Is it normal to fantasize about being with someone?

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It doesn’t feel normal to me. I think about having a future with someone, but my mind tells me I can’t have that until I’m in a better place. I have no right to think about that kind of stuff. It’s not ok.

Nik1hil · Accepted Answer

VERY IMPORTANT- YOU NEED TO READ WHOLE (I had the same issue) Normal for people with ADHD to get lost in daydreams.  I have the same issue.. It's like I am sitting at a place, and within a few minutes, I am lost in a romantic, action, adventure fantasy.. and now my brain is getting the neurotransmitters it needs. The key here is to realize, that even though daydreaming and fantasy are enjoyable.  The pattern that we are displaying is of a DRUG-ADDICT.  The lack of attention and interest in staying in reality is just like a drug addict.  The only difference between me and a drug addict is that he needs to purchase the drug. I, on the other hand, can sit anywhere and within a few minutes, get lost in a fantasy. It's like, i have a natural needle with an infinite Drug vial connected in my brain.  What the brain is doing here is, creating an imaginary environment and then It fools the nervous system into synthesizing the Neurotransmitters. The same thing that chemical drug does to drug addicts. So, instead of going on a date and getting involved with someone, and making a real connection with someone. Which leads to a flush of Neurotransmitters like dopamine and oxytocin. A daydreamer's brain is capable of creating that flush of Neurotransmitters using just imagination. The stuff is the same. You either daydream or do hard work in real life to get it.. and daydreaming is much easier.. It took me a long time to understand this and still to this day, I get caught up in this.. but now I have learned to control it, DO NOT RESORT TO MEDICATION.  I controlled it, by making plans to go meet friends on weekends, or do activities that required me to stay in this reality. Activities like  - Learning to play guitar. (The goal is not to learn guitar, but every time I start getting disconnected, I pick it up, and try to learn it)  - Watch any new scientific video on YouTube and try to understand it.  - If you have a pet spend time with it and communicate with it ( sadly this is not an option for me)  - I come and answer a few questions on gag!

Static_In_The_Attic · Accepted Answer

You can fantasize & fantasize all you want or you can wish in one hand & shit in the other & see what one fills up first. Turn a fantasy into reality & go from there.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

Fantasies are normal part of our lives. We can't have or experience everything, so they make a substitute. It's normal to be curious about forbidden or socially not acceptable things. Or just nor acceptable for us.

Daffotul · Accepted Answer

it can be okay if you don't act on it until you are ready just wait until it's time but if it gives you something to hope for why not

Joshydavid25 · Answer

You're human, you want to connect and bond with somebody.. You probably want to build a future with the person you love.. That's totally normal.. No need to shame yourself because you want that.. In fact maybe it could motivate you a tiny bit.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Fantasies are not healthy, no matter what they are. It makes more sense to stick with reality.

slatyb · Answer

Completely normal, and it's totally ok. Are you thinking of someone in particular, or just in general?

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Yes. Who is it this time? Someone you’re too chicken shut to talk too? Or someone you feel your not worthy of attention from?

Sunnybeach123 · Answer

It's human nature to fantasize about people. You have every right to think about those fantasies.

loveslongnails · Answer

I prefer to fantasize about being with someone I know I'll never get! LOL

hbkfan · Answer

Not really I fantasize different scenarios of me being with my crush

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah and you are the "someone" in my case 🌹

Jennz6 · Answer

That gonna make it worse

dudeinohio · Answer

It's normal and it's ok.

JackStany · Answer

You seem to be obsessive, I think.

Twalli · Answer

Of course it's right to fantasize about that.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

Why doesn't that feel normal to you?

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, just don't become obsessed.

Joker_ · Answer

that's normal

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah very normal

eagle1951 · Answer

yes.

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