Questions: Relationships

• I am non attracted to older people, expecially if they are in their late 40s or 50s, because that would feel like dating my father, given the fact that they are close in age to him rather than me.
• I think that being in different moments of lives, take people in having different plans and ideas of how their future should be, I am young, I am finishing my studies and my priority is to find a job, to travel, find financial stability, while a man who is in his 40s may be interested in creating a family, he already has a job and financial stability, so he is living in a completely different way that I am living and I think this is a reason while I could not be compatible with a older man.

So, this type of relationship wouldn't work in my personal opinion. This doesn't mean that people can't make it work, it just only mean that I would not be able to make it work.

What about you? Would you evr date an older person? Why or why not?

Just found out the guy I hooked up with (three times) 9 years ago is married and has actually been married for 10 years! He didn’t have social media but I came across his picture on his wife’s social media celebrating their 10th year anniversary. That means that when we hooked up he was already married for a year… I don’t have any proof or texts because I no longer have my old phone/old number. I also saw that they have 2 daughters together. On one hand I feel obligated to tell her but I also don’t want to ruin a seemingly happy family and break their daughters’ heart… Should I just leave it alone then?

(We have since gone no contact ever since the last time we hooked up, it was all very casual and I’ve forgotten about him plus I’ve been in a happy relationship ever since then. That is up until he popped up on social media and caught me off guard - my boyfriend knows about all this and told me to stay out of it).