Men in your late thirties: would you ever consider dating an 18-year-old woman?

[ThenThereWas1]

Men in your 30s: would you ever consider dating an 18-year-old woman? And even if you aren't a man in your 30s, what would you think if an 18-year-old were to date a man who was say, 38? I know all circumstances are different, but talk about what you think of the idea in general...

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I'm not oblivious to the knowledge that there is a generalization that the young girl would want money, and the older man would want sex. But do stereotypes ever fit EVERYONE? Not all men int their 30's are rolling in money, and not all young women are greedy and needy.

[MrRob]

Absolutely, but it depends on the person and the connection. I've pretty much always dated women younger than me, so I'm think its fine, it just has to be a good fit for both.

Id say its essential for both to have things in common to make it work for more than just a single date night. Totally agree that its not just about having a sugar daddy or whatever. Some guys like the energy of younger women and the idea that they may be more open to new possibilities. Or maybe its the idea that maybe they are not as jaded as many other women in their late twenties or early thirties. Hard to say. But its definitely easy to understand why a guy in his thirties might want to date a much younger woman.

Generally, the girl will have to be pretty mature for it to work. If she's not, and the guy is unusually immature for a guy in his 30s, Id say its doomed to failure. But if she's pretty mature, and he's cool about it, it can definitely work.

FWIW, when I was 32 and 33, on two different occasions I had one 16 year old girl and another 17 year old girl who I had worked with during the summer who I knew wanted to date me. They were afraid to ask, but it was made known that if I had, they would have said yes for sure. I didn't, because I was in a relationship, but I did seriously think about it.

Both girls were very mature for their age. Like they had jobs to make money, serious plans for college, and had a slightly nerdy demeanor, which is how we connected. Being a thirty-something year old guy whos confident, but appreciates his inner nerd is much easier to relate to than most teenage nerd guys. I know because when I was a teenage nerd I didn't get girls and they didn't get me, which is why when I was a senior in high school I dated a freshman girl in the drama club. Because she was nerdy too and we had something in common.

Anyways, Id say if I had not been involved in a relationship at the time, I would have had serious difficulty saying no to either of them; but I still might have hesitated just a bit to be the first to initiate with a 16/17 year old girl, even though its technically legal age of consent here, that just seems like its pushing it too close for comfort.

But at 18, Id say yes, absolutely!

[ImALuvrNotAFighter]

Personally, I would not do that. I'm established in my career, plus I have a good sense of who I am and what I want for my life. An 18-year-old isn't there yet; we wouldn't have any common ground.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the girl and how mature she is. Also depends on the guy and what he wants.

It's stereotypical to say that the girl is a gold digger and the guy's looking for sex.

[ThenThereWas1]

Thank you for at least recognizing that it's a stereotype.

[JustChris]

The guy wants a young youthful woman to have sex with. By his age most girls younger than him are pretty darn beautiful if I do say so myself. The girl is just using him for money, being a gold digger. Making the guy take care of the girl.

[JustChris]

The age difference is really far off between the guy and the girl don't you think? 20 years difference. I'd consider it immoral.

[JustChris]

@Update Well of course it was a stereotype, it seemed like that was a given already because you wanted us to generalize those two. Didn't know you really wanted us to point that out. And stereotypes doesn't fit everyone, it depends on how they were raised and the environment they lived in. So no, stereotypes do not fit everyone. They may have some characteristics of it because it's a stereotype, meaning typical of what a person of that race would act/talk like and what part of town they came...

[JustChris]

from making you have assumptions and if they met the stereotypical things that you thought were stereotypical of a person like that then you feel like that's how they are and that they would never do something out of that character. You put them as they are in your set of mind and they will stay like that when in reality they may be not what you thought they were...

[JustChris]

Either they will prove you wrong by being themselves or show some characteristics of not what a stereotypical person would be if you stereotyped them. Everyone is different. I tend to be open minded and not judge a book by it's cover too soon when meeting/observing a person.

[Anonymous]

i would totally date an 18 year old. some of them are very hot and sexy.

what is it about 30's that you find attractive?

[ThenThereWas1]

Oh, I don't have a particular attraction toward men in their 30's. There just happened to be a man in his thirties that I fancied, and I'd never deeply wanted to be with someone so much, but I wasn't sure how he'd feel about the age difference so I wanted to know how others felt. But he's mine now :) And so so happy.

[Opinion Owner]

so did he seduce you, or you seduce him? Seriously? Becasuse your age limits your experience, would you even know if he seduced you, or tricked you into thinking you seduced him. Either way, I'm happy that your happy, congratulations.

[ThenThereWas1]

We both expressed interest, but I thought of myself as the more aggressive flirter. But he went along with every lure I tossed to him. Twas quite fun. Been together over 5 months now. Thanks for the congrats.

[VirginiaBeachBum]

When I was 48 I was dating a 24 year old. Don't see a big deal about it.

[Anonymous]

max 33 guy Min 18 girl

anymore and there's something super wrong about it..

[Senses]

I think that they just want sex and nothing else...

[ThenThereWas1]

But there are 18-year-old men who want sex and nothing else from 18-year-old girls...

[amatuer_zombie]

^ so true

[Jerry_Camus]

I guess I agree with Senses...

[TsubasaCorrupted]

If it felt right absolutely

[Carolzina]

Eu estupro jovens mais jovens.

[Anonymous]

Gold digger and Peter Pan. They go hand in hand.

[ThenThereWas1]

Hah, nice analogy.