How to attract a hot guy?

[Anonymous]

I keep attracting average joes. I want a guy that's not just handsome but also a sweet heart. Is it too hard to get guys like that? Like to get good looking AND good personality? I'll admit I am nicer to average joes because I feel more comfortable and bad for them at the same time. However, I usually am not attracted to them as romantic partners. I don't treat average joes and good looking guys the same. Good looking guys I'm very serious and sometimes I don't treat them that great. Is this why I repel them? I just get frustrated that they look like they have a ship load of girls going after them. That's why I don't trust them easily. However is that why I repel them? Should good looking guys be treated as well as anyone else? Like even as well as how people treat disabled people? How to deal with the anxiety and fear of rejection though? How can a girl REALLY attract a hot guy?

[Anonymous]

Well first of all more than likely you have to be good looking yourself. No plain Jane. I’m talking top of the tier hottie. Just cause a lot of men want to nail a girl doesn’t mean she’s hot. If she was they’d be looking to commit to her in a majority of cases. So if you don’t have the looks chances are you’re not getting the looks from the men you’re chasing after. Even if you have a good personality men are usually drawn to women first by looks, then personality comes into play. So maybe you’re getting hit on by average joes because Average Joe’s gym is where you belong.

[Asker]

Actually most of the guys I dated look like models. It's possible that I have looks but not personality. Looks get you in the door but personality is what makes one stay

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe. But it all depends on what you see as a model. A lot of women that are in magazines today shouldn’t even be there but they are because of inclusion, all this body fat positivity movement and so on. It goes the same w men sometimes. So just cause they’re in a magazine doesn’t mean they’re gorgeous or handsome. But you’re right it could be your personality. Here’s my take. The older a woman is who is still so no le, not married w kids, it usually means she has issues. Because like we said looks get you in the door, it’s the personality that makes or breaks it. I’m not saying you’re old old but in the dating market men tend to go for younger women. You’re close to 30. If you honestly think about it do you think you have issues? I don’t just mean minor issues, we all have issues. I mean major red flags.

[Asker]

I look 18 and my sister who is in her mid 30's looks 23. She's not married but she's pretty and she is university educated and did modeling before. Are you saying all men want 21 year olds? What if a women is very attractive looking and is older than the man but looks younger than him? Are you saying women over 40 have no chance?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not saying women over 40 have no chance. They do, but it’s very slim. By that age a lot of women have kids, maybe divorced. A lot of men don’t want all that extra baggage. So at an older age her standards may have to come down some. Yes a lot of men want women who are younger for a number of reasons, fertility being one of them. One of the main reasons to have a better chance of having a healthy child. Women gravitate certain things just like men. For men it’s beauty as well as youth among a few things. A woman’s education or achievements does not make her more appealing to men. That’s something that makes men more attractive to women. You may look 18 but eventually these men will find out your real age.

[Asker]

I don’t think men are that shallow. Imagine if women only dated hot men and not men for their personality.

[Opinion Owner]

What you think vs reality don’t align. It always amazes me how women tell them whatever want or how we think but they still think men don’t think that way. Women are just as shallow in a lot of ways. A lot of them want a man who makes a lot of money, over 6ft, etc. But as men we don’t call women out for that. But when men have preferences we’re called out for it, told we’re misogynistic. That’s why men don’t even talk cause women can’t even listen to what we say or what we want. We’re supposed to do as you say we are, act how women say men are supposed to act. Mindless robots basically.

[BarryLiverstone]

You need to stop being jelly that other girls will find the guy attractive and instead realize that he chooses to be with you. Why would you believe that a good looking guy will not attract other girls after he’s committed to you?

[Nikki1989]

Hot to one person is often very average to someone else. Embrace innovative approaches, and you will have more luck with attracting a quality partner.

[AI Opinion]

First off, I'm here to help make love as smooth as possible, darling! Looks like you want a combo of hottie and sweetie pie, and that’s totally achievable. 😎 Confidence is your best accessory, so don’t let fear of rejection hold you back from being yourself. Treat everyone equally – whether they are average Joes or lookers – because genuine kindness shines bright like a diamond. This could melt even the ice-cold hearts of the hotties! Be flirty, have fun, and remember, beauty is skin-deep! 😉

[Ironic_Method]

You gotta be someone they want.

[zagor]

What do YOU have to offer?