What are your thoughts on my "Never Had a Girlfriend" video?

[ForevrLonely29]

I am 29 and never had a girlfriend. I created a YouTube video about my situation. What are your thoughts?

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A total of 7 votes were cast: 2 girls and 5 guys. See detailed results

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I will probably re-record it if people cannot get past the "umms" and "you knows" lol

[Fromdusktilldawn]

listen buddy, it already starts with you looking at your peers with jealousy. I feel you, I'm 2 years younger and my only intimate encounter was with an escort, it is frustrating and looking at other people and what they achieven only ruins self confidence. Similar to scrolling on instagram and saying "Yo why is everyone having such a good and perfect life and travelling, I'm so boring", its just putting you down. Also dont think marriage and kids as being your life goal, if you force it, it won't be good.

See it from he positive side, lots of guys end up broke from divorse, get cheated on or got falsely accused of crimes. Money is not the main thing that gets you a girl, money only mainly gets you the bad ones: gold diggers, self entitled princesses, woke Karens etc. You wanna stay away from those, trust me. Approaching in the disco/nightclub or bar also often leads to bad ones.

First I'd say move the girlfriend seeking as a "side quest", trust me they see if you are desperate. Set the focus on yourself: do some sports (set yourself goals), do some nice solo travelling, make a career and make the best of your hobbies.

You gotta beef up your social life, be more around people, join an association, a club, communities. That naturally gets you exposed to more girls and your chances rise. I know its hard (I am shy for example and therefore I hardly join any social groups) but thats the best advice I can give you.

[Sonorous]

Well women really like competence or even the potential for it. And videos like this are just advertising to the world how incompetent you are without there being a meaningful & admirable takeaway on how you'll progress. Which really might not be attractive to them. I'm speaking on general terms.

So I think it would be better if you maybe focused the videos on how you could improve yourself for women. That's what they wanna hear. And ofc first start with your weight. You've gotta lose the weight to catch a lot of women's attention. When women see that you're in shape, it will make them feel safer & like you could protect & provide for them & their offspring. It's like a biologically driven feeling. Would be my first step.

[ForevrLonely29]

Thanks. I have been going to the gym. Not as much as I should. My problem is stamina. I lift weights and then I am out of energy.

[ForevrLonely29]

This is what I look like:
www. girlsaskguys. com /qt/how-do-i-look/q5154203-am-i-really-that-fat

[Sonorous]

No problem. You seem like a genuinely nice guy so I hope you make some progress soon! And if I were you, I'd start with nutrition. When I was getting overweight, I changed my nutrition first to lose weight & started doing compound movements for working out. The change in nutrition will give you a boost in energy & the compound movements will help you establish a good strong foundation to have.

I always like to recommend logging foods that way we can keep track of what we're eating. For instance, today was a cheat day for me. I ate probably 1000 calories in sweets because I wanted to celebrate something with someone. And now I know that I'd need to adjust my future days of eating or even energy expenditure to compensate for the gain. Do that enough while getting enough protein, healthy fats, & fiber & it will be too easy to lose the weight. Also if you substitute sugar with artificial sweeteners.

[wolfcat87]

My first thoughts were that your face is definitely cute, and you have a nice voice. So, those aren't the issue.

Second thought, you just added in software engineer and a good job? So, you're smart and doing well. Hotness just increased.

I don't know why you haven't had a girlfriend. I would have flirted with you and gone on a date with you...

As for the content of the video, I'm really wondering what you've been doing that you have not have a girlfriend... other than that it's good.

Don't worry about what other people have. What they have is not for you. Just worry about what is for you and how to find it.

[Anonymous]

We have heard it all before from you. A video won't help you when you never follow any advice.

[ForevrLonely29]

I am trying to improve myself little by little. What else? And no, I am not lowering my standard.

[Drumlin2001]

Firstly good for you making the video. I was a 35yr old virgin, no real experience at all with women, so inrelate to what you say. Personally I wouldn't re-record, it comes across as heartfelt and whilst there are a lot of mums I wouldn't change it. Just use it as a useful. feedbacl and make an effort in future videos.
My story, having never had a girlfriend until 35 my first relationship didn't last long. But I found someone else, by 40 I was engaged with 2 kids. If I can do it, anyone can do it

[Wood3nWhal3]

First things first, video games aren't doing you any good, throw that shit away. Buy some books, learn about the thought process to becoming the alpha male version of you, the only way to get better at talking to girls is by actually talking to them, so you gotta master the idea that not every girl is gonna be into you. Just like you're not into every girl. It's nothing personal, she's prob just a lesbian and prob wouldn't live up to what you like in a woman (have fun with interactions by dismissing unsuccessful encounters like this until it's second nature) - move on... Most importantly, stop giving a FCK and don't apologize for it cause you have a pet goldfish - so carry on.

[ForevrLonely29]

I really don't play video games at all. I don't even have a console.

[Wood3nWhal3]

You won't make progress until you are completely honest with yourself. Your current look screams GameStop-a-holic

[ForevrLonely29]

I am a coder/software dev.

[Wood3nWhal3]

Nice man, I'm in InfoSec

[Wood3nWhal3]

I get to call ya out on proper sanitation and effective security code analysis lol. Jk jk

[Anonymous]

You can try engaging in conversations with Bisexual women. And women who are into Ploy, too.

A lot of Bisexual women have experience dating women and experience the difficulty of courting a woman. When I dated bisexual women from lgbt, I barely had to court them. My first time was with a bisexual woman.

After that, I tried heterosexual. They usually expect a man to follow the male gender roles and do the courting. Heterosexual women are less open about their sexuality and are very tense.

The Bisexual women I was with were not as choosey. If you don't mind some of the lgbt stuff, they're not that bad. But some of them are dominant and like to be in charge, but they are usually chill, too.

Many guys complain about them because they don't see them as a traditional woman, but if you can get past that, they are pretty fun.

[love_conquers_lust]

Took guts. Are you looking for advice?

[ForevrLonely29]

I don't know... feeling this situation is just going to worsen as I age.

[love_conquers_lust]

That's not what I asked. Are you looking for advice?

[ForevrLonely29]

Not really, but I don't mind listening to what someone wants to say.

[love_conquers_lust]

Then why post this. You looking for a pity party?

[LazerBean]

He is not looking for advice. He's been posting the same thing ever since I've been on this app and has yet to change.

[Anonymous]

Cases like this anger me a lot

[Anonymous]

Good

[ForevrLonely29]

Thanks