Guys, what are your thoughts, am I just stupid?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy , I really liked him, the day we met was, before his hockey game so we talked and he kissed me, that day I asked what he was looking for and he said it depends on how we get along, which I thought was fair.

I saw him again awhile later, I was incredibly comfortable with him, which is rare for me. Anyways I went to his place and we made out and I gave him a bj. I had never done that before, afterwards we cuddled on the couch and we talked, he travels for work and he let me know he was leaving for work in a few days.

While he was away we still spoke, he also made requests as well and I wanted to make him happy. One of the things he wanted me to wear was a costume for him, so I let him help pick one out and I bought it, he liked the idea of a pink thong so I got that for him, he wanted to see and I did. He told me about certain things he was into as well, they weren't things I liked but again I am an accepting and understand person and I said I would try new things with him. One of those things was me finding another girl to join me in going down on him, which I did , he also liked being puked on and pissing on girls. Those were things I agreed to, to make him happy. While he was away he also make a comment about how he wanted me to be tiny and lose weight so I would be tiny, he suggested I weight 110lbs, he wanted me this way because it would be sexy to make me puke and piss on me. When I got upset he backtracked and said he liked the way I look.

After all of that I ended up only seeing him twice when he got back. In fact as it turns out, he only ever made me believe he wanted me was because he was being nice and didn't want to hurt my feelings, he simply thought I was into giving him bjs. He also said he was just some guy I gave them to and that was it. I was completely devastated when he was saying that. I told him I was loyal and waiting for him, he just thought I only wanted to please one guy.

I feel stupid and used.

Updates

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For the record, I never did puke on him, never had him piss on me (he had wanted to record him doing it too) and never did what he wanted with the other girl.

He also says we are friends, and said to trust him that when he's in town again we'll get together... this is after I blew up at him... I try everyday to figure out why I deserved that... all I got was that he didn't mean to hurt me...

[Twistboy101]

Lol as soon as I saw the words "puked on" I literally laughed and said what the fuck. Don't do weird ass shit like that. And don't be so naive. Learn a lesson from that. Be smarter. Be better.

[WiseTurtle]

As I'm reading this I have this feel to kick his ass first and then to pinch your ears for falling into this stupid trap. What a useless piece of garbage he truly is.

[Asker]

I honestly do feel stupid, he said he was only looking for fun after I confronted him and I asked him more than once what he was looking for. He was never honest with me, it was okay to lie and make me believe something rather than tell me the truth. Had I known that's all he was after I wouldn't have done anything.

[Whatthefluff]

That sounds sort of manipulative of him. Please don't do things just for other people.

[eagle1951]

well you fell into that pretty fast if you ask me

[Asker]

I believed his lies and I feel like the worlds biggest idiot.

[eagle1951]

it happens trust me. some guys are good at it

[Asker]

I had never done any of those things so they were all firsts for me. I would have never done anything for him had he told me the truth from the start.

[eagle1951]

well like i said there are guys out there, that are really good at fooling ladies

[Dantheman101]

You actually pucked on him

[Asker]

No I never did.

[Dantheman101]

So all you did was wear a pink thong for him and a bj

[Asker]

I bought a costume to wear for him and sent him pictures (he was away when he said he wanted me to have one). The last time I saw him was when I picked him up from his friends house because he had been drinking, he came to my place where he got another one, also showered together, which again is something id never done, then we just slept in my bed. after I took him to get his car he then said we will do dinner together, where we could do take out or cook, hang out and watch a movie, which he said was a promise... that's the last time I saw him. I did firsts with someone I thought cared about me but that was just to not hurt my feelings.

[Dantheman101]

You got away lightly

[Asker]

Maybe I'm more mad at myself but I can't figure why he did it. .. i can't figure out how he thought lying to me was sparing my feelings. It was a big deal to me doing all those things and then to find out he never liked or cared about me in the first place was hurtful... after everything he apologized (called when I wouldn't accept it over text). I don't think he is because he doesn't think what he did was wrong. He says we're friends and to trust him that we'll get coffee when he's in town around Christmas... why would he even bother when I'm not going to do any of those things for him and he knows.

[Dantheman101]

If you was serious would you have actually done those things

[Asker]

We didn't do any of it because I said No, I genuinely meant it when I said I would try new things with him. I'm glad I only did a few things... I've never even slept with anyone so regardless of how little they were to him it was a big deal to me.

[Dantheman101]

Yeah I am sure it is giving your first bj and letting him see you in thongs

[Asker]

No we also showered together and he slept over

[Dantheman101]

So he seen you naked that was a big step

[Asker]

Yes it was for me... i feel so stupid and used

[Dantheman101]

At least you never had sex

[Asker]

Everyday I struggle with figuring out what I did so horribly wrong that I deserved that.

[vittle1999]

Glad u realised it.