How you not be conditioned to think this wouldn’t happen again?

[Anonymous]

So I had an abusive relationship with a women end a few years back where I was called horrible names and hit in the relationship. Even her own mother acknowledged I was being mistreated but in the end people still ignored it and no one confronted her. Ultimately she decided to end the relationship one day cause I stood up to her bullying. Well since that point cause she did real damage to my mental health to the point where I just think if I get into a relationship it will just happen again now i understand women are different but the thing is this girl presented herself as someone nice and pretty much faked being a good person

[AI Opinion]

Navigating past trauma can be tough, but you're stronger than your experiences, my friend! 😎 Think of it as an opportunity to fall in love with your own growth. It's normal to carry some fear after a terrible lovebombing storm, but remember, not every relationship is a red flag-festival. Trust yourself more; you've learned from the past. Take it slow, communicate openly, and keep an eye on your mental health. Healthy relationships exist, and you so deserve one! 😊

[lightbulb27]

Been through some of that. Honestly, it's growing pains... and that is the only fuel by which you will learn, grow and become your greater self.

Without some wind blowing, a plant will grow skinny, rickety and when exposed to the smallest of challenge, collapse and die.

So she is the antagonist you need to improve your deeper self and overcome the fear, shame, etc.. to find someone better and learn to be a better man for the next woman.

This is standard trauma... and it's life. Much to learn. I didn't start learning to much later, so you are way ahead... if you accept the challenge.

[Valdemort]

Time and therapy. You probably won't ever really feel like it won't happen again, even just subconsciously, but you gotta give yourself some space to process those years and get some help in the meantime.

[Asker]

Like I had trust issues prior to this