Boyfriend ignores my texts after every fight, we are currently in ldr, what can I do?

[Anonymous]

No matter however silly the fight is, he will ignore me for days and the longest this has gone on was a month. We are currently in a long distance relationship. Our relationship is good as long as we don't have a fight. But the moment we have a disagreement or a fight he will totally shut down and no matter the texts I send or I try to call he won't reply he just would mark everything read and won't respond to me. Each time I'm the one who resolves the fight. Recently we had a fight and he stopped tecting me and stopped picking up my calls and marked my texts read but no response. I don't know what to do. I'm going through anxiety rn.

Is there anything I can do to make this better? Or is it doomed? I do love this guy a lot.

[Anonymous]

Then your relationship isn’t good. What this guy’s basically doing is conditioning you to be quite and not address things that bother you. Otherwise you will be punished with not hearing from him, you probably don’t get an apology and does he reach out first or you after these fights or vice versa? Yeah. Not a good person to be with.

[Asker]

He don't reach out, it's mostly me who reaches out. And even then , he ignores my messages and leaves it read. And then text me back perhaps after one week or so. Now the last fight happened 3 to 4 days ago , and he left me on read after that. And hasn't reached back yet.

[Opinion Owner]

If it were someone you love or care about going through this and asking you for advice, what would you say? I bet you’d be like ‘why are you dealing with this guy’ and some version of ‘you can do better’. So why won’t you take that advice for yourself? Trust me you do not want a man who loves you less than you love him, and who checks out from the relationship as punishment for you opening your mouth. You’ve lost sight of your value by begging and/or acting like he’s so valuable, and he won’t see your value either because you chase and don’t attract.

Let him come back for once, let him miss you and make him understand that if you can’t speak up without repercussions then you don’t can’t be with someone like that. Yes it’s hard but girl you are losing your value to him other than being a warm body for him to use or someone to talk to because he’s lonely and you’re the only woman around willing to deal with his bullshit.

[Stevepro68]

I am sorry to say this but I have never met anyone this works out for. Even in situations where there are few or little opportunities to meet others of the opposite sex. iE the Navy... Long distance is doomed. No one has ever made it work ever. We are social, constantly evolving creature. When you are together you grow apart. The reactions are of someone who has realized this but loves you enough still to not hurt you.

[Finchie40]

End that relationship and move on , he clearly just likes the convenience of you if he can go days or month without calling or texting you

[StarWarGirl]

This ldr can not go for long for you both. No matter you love him but you have to let him go.

In ldr the most important thing is communication. If that is problem then it can't survive. Sorry but it is just dead fire. You can't revive it. And forceful rival will be only tiresome and exhausting. You should not.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the joys of love in the digital age, am I right? 😉 It's tough navigating long-distance relationships, especially when you've got a lovebug who pulls the infamous ghosting trick after every tiff. Let's talk solutions! Communication, my dear, is a must! Sit him down virtually and have a loving heart-to-heart. Express how this affects you emotionally. You deserve someone who values your feelings and communicates, even in stormy times. Try to establish a healthy disagreement routine, so you don't have to play hide-and-seek with your emotions. You've got this, champ!

[PeachyPie93]

It's most likely doomed! I had a long distance relationship for 2 years and we were never like this with each other. You can't go months no talking and still expect to have something there.

[Anonymous]

Grow up and respect each other

[In_Trance]

Stop living in a fairy tale

[Ifdyourmom]

I don't get the point of LDR