I mean its better to just have no secrets. I’d rather not be afraid to share because if its not a secret than it can't be used against me. But when it comes to anyone and any secret, someone will tell someone, whether they discuss your secret with their parent, sibling, friend, or even on this site “anonymously”. Its just better not to have secrets. As for using your secret against you, I don’t know many who do that. But i do know people like to use your fears against you. Say your fear is losing someone. Some people will threaten to leave you just so you do what they want
I’ve never heard this before.
I wouldn’t expect anyone to tell me a secret if they didn’t want to.
It obviously depends on the secret. We should all be allowed to have at least some privacy. There's a huge gap between he use to think your cousin was hot and he has bodies in the fridge. If you are in a long term relationship somethings reveal themselves and if you are paying attention all along nothing should be so shocking.
It’s true. Even in the rare cases in which she might not necessarily go “public” with your baggage, she’ll use the threat of it against you for life. Most women are spiteful and vindictive. Until you figure out how sadistic yours might be, you shouldn’t confess anything to her.
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If she’s inquiring in what one considers to be an a secretive area then it is not secretive. There is smoke 💨 and she’s smelling it.
if she’s not asking then I’m not telling.
If it's a secret you shouldn't tell anyone especially women.
Here's my opinion on this topic , you should never tell certain women your secrets cause what if They had evil intentions & missued your trust an told your secret to your enemy. Really a person should have wisdom to know who has evil intentions & who doesn't - who to be friends with & who not to be friends with.
The thing you need to understand is that she isn't the same person once the relationship is over. A lot of women switch and turn cold as ice, there's been hundreds of songs written about how women turn on you. After the relationship is over they start trashing you to everyone in an attempt to make themselves look good and shift any blame away from themselves. Keep that in mind when you tell your deepest darkest secrets to a woman. One day will use all that stuff to try to destroy you.
I think people need some secrets. My girlfriend is not aware of all my porn preferences. The thing is, I rarely watch porn when we're together, and if we live together, I probably will only watch porn with her. When we watch porn together, I make sure it's something we both like.
I think it is a good policy but sooner or later you have to trust someone.
I disagree. There comes a point when you have to trust a woman with some personal secrets; that’s how love and affection grow. That’s what kinda sucks about love; you have to take the risk of getting hurt eventually.
Never let a woman in your kitchen (head). But always let them think you are. Women will almost always use any info against you. It's just in thier nature.
Once you tell someone a thing, whatever it is, it's not a secret anymore! LOL
There are just some things that you should take to your grave, in my opinion.
"Loose lips sink ships!"
u always have... never been an issue whatsoever
I'm quite selective though
There's an old saying that runs parallel to this. "Familiarity breeds contempt". Your inner-most secrets should be kept to yourself because whoever learns them will lose respect for you.
I don't use my husband's secrets against him. That isn't true love.
We’re good at keeping secrets. And very loyal. At least I am.
Correct. Never tell a woman anything until you can trust her.
If you feel the need to keep secrets while in a relationship, then you are probably not ready for a relationship.
Sharing secrets is how you become intimate with someone. If I am in love with a girl I will tell her whatever she wants to know about me.
Good idea.
Only your wife
