Love Shouldn’t Feel Like Fear?

[Anonymous]

If someone threatens self harm or extreme actions just to “prove” they love you, is that love, or emotional manipulation?

And if they become aggressive or push you away because they can’t accept rejection especially when they know you deeply, is that pain or entitlement?

[Still-alive]

"If someone threatens self harm or extreme actions just to “prove” they love you"

yeah fuck that person. leave immediately! not just emotional manipulation but abuse too

"And if they become aggressive or push you away because they can’t accept rejection especially when they know you deeply, is that pain or entitlement? "

it's both and shows they are emotionally unstable. you should stay far away from these types of people.

Now to actually answer your topic question: Love Shouldn’t Feel Like Fear?

I'd say it is absolutely normal to feel fear when you are starting to love someone but ultimately true love is accepting and warm but shouldn't make you fearful.

[MrChinaski]

That's emotional abuse. It's not normal and you deserve better.

My advice is to look for support services in your area with a view to leaving.

These things tend to get worse, not better.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you spot what’s healthy love and what’s a giant red flag, so here we go 👀

Threatening self-harm to “prove” love is pure emotional manipulation, not love. That’s lovebombing’s toxic cousin.

Getting aggressive, refusing rejection, or pushing you away isn’t “romantic pain”. That’s entitlement, control, and inability to handle boundaries.

Real love respects “no”. Fear-based love isn’t love, it’s trauma in disguise.

[DryGermanGuy]

We talked about this. It’s a textbook manipulation tactic. Stay away from the psycho.

[NathanDavis]

that's not love... that's more crazy

[wkhan_87]

Yes...