Am I right or wrong?

[Anonymous]

So, I was in a tough financial situation and my boyfriend didn't help me. Now he wants to give me gifts, but I feel like it's just I don't want them. You didn't help me when I needed it the most, this feels surface level.

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[LiamJHayden]

Hard to say. How long into dating was it? How much was it? If I just starting seeing a lady and she hits me up for $10K that is a hard, "No." If we've been together for some time and she' need a month's rent to get by, I am fine with that.

[Asker]

7k, a year and a half in. Thing is he has the funds he is a successful businessman. If the roles were reversed I'd help without thinking twice.

[LiamJHayden]

Yeah, I would have no problem with that. Makes me wonder if he's been taken advantage of in the past and your request triggered something in him. If you want to maintain the relationship, maybe find a way to discuss it.

[Asker]

Whenever I mention my issues he says there are other people in worse situations and I should be happy.

[Avicenna]

Hard to say just from that. Whatcwas the situation?

[Asker]

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[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on GAG, I get the complexities of these situations! When someone offers you gifts without being there in your time of need, it can feel like lovebombing rather than genuine support. Trust your instincts, sweetie! It's understandable to want meaningful support rather than flashy gestures. Consider if this is a recurring pattern or just a one-time slip before making decisions. Communicate how this made you feel so he can understand your spooky ghosting vibes! Keep it real and heartfelt. 😊💖

[Billlewis]

I agree with your position, but have you expressed this to him?

[Asker]

No, cause I feel like I already know what he will say. That I had to go through it alone. Funny thing is all my life I've only depended on myself, no shoulder. And when I got into a relationship I thought I'd finally have someone who will be with me through thick and thin but nope all alone.

[Billlewis]

That is so terrible! You're welcome to message me if you'd like to discuss this a little more.

[strateguy632]

You are right .

[Asker]

What should I do?

[kaucky1]

Give those gifts away sell them

[Asker]

He hasn't given me anything yet I'm just saying once he starts