Can you give me any advice about that my girlfriend never listens to me?

[Anonymous]

I noticed that my girlfriend doesn’t really listen to me when I talk. Whether it’s about my day, my opinions, or something I care about, she either zones out, changes the topic, or just acts like it’s not important. It’s frustrating because I always try to give her my full attention and really listen when she speaks. I don’t want to start an argument, but I feel like my thoughts don’t matter to her. Has anyone else been in this situation? How do you get your partner to actually listen without making it into a huge deal?

[Purpleronnie]

To be fair to your lady there could be reasons for this behavior , how you talk to her , whether you even need a response , whether she thinks you would “hear” her even if she did , is it about things that even affect her etc etc but giving you the benefit of the doubt in these areas and others of that ilk then I’d respectively ask her for the reasons , your not gifted with Jedi mind tricks your just seeking a little feedback and interest or even acknowledgement of the things that are important to you that you want to share with her. If she gets defensive or argumentative with you then just stick a pin in the conversation with her and ask her to think about it and come back to you in her own time and way.


If there is behavior or conversation styles etc needing changed or shaped then this can only be done by both of you together. Without her involvement or interaction there is no way forward.

[MysticDevice]

Don't waste your time and energy. If she wanted to listen to you she would.

I hate to say it but I think you should move on.

I had a girlfriend like that years ago. No matter what I said to her she just didn't want to hear it. Nothing I did was ever correct or what she wanted and she'd never give me a clear answer. Eventually I realized she didn't actually "like" me she was just terrified of being alone.

I was fed up and exhausted so I dumped her. One of the best decisions I ever made.

[Crazzyyworld]

you like bad girls (hookers) and she like bad boys (pimp) in the first place. If you don’t, try not to give to much attention to her. Just give enough that she become hungry for attention. And give that attention to other girl make her jealous and run away with other girl who is slutty and selling $$ and make her sing and become a star and you manage that hooker to become a star and you rip her off and keep all the money for yourself leave her drug addicted whore

[Raphaëlle]

Talk with her when she's in a good mood and doesn't have anything else important or stressful going on. Tell her that you want her to listen and that its important to you. You could take time in the day with her so for example you both sit down for a certain amount of time and both of you talk about important stuff or just everyday stuff. So it's just you two with no interruptions.

[AI Opinion]

On Girls Ask Guys, I'm all about helping you navigate the love maze. 💕 It sounds like you're dealing with a classic communication hiccup. Try finding a relaxed moment to share how you feel, using "I" statements to express your emotions. "I feel unheard when..." can be less confrontational. Spice it up—compliment her attention to detail in other areas, then segue into your needs. Remember, relationships thrive on mutual support! A little humor or a light-hearted tone can also make the conversation smoother. Good luck in getting her to tune into your frequency! 📻❤️

[BarryLiverstone]

If you want her attention and to listen then plan for it:


1. Make sure you have carved out at least 15 min of free time where she doesn’t have to go and do something


2. No electronic devices: turn off the cell phones, laptops, tvs. Music can be ok in the background.


3. Tell her it’s important she listens: usually in the course of the day she can listen passively as others vent or go on automatic. Tell her you need her undivided attention and make eye contact, hold her hand for support.

[celticman]

There is no need to directly fight. First, you can calmly say, "Sometimes when I talk, I feel like I'm losing you, can you pay attention while you're listening to me?" This will allow you to get closer emotionally and also allow you to talk without accusing. Maybe she feels the same way, so you both need to rest. Don't worry, approach with understanding, communication is the most important thing.

[Asker]

Approaching him calmly and understandingly in this way can help us establish a healthier communication. I share my feelings and explain the situation without blaming him. Thanks for helping.

[cigarette]

Bro, when you are calm, bring up the subject and explain your feelings clearly. You can attract his attention by approaching it with humor. It is useful to show the situation with a light joke like "I guess you are not listening to me". Be patient and understanding, it will be resolved.

[Asker]

you are right, i will try, thank you

[barney]

That’s frustrating, but maybe she doesn’t realize how much it bothers you. Try bringing it up casually when you’re both relaxed, like: “Hey, I feel like you don’t really listen sometimes, and it kind of hurts.” If she cares, she’ll adjust. If not, that’s something to think about.

[Asker]

Maybe he/she is upsetting me without realizing it. In a relaxed environment, I plan to say something like, "Sometimes I feel like you don't fully understand what I'm saying, and that hurts me."

[michalpl00]

Start saying something and then after a while ask. What did I say? Lol talk a bit more and then ask again. But if she seems distant, don’t take her for granted. Girls leave all the time. You got to play so games. Give her less attention. And mention another girl. Lol she will chase you. I wish i did this. I just became too clingy so she left.

[Anonymous]

Have you asked her if she's aware that she's doing it. Normally the woman is complaining the man is not listening like this.

Is she tired, does she find your subjects difficult to engage with intellectually or just dull, is she distracted, do you go on and on? Or she just lazy in this way?

Perhaps your can agree a time in the day where you get to vent and she focuses just on engaging with you. And then you give her lots of praise and brownie points.

[MisterWack]

Tell her everything, be open & honest, sit down with her and discuss this…. If she loves you she’ll hear you out and respect what you have to say.

[Unit1]

That's a though one. I don't think there is a remedy for that. Some people don't listen, period.

Watch Andrew Tate right next to her. Make it your last call for her to listen and or for you getting ready to give it up.

[slatyb]

Have you spoken to her about it? If so, the next step is to get a new girlfriend. They aren't all that hard to find.

[SolitarySolace]

She doesn't care about you. Give it up and leave her before she leaves you and makes you feel like a fucking moron

[Anonymous]

I have people like that. I stopped telling them anything.

[Sabretooth]

I would if I wasn't too busy ignoring you, myself.

[Alwayreckles93]

Maybe she has ADHD

[ArnieC]

Mental judo. Fight fire with fire.