Polls: Relationships

People always make it out to be so simple in these situations, that you will easily be able to recognize someone or something is toxic to your life, and just walk out and move on, but often that toxicity has seeped deep into our veins, and we struggle to just walk away, we make excuses, we convince ourselves that life will be worse without these people or things in our life, and then it's 10 years later and you're still there in it.

What has been the hardest for you to walk away from in your life: a toxic relationship, friend, family, or job and why?

3 years married and she has told him that she wants kids latter!

So why just ask that now or was it more of a teasing question?

He is worried and asked me my opinion which maked it a good question for here! 😂

It seems like people only select a partner purely just base one emotions/feelings and infautation but not seek important qualities such as these for instance, don't actually take the time during the vetting process:

- Does the person even shares similar goals?

- How do they get along with their families or are they all dysfunctional?

- Are you guys compatible in other areas?

- Besides the great feelings and passionate love and sex... yes he/she is the love of your life but what other great qualities they have?

So do you think falling in love is overrated? I get that being in love is a great experience but is it really worth staying when the person if you guys don't share anything in common at all and will then likely have arguments once the infatuation period fades?

Would you say they are physically the most attractive and/or the most beautiful person, or is there someone else? Why or why not?

So there’s this guy that I’m friends with, and we have been friends for sometime. I used to have a crush on him and I admitted to him that I was attracted to him. He said he didn’t feel the same way and I didn’t feel a ways about it so we just moved on. It took me a minute but I finally got over my attraction.

However, this man makes sexual jokes about us engaging in sexual acts, saying he thinks of me when he uses his sex toys, touches my leg, likes to make fun and a lot more. He flirts with me a lot. I catch him staring at me sometimes too, and when I look up sometimes he’ll look away, sometimes he’ll maintain eye contact. More than what a guy friend would do.

However, anytime I jokingly say he likes me he gets unnecessarily defensive about it. Also, he tends to play some songs (love songs or affectionate songs) when I’m around, he tends to do that when he can’t express himself. And he gets jealous when I talk to other guys (romantically or not). Even if it’s for a short spell, he stares at the man. Or if I talk about having another guy friend he gets fairly defensive about that too. But, he talks to girls a lot and has female friends too.

And the one thing I’ve noticed when interacting with his female friends is that they tend to act weird around me. As if they have some type of animosity towards me, but I don’t hang out with them enough for them to even have animosity so I have no idea. I suspect that he may talk about me to them a lot and they don’t like that, and some of them may even like him but he tends to give me a lot of attention. So I’m trying to figure out, is it possible that he likes me?