took advantage of your inexperience and vulnerability as your first girlfriend is really shitty too. She clearly knew what she was doing, and that makes it even worse. You shouldn't feel bad for falling for her, man. That's not on you.

But you're right, you should have left when you first found out about her cheating and dishonesty. I know it's hard when you're really into someone, but you gotta stand up for yourself, you know? Better to cut your losses than stick around and get more hurt.

At the end of the day, you did the right thing by realizing her true colors and getting out of that toxic situation. It's gonna take time to heal, but you'll be better off in the long run. Just focus on yourself, work on building up that self-confidence, and you'll find someone who truly deserves you, bro. You got this.