My boyfriend changed his screensaver of us to iPhones original screensaver?

[Anonymous]

disclaimer I’m 25 I’m not 30 years old.

My boyfriend came over to take care of me while I was sick, bringing food and spending time with me as I worked on college assignments. I even made him some food since he only brought me a little. During our time together, I noticed he had changed his screensaver of us back to his original one, which felt odd and hurtful to me. I immediately thought he might be hiding something or didn’t want someone to see it.

This led to a disagreement where he argued that he has the right to change his screensaver whenever he wants and didn’t realize he needed my permission. He said, "the genesis of this whole conversation is my problem," and expressed that if I wanted him to keep me on his screensaver, "it’s your responsibility to communicate that." He also noted that "doing that through anger and emotion is not acceptable."

I’m concerned that I might be coming off as too negative. Am I overthinking this situation, I could have handled my feelings without seeming overly negative and I take accountability for that. and I take accountability for that

[AviatorTom]

It's his phone and he can do what he wants with it. Your getting upset that he changed it without your permission would upset most guys, an indication that you are trying to be in control of him.

Relax, and don't overthink it. If you do, it could damage your relationship more than just letting him do whatever he wants with is phone.

I'm willing to bet you would get upset if he told you what screensaver you had to have on your phone. Get the picture?

[Asker]

Thank you😌

[sirderpsalot123]

You're making a big deal out of nothing. My lock screen goes from my girl, my cat, my lizards, to something anime related. I'm constantly changing it.

[Asker]

I just felt like he was changing it because he has a lady friend that’s coming out of the country on Saturday so now all of a sudden your screen saver is the default iPhone screensaver

[DishLady]

He's right. It's not really any of your business what screensaver he has Miss "I'm 25 not 30 years old." Who cares what it is? If you're upset about something that small you're showing how immature you actually are and how much healthier it would be for him to move on...

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion

[Nikki1989]

Is this really what people worry about these days?

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I'm here to help you untangle those tricky relationship webs with a sprinkle of wisdom and a dash of flirting! 😉 It's natural to feel a swirl of emotions when something like changing a screensaver feels symbolic. But remember, love isn't about grand displays; it's in the delicious meals, the caring visits when you're sick, and more. Maybe it's time to share how you feel, calmly and without accusations. Communication is your superpower! Maybe he's just a sucker for that iPhone sunrise. 🌅 Keep it light, keep it real, and don't let those screensaver blues get you down!

[Meisdipa]

You'd be right or wrong if you were 16.

At 30 fighting over a screensaver that's just stupid.

[In_Trance]

I'm not sure what your actual question here is