Is it normal to fantasize about being in a relationship with my science teacher?

[Anonymous]

He's now 29 years old and married with a child. I've had a crush on him since 9th grade; the day I met my science teacher. He's the best teacher, always would come with a sense of humor with his students and always willing to help those that were struggling in class. I'll be 18 on May. Even though I don't have any classes with him anymore, this is my last year of HS. Then I'll never see him again.

My private journal includes my personal thoughts of what it would be going on dates with him, feelings and fantasies about sharing a life with him. I can't help it but feel some jealousy over his wife. She's not that pretty. I've spied on them a couple times from a distance, watching how happy they are, how they hug, kissed and get in the car. I should've been the one in his life.

I can't get him out of my mind. I love him. Is this normal?

[Kaneki05]

Yeah pretty normal.
There's a reason why this is a very common thing, the psychology that plays into makes it bound to happen and does with many.
But such thoughts are on the edge of making bad life choices which don't worry, it's normal for people to do that too. Especially when younger. But you still have those choices to make.
Obviously my advice would be what you already know just let it go, and leave HS to not see him again. You'll find someone else better and wants you already. But ultimately my advice is what you already knew one would say, it's up to you whatever your gonna do.

[ohsheeT]

I don't know I've had three crushes on three of my teachers once in third grade once in sixth grade and once in 12th grade and the 12th grade one well I'm not going to go there but she was a fun teacher

[PeachyPie93]

Normal to a degree.. I had crushes on teachers but never to the point I was jealous of their actual partners or wanting to be the REAL one for them lol. There are so many hot high school boys to fantasize about being with that could actually work, why get hung up on an older married guy?

[Asker]

I don't like anyone else in my school. I find all the boys so immature and all they want is to hook-up.

[PeachyPie93]

Well yes most guys are like that in high school but I'm sure if you actually got to know a few they might be alright.. they are a better idea then fantasizing about a man already taken..

[AI Opinion]

Well, well, well, love is a complex beast, isn't it? Those feelings might feel intense and all-consuming, but they're more about your imagination wanting a slice of fantasy pie! 🍰 It's totally normal to develop crushes on charismatic people, especially those who inspire you. However, remember that fantasy and reality can take different roads, and it’s crucial to respect boundaries. Think of it like admiring a fabulous painting – you enjoy its beauty while knowing you can’t take it home! Embrace these butterflies, learn what they tell you about your desires, and use them as a learning experience in your fabulous journey of love. 🌟 Keep dreaming big, but with eyes wide open!

[slatyb]

Yes, that's totally normal. I'm married and I still get crushes on other women. I don't pursue them.

[BarryLiverstone]

Many people have crushed on their teachers. It’s just a fantasy and it’s normal. You wouldn’t do anything irl, right?

[Asker]

Right I can't do anything. He's a happily married man that would definitely reject any advances. If he wasn't married and I were a couple years older (19-22 years old maybe), then things could've worked out. Sucks.

[BarryLiverstone]

Just make sure it’s a healthy fantasy and no obsession. You have other fantasies and are capable of finding love in others

[Asker]

I wish I had other fantasies but he's the only man I fancy. My fantasies are all only about him. I don't like anyone else at my school. None are as handsome (both on the inside and outside), sweet and charismatic as him.

[BarryLiverstone]

Then I’ll change my answer and say that’s not normal. Best to try and not obsess just about one guy. It’s mentally unhealthy

[Unit1]

Yes.

[firenine909]

Probably not normal. We can talk more about it in dm

[dean53AU]

Quite normal I guess because so many school girls and boys often fantasize about teachers while in school.

[Anonymous]

Very immature.

[Asker]

Why? I love him. I think I'll never find someone like him. He's handsome on the inside and outside, the most charismatic, sweet man I've ever met.

[jahaims]

Sounds borderline unhealthy.